No wedding reception--do you send a gift?

[DisneyBeagle]

If you have a very dear friend (have been friends since elementary school) that gets married, do you send a card or a gift even if there's no reception.

The couple eloped one day and didn't have any form of a reception.

What would you do? Do only people that have receptions get gifts/cards?

Also, does an email take the place of a card?

UPDATE (I guess not really an update, but here's the full story):
I was the one that eloped about 10 month ago. I have a group of friends that have been friends for about 20-25 years (since we were young kids). We email each other several times a week, but we only see each other every few months because we are all so busy. After my hubby and I eloped, I did receive congratulations from them all via email. PLEASE BELIEVE ME THAT THIS IS NOT ABOUT RECEIVING GIFTS--I feel like a petty b*#^ch for even bringing this up, but it has been bothering me lately. I have given them all gifts for their weddings and I threw one of them a baby shower in the past couple of months. Again, this is not about receiving gifts, I would be thrilled to have received a card from them or even have them say "hey let's go to lunch to celebrate." I guess that I expected too much from them.

I guess I am probably overreacting. Thanks for listening.

 

[Beth76]

If you have a very dear friend

Yep, "very dear friend" gets a wedding present. Casual acquaintance, maybe just a card.

ha ha! I must be psychic!!

 

[dzorn]

A Close friend I would be tempted to throw her a belated shower.

Denise in MI

 

[lulugirl]

I would send a gift.

 

[DisneyBeagle]

Wow BETH76, you are good to answer my question before I even post it...you are psychic. Do you see me winning the lottery in the future?

 

[Kimberle]

Yes, of cource I would. A Wedding gift is a *gift* for their future life, not a "repayment" for your dinner.

 

[miss missy]

I owuld send on. I eloped. MIL sent annoucements, we got a lot of gifts through the mail.

 

[Chattyaholic]

If it was a close friend I would definitely give a card and gift, and if it was a very, very close friend I might also throw them a small celebration.

 

[alldiz]

Yes, of cource I would. A Wedding gift is a *gift* for their future life, not a "repayment" for your dinner.

not even takeout

no really.....
close friend....definately a gift....
maybe gift certificate to their favorite restaurant
kerri

 

[Disney Doll]

A very close friend...of course I would. I'd want to recognize and celebrate their happiness. Whether or not I get to go to a party has no bearing on that.

A casual acquaintance...I'd probably send a card or a small gift such as a flower arrangement.

 

[dcgrumpy]

DH and I eloped in Las Vegas. we received gifts from close friends and family members.

 

[mickeyboat]

I agree with everyone else. I would definitely send a gift to a good friend. I might also send a card to an acquaintance or distant relative.

And Beth, can you look into your crystal ball and tell me what Santa is bringing me for Christmas?

Denae

 

[mickeyboat]

DH and I eloped in Las Vegas. we received gifts from close friends and family members.

I was at the Flamingo last week, and had a room that overlooked the habitat area. On Saturday afternoon, I saw four or five weddings going on. They were beautiful. Even though I could not hear what was going on, I still got teary-eyed.

Where was your wedding?

Denae

 

[icebrat001]

yep, send a gift.

 

[Erie Islands]

Also, does an email take the place of a card?

Never!! I can't stand e-mailed cards of any kind...too impersonal. Also, we eloped and we received many gifts.

 

[Beth76]

And Beth, can you look into your crystal ball and tell me what Santa is bringing me for Christmas?

The future looks snowy.

 

[mickeyboat]

The future looks snowy.

I love you, you know it? Thanks a million.

Denae

 

[dcgrumpy]

I was at the Flamingo last week, and had a room that overlooked the habitat area. On Saturday afternoon, I saw four or five weddings going on. They were beautiful. Even though I could not hear what was going on, I still got teary-eyed.

Where was your wedding?

Denae

We ended up getting married at the County Marriage Burea. I wanted to get married by Elvis or something as equally tacky, but DH wanted no part of that.

We looked into having it at MGM. We met with the coordinator, it was a whole big package with flowers and a piano player for 3 hours. It seemed lovely but since it was just the two of us we thought it would be silly for us to sit in a room with some guy playing the piano for 3 hours.

 

[ducklite]

Absolutely I'd send a gift!

Anne

 

[disneyred]

I would send a gift .... and I have !!