Non-Smokers Would You Date A Smoker

[momto2girls]

No way. We wouldn't get past go.

 

[Nikel]

Blech, no. I don't like being in proximity to smokers, let alone kissing them!

That.

 

[aprilgail2]

No way! I wouldn't even DATE one nevermind marry one-its repulsive!! The thought of kissing a smoker turns my stomach!

 

[crz4mm2]

No.

 

[Disney Ella]

No way! The smell of smoke has always made me nauseous and given me a headache. Now that I have asthma, there is no way I could stand it and even smelling it on someone's clothes is enough to cause problems for me.

 

[MM27]

I would not date a smoker. I find cigarette smoke repulsive.

 

[OK!]

I'm a nonsmoker, and honestly, it would depend on the guy, whether or not I would date him. If his personality were amazing and the chemistry was there, etc., I certainly wouldn't reject him outright because he had a bad habit, even though it may not be a desireable one.

 

[arminnie]

I would never insist someone quit smoking for the privilege of dating me- how presumptous, controlling, and rude to insist that someone else change their behavior just for me!

That would be me.

I think of it the other way around. Why should I change my behavior (avoiding smoke) to enable an addict?

 

[Feralpeg]

I tried dating a smoker once, but I couldn't get over the fact that kissing him was awful. His breath was terrible. I felt like I was kissing an ashtray. Too bad, he was a nice guy.

 

[disneysteve]

So, would it be an issue for you and is it a deal breaker if it's an issue?

If I were not happily married, NO, I would never date a smoker (never did before I got married either). I don't smoke. I rarely go places where smoking is allowed. I don't allow smoking in my home or car. I don't even go to people's homes if they smoke indoors. Seems like that would make dating a smoker pretty pointless.

 

[Disney Doll]

DH was a smoker when we first started dating. Didn't faze me much because he never smoked in front of me. He seemed to be a very considerate smoker.

It took me 3 months to realize that eh ahd quit, because his behavior never changed, and since I rarely saw him smoke, it was just never on my radar.

I noticed one day that his car ashtray had no cigarette butts in it and kddingly said "Oh, you emptied your ashtray before you picked me up. How sweet!" and he replied "I quit smoking 3 motnhs ago".

News to me!!!!

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I married a smoker, but was used to the smell because both parents smoked.

He smokes outside, even in the winter.

Same here

 

[Stacerita]

I don't date smokers.

 

[phillybeth]

That would be me.

I think of it the other way around. Why should I change my behavior (avoiding smoke) to enable an addict?

Then don't change your behavior- don't date one, don't have one as a friend. You shouldn't feel any more pressured to change your behavior than you should pressure someone else.

 

[Rence]

I would never insist someone quit smoking for the privilege of dating me- how presumptous, controlling, and rude to insist that someone else change their behavior just for me! If it were that big of a deal breaker, it never would have gotten to the point of dating.

Then don't change your behavior- don't date one, don't have one as a friend. You shouldn't feel any more pressured to change your behavior than you should pressure someone else.

This thread is not about changing behaviour - it is not the "How to demand that someone quit smoking so that you can date them thread!"

There are a lot of considerations that go into whether or not someone will date someone else - people may only wish to date someone younger (or older) than themselves - others may wish to only date someone who shared their religious or political beliefs. It is not about changing these people - it is about the criteria that one uses when selecting a prospective date.

There are many people who do not care to date a smoker for a variety of reasons - while others who don't smoke would be fine with dating a smoker - as this thread has clearly shown.

No one is asking the smoker to stop smoking - but one who chooses to smoke has to realize that there are many folks out there who choose not to date a smoker - choices made all around.

 

[Charade]

I'm engaged to a smoker who just recently decided to quit. She only smoked outside (even in the winter) and never in my car (only hers). She didn't smoke a lot and the smell was usually not noticable. I'm glad she's quitting. It's been about 2 weeks. My first wife was a smoker and it really wasn't a problem either. We have a friend who's a chain smoker of sorts and she smokes in her apartment. I HATE going there and so does my dfi. We both have to take a shower after we visit.

 

[Tinijocaro]

I always said I wouldn't date a smoker and I certainly wouldn't marry one. Well, of course I fell in love with and married a smoker. He quit during our second year of marriage and has been a non-smoker for 16 years. He will smoke an occasional cigar, maybe once every two years.

 

[ZPT1022]

Never. DH and I met in high school and he used to smoke. The night that I met him was at a party at a friend's house and they all went out front for a smoke. He pulled out a cigarette and lit up and thought he was awesome. I looked at him and said "I'm not impressed, that's disgusting" He never smoked cigarettes again after that. He will have the occasional cigar but for some reason that doesn't bother me. Maybe because it's more in the 3-5 cigars a year range

 

[cteddiesgirl]

When I met my ex-fiance, he smoked an occasional cigar outside or in bars only. When we got back together after a 3 month break-up, he had started smoking clove cigarettes more often. As long as he smoked only outside or in bars, I was fine. But I made him brush his teeth afterwards.

Personally, I never will date a serious smoker. It stinks, it's disgusting and a health hazard.

 

[rparmfamily]

Dealbreaker--they wouldn't even get a first date! Major turnoff!

Luckily DH and I are both non-smokers. We grew up in smoking homes.