Not Even!!!!

[KissMeKenley]

Tell me if you think this is right!!!!

My husband and I kept fighting about money all the time so we decided to make a plan that both of us agreed on. We decided that I was to give him 400.00 out of each check to cover our rent which is 800.00 and then the rest of the money from my check was mine to spend or put aside for our disneymoon expenses in April.

I spoke to him this morning and he was like " Oh, no Kenley, that does not start until next month. We need your whole check this month!!!

I am ticked!!!! At first he did not want me to work at all and now that I am he wants to take my money too!!!

I am getting really tired of fighting about this. I could care less about the money aspect, it is the respect issue. He treats me like I am a child who needs to be monitored!!!

I don't want to lie to him, but I could easily go open up a new account and deposit my checks there and give him what he wanted in the first place.

Advice Please, this is really starting to get to me. Several times my parents have given us money and he automatically deposits it and then I have to ask to spend it if I need something. I am thinking that from now on, I will just not tell him when my mother gives me anything.

He even got mad when I spent money on gifts for his parents!!!

HELP!!!!

 

[Penny12]

Well if it was me I'd open my own account, that way, even if you were still paying over the exact same amount as you are now it would be <i>you</i> be making the decision about the contribution rather than DH making the decision for you. If you feel you're being treated like a child then this will also make you feel better as you are taking more control of the situation - but I wouldn't recommend lying about it. I'd just do it and tell him why, it could just be that your DH doesn't realise how strong your feelings are on the matter

Like I say, that's just what I'd do, obviously you know your own circumstances and relationships best so only you can really choose!

 

[WDWfan uk]

... sounds like there's a control problem here. I think you need to be very clear how you feel about this - and I agree with Penny that you should open your own account.

I think I would open up an account, and then have a calm chat when you are both relaxed and explain (calmly and constructively) that you want to have equal say in how your finances are dealt with and to that end you have opened your own account.

If you don't have your own account, your resentment that he is running the show may increase.

Good luck - arguments about money are never a good thing and I hope you can resolve this so that you are both happy with the outcome.

 

[KissMeKenley]

Thanks to the whole TWO people who actually replied and did not just read my situation.LOL!!! There is a control problem and I have already told him I opened the account and that was the end of it. Thanks so much for the advice guys!!