Non-Smokers Would You Date A Smoker

[sweetandsassyfl]

This thread was inspired by the smoking or non-smoking restaurants. I am a non-smoker and I prefer non-smoking restaurants. However, I am head over heels in love with a smoker. It wasn't even an issue in my decision on whether to date him or not. So, would it be an issue for you and is it a deal breaker if it's an issue?

 

[mickeyboat]

I am not faced with this question (and hope I am never faced with it), but I can't imagine myself falling in love with a smoker. The smell is a real turn-off to me.

Denae

 

[happygirl]

I would never date a smoker, unless they were willing to quit cold turkey

 

[java]

Well for me it would be a deal breaker. Occasional drunk smoking not a big deal. Chain smoker big deal and a deal breaker. Thankfully dh doesn't smoke so it is a non-issue now.

 

[grinningghost]

Nope. I've grown so accustomed to life without smoke, when I get near it, I really hate it. It sticks to your hair, clothes, walls, furniture, car interior. No thanks. Not to mention that if I really fell in love (which I won't, I'm married BTW) with the guy, I would always worry about his health. Life is short and precarious enough without adding smoking issues to the whole thing.

 

[Diznotyzed]

Deal breaker. Wouldn't enjoy being close to someone if they smelled like smoke.

 

[Kath2003]

Nope - not a chance. There's nothing more of a turn-off.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would not date a smoker and it would be a deal breaker for me. I have asthma and it would be terrible for my health.

 

[Hercules10]

Only if she were a hottie...with a lot of money...and her dad owned a brewery...and she had season tickets to the Cowboys.

 

[Pooh67_68]

I married a smoker, but was used to the smell because both parents smoked.

He smokes outside, even in the winter.

 

[Honu]

Nope. Never. I avoid smokers at all costs.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I am a non-smoker married to a smoker (and yes he smoked when we were dating). He is a very anti-smoking smoker, but can't seem to kick the addiction even with prescriptions and such. DH does not smoke in the house or in our vehicles. I swear I can never smell it on him because he practically showers after each one. People are always surprised to find out he smokes, seriously you would never guess.

 

[cepmom]

I married a smoker....DH has smoked for years. I don't like that he smokes. I am concerned for his health and I don't like the smell, but it wasn't a deal breaker for me....he's a great guy!

 

[KyraS]

Never! I wish I would have taped what years of smoking did to the walls of my dad's bedroom after he passed away. If the walls looked like they did and literally dripped nicotine I can't imagine what his lungs looked like. Horrible doesn't even begin to cover it.

 

[Snow_White]

Sorry, never. Luckily I'm married to a nonsmoker.

 

[ecuagoddess]

No, I wouldn't. My husband quit before we started dating seriously (he was already starting the process of quitting when we met). I could never stand to be around him and I didn't even consider letting him meet DD smelling like an ashtray. So he quit, we're married now and all is good.
If he wouldn't have wanted to quit, I would have respected his decision, but we wouldn't be together. Quitting for someone else is not the right way to go about it.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

I would never date a smoker, unless, of course, they were willing to immediately quit for me. The smoking would make intimate occasions icky. It would get constantly annoying to be segregated from him at parties (and in my own home) when he'd be banished to the outside for smoking purposes. And besides, I could never attach myself in a long term committment to someone who would eventually end up as nothing more than a drain on my health insurance, wasting away into a coughing mess and leaving myself and our potentially genetically predisposed offspring to pick up the pieces.

 

[Rence]

I have some friends with teens and I have gotten into the smoking dicussion with them. I try to point out the non-health issues - Teens have heard all about the health issues and teens think they are immortal - so they have little impact.

One issue that seems to get their attention is this one. That if you are a smoker - you have greatly reduced the size of the dating pool.

The vast majority of people (even young people) are non-smokers. While most smokers don't object to dating a (tolerant) non-smoker - many non-smokers won't consider dating a smoker. I point out that if they become a smoker - they have just wiped out a large part of the dating pool.

To a teen this is a big deal - and it gets them thinking.

 

[ducklite]

Nope. The smell of smoke makes me physically ill and the gook in the smoke aggravates my asthma.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I couldn't. It's not even just the smell...smoking is a huge turn-off for me.