Sorry for the long post. I was told to do a lot of research so below is my analysis for us 
I am new to this forum and planning our first trip to Disney World. I have read a good bit. Still looking for some guidance. We are looking for the most off-peak time in 2017. I have zeroed in on 11-18th November. Kid who will be 4 and family of 3 has some dietary restrictions (one vegan, one gluten free).
We would like to visit the 4 parks and not interested in a hopper. So 5 days plus 2 days for travel and misc. activities.
We were thinking of renting a car (flexibility to leave park when needed, arrive a little late if needed and off-site dining options for dinner). I understand I have to factor in cost of rental, gas, toll, resort or hotel parking in many cases and parking at Disney.
I looked at the benefits of being in an on site hotel (cost is not much of an issue but don't want to spend if not worth it in our case). I looked at these items:
Free airport shuttle - this is tempting but our friend said the shuttle made so many stops it took a long time and they received their luggage 6 hrs later.
Magic bands - I checked the calendar to see magic hours typically these would be in the evening and we plan to leave the park around 3 pm for wind down for little one and early dinner outside since child will sleep around 7-7:30pm. Early morning we wouldn't be able to make it most likely. Also we don't plan to shop at Disney.
Breakfast- not included at many on site resorts and we don't plan on buying a dining plan. So perhaps an off site hotel with continental breakfast or in the room will work fine.
Free resort Transportation to parks - this one is where I am stuck. Is it worth it for us to be on site for this one or if we go during above mentioned dates then getting rental car and being at the park by 8:30am will suffice?
I have a bunch of Marriott and Hilton points and was thinking of Marriott Springhill suites but leaning towards double tree suites and embassy suites for the separate room since kiddo will sleep early.
Also can get spg pts so perhaps the Sheraton vistana resort esp with no resort and parking fee?
Friend stayed at Wyndham for like $700 for a week for 2 bedroom so thinking about that but was hoping to use points if possible.
Suggestions for accommodation please.

I am new to this forum and planning our first trip to Disney World. I have read a good bit. Still looking for some guidance. We are looking for the most off-peak time in 2017. I have zeroed in on 11-18th November. Kid who will be 4 and family of 3 has some dietary restrictions (one vegan, one gluten free).
We would like to visit the 4 parks and not interested in a hopper. So 5 days plus 2 days for travel and misc. activities.
We were thinking of renting a car (flexibility to leave park when needed, arrive a little late if needed and off-site dining options for dinner). I understand I have to factor in cost of rental, gas, toll, resort or hotel parking in many cases and parking at Disney.
I looked at the benefits of being in an on site hotel (cost is not much of an issue but don't want to spend if not worth it in our case). I looked at these items:
Free airport shuttle - this is tempting but our friend said the shuttle made so many stops it took a long time and they received their luggage 6 hrs later.
Magic bands - I checked the calendar to see magic hours typically these would be in the evening and we plan to leave the park around 3 pm for wind down for little one and early dinner outside since child will sleep around 7-7:30pm. Early morning we wouldn't be able to make it most likely. Also we don't plan to shop at Disney.
Breakfast- not included at many on site resorts and we don't plan on buying a dining plan. So perhaps an off site hotel with continental breakfast or in the room will work fine.
Free resort Transportation to parks - this one is where I am stuck. Is it worth it for us to be on site for this one or if we go during above mentioned dates then getting rental car and being at the park by 8:30am will suffice?
I have a bunch of Marriott and Hilton points and was thinking of Marriott Springhill suites but leaning towards double tree suites and embassy suites for the separate room since kiddo will sleep early.
Also can get spg pts so perhaps the Sheraton vistana resort esp with no resort and parking fee?
Friend stayed at Wyndham for like $700 for a week for 2 bedroom so thinking about that but was hoping to use points if possible.
Suggestions for accommodation please.