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[Tigge50447]

Got the answers I needed, Thanks everyone

 

[disneyfans95]

I think it all depends on what stage they are in their relationship. Meaning, if they are new to this deal, then cut ties..

There is nothing wrong with most fetishes. (sure some cross a line). From what you said, many people have that. However, if your SO does not like it, it is not fair to push it on him/her.

That said, people should always try something once to see if they like it. Sounds like your friend gave some ground with the toe painting and stuff, and was not for her. No shame, no foul. The boyfriend needs to grasp that, accept it, or if not, find a new relationship if it is that key for him.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

I think it all depends on what stage they are in their relationship. Meaning, if they are new to this deal, then cut ties..

There is nothing wrong with most fetishes. (sure some cross a line). From what you said, many people have that. However, if your SO does not like it, it is not fair to push it on him/her.

That said, people should always try something once to see if they like it. Sounds like your friend gave some ground with the toe painting and stuff, and was not for her. No shame, no foul. The boyfriend needs to grasp that, accept it, or if not, find a new relationship if it is that key for him.

Agreed.

 

[Tigge50447]

thanks

 

[diznygirl]

actually she was okay with the what she "gave in" on but she still feels him pushing for more. She's worried if she doesn't "give" him what he "needs/wants" he'll look elsewhere. I guess she just feels pressured....

It doesn't sound like a good fit. She shouldn't feel bad about not wanting the same things he wants. And she shouldn't feel bad about ending the relationship.

 

[ajk912]

OH, you MUSTTTTTTTTTT elaborate more. We won't tell!!!!!! Is this inapproriate>>>

Anyway, since all we know is he likes painting toenails and has a shoe preference, well, that doesn't seem that bad, so yeah, she seems to be overreacting. I am sure we all know that as we get older it gets harder to find a guy, so I wouldn't be so quick to break up (as we are in our teens and twenties!)

 

[erincon23]

Not that I really want to know, but I'm having a hard time imagining what things to do with feet would a) turn someone on and b) make someone else uncomfortable. Please don't tell me.

 

[KandD]

Not that I really want to know, but I'm having a hard time imagining what things to do with feet would a) turn someone on and b) make someone else uncomfortable. Please don't tell me.

I'm having a hard time imagining as well but I DO want to know (does that make me weird??)!!!!

 

[Tigge50447]

it's kinda sad because other then this they are both happy together. They have the same goals, sense of humor, work eithics...

I guess I'm curious as to why he can't tone it down and compromise with her. Will he die if he can't get exactly what he wants or is it that important to throw the rest of it away.

I like belly buttons but I don't go around licking random people's belly buttons, lol....... just saying..

 

[MushyMushy]

I know somebody with this particular, er, taste. It's not exactly something they can help or control. If your friend isn't willing to meet him farther than she is, I think she should break up with him. The person I know who's like this feels a good bit of shame and goes to great lengths to hide it. Without knowing the details, it sounds to me like this might end up happening with your friend and her guy.

I couldn't be with a guy who had certain tastes. There's no shame in them liking different things, but how long can you reasonably expect them to go without or only go halfway?

 

[Tigge50447]

I'm having a hard time imagining as well but I DO want to know (does that make me weird??)!!!!

Google it... that's what I did after she told me a few.

 

[Christine]

Not that I really want to know, but I'm having a hard time imagining what things to do with feet would a) turn someone on and b) make someone else uncomfortable. Please don't tell me.

Me too. While I think I would find that satisfying someone's foot fetish would be tedious and boring for me, I'm trying to imagine what someone could ask me to do with my feet that would make me really uncomfortable. The only thing that would bug me is if if were a "constant" focus and the feet were "central" all the time. It would just bore me.

 

[KandD]

Google it... that's what I did after she told me a few.

Interesting...I googled it. I really don't have any advice but if it makes her that uncomfortable and it is something that he can not live without then I don't see it working.

 

[ajk912]

Good luck to your friend working it out!

 

[MikeNY]

As most people know, relationships are all about compromise. It sounds like your friend is compromising by giving in to some of his ideas. He also needs to compromise and give up on certain ideas if she doesn't feel comfortable with them. If he can't do that, it doesn't sound like this relationship is going to work out.

I have to say that I'm just as curious as many others here to learn what "other" things he's talking about! LOL

 

[Tigge50447]

got some suggestions thanks

 

[MushyMushy]

As most people know, relationships are all about compromise. It sounds like your friend is compromising by giving in to some of his ideas. He also needs to compromise and give up on certain ideas if she doesn't feel comfortable with them. If he can't do that, it doesn't sound like this relationship is going to work out.

I have to say that I'm just as curious as many others here to learn what "other" things he's talking about! LOL

I don't know a whole lot, but for the person I know, it's just the amount of focus. It's everything to him, and just plain normal doesn't do it for him.

Oh and he wants to be literally walked on by a woman in spiked heels. I could NEVER do that! I think he might be pretty extreme.

 

[Tigge50447]

thanks

 

[Rora]

OP- It sounds like your friend has definitely tried to make this work.

If she's to the point where she feels incredibly uncomfortable, maybe it's time to move on.

Also, I'm not sure if this would "fix" a fetish but could counseling help him? Maybe if they went to counseling together they could work through this? It stinks that their relationship is great, minus this, but unfortunately, you can't be made to feel uncomfortable your whole life.

Best of luck to her, him, and you!

 

[handinpocket]

Strange topic for a WDW chat board.