Need to vent......

[cccm]

I need to vent and DH just doesn't get why I am a little peeved.

Took DD to Walmart to get plastic eggs today for hunt tomorrow. While there she said to me that FIL Girlfriend told her that parents help out the Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy because they are too busy. So she says there is no Easter Bunny or Tooth Fairy, correct.

I never lie to DD so I told her that she is correct there is none. She asked if Dad or I was the Easter Bunny, I told her I was. She asked if Dad or I was Tooth Fairy, I told her Dad was.

What is this lady, FIL Girlfriend, doing telling my child something like that! Perhaps I am overreacting a little and all of you will straighten me out.

Right now I just want to dope slap DH and not let DD around this lady again.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

That was very rude of her to tell your DD. She was definitely crossing a line there. I would be upset too. Hopefully, the next thing she tells her won't be about the birds and the bees!

 

[mommasita]

OOOH I would be angry as well.

DD8 knows the truth..She asked, and I felt as you, I could not lie. She really knew on her own, and that is sad enough..

I would have a word with him, maybe too late on this, but there are many other things he should mind his own about.

 

[ilovejack02]

Id be 10 kinds of fired up. To be fair, maybe your DD asked her about it first and she felt like she couldnt lie. BUTTTT she should have just kept her big fat mouth shut.

 

[Pop Daddy]

You should have just kept lying

 

[cccm]

Oh no not the Birds and the Bees!!! I am dreading that conversation.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

Oh no not the Birds and the Bees!!! I am dreading that conversation.

Maybe you won't have to have the conversation at all. She might just beat you to it.

 

[hentob]

That would anger me. She had no right to say what she said to your daughter.

 

[UrsulasShadow]

I don't care how many people tell my kids evil things about tooth fairy, easter bunny, santa, etc....they know the truth from ME! We DO believe in fairies, we DO, we DO... (oh, my kids are 17 and 18, and would never break my heart by saying they didn't believe...great kids, huh?).

Avoid the evil, nasty, magic-killer.

 

[minniecarousel]

uh...if that lady is around tomorrow, I'd find a time to take her aside and ask her to not de-myth anything else for DD. Tell her that you'd like to be the one to take care of those questions. In the future, IF your DD asks her, she should tell her to ask her mother (or father). Your DD may not have even asked, this gal may have just offered her opinion w/o being asked.

Nip this one in the bud!

 

[DISUNC]

You should have just kept lying

...and told her that FIL GF is a DRUNK!!!!

 

[Pop Daddy]

...and told her that FIL GF is a DRUNK!!!!

edzaclty, and everyone is happy

 

[momrek06]

You should have just kept lying

Yup, I agree with POP for sure!!!

 

[mommasita]

edzaclty, and everyone is happy

 

[cccm]

I couldn't lie to DD. That is one of the foundations of our relationship.

Luckily they won't be around. Since he has gotten girlfriend he doesn't come visit as much. I wish MIL was still alive.

The drunk thing cracks me up!

 

[disykat]

Is it possible your dd was asking questions like "why are all those people buying candy - doesn't the Easter Bunny bring it?" or "why are we dying eggs, doesn't the Easter Bunny bring those?" and she said "sometimes the parents help out?" I guess I'm confused about what you're so upset about. It doesn't sound like she said there wasn't an Easter Bunny, dd got that info out of you.

Of course I don't know your situation with this woman, but kids do have a way of trying to worm information out of people they think might be a good target. My father reported to me that my children tried with him, but he didn't fall for it after being tricked into letting Santa out of the bag when I was a little girl.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I think you are waaaaaay overreacting. If this is the worst thing your FIL's girlfriend or wife does...you are doing good!!

 

[Aidensmom]

If she just said the parents help out, I wouldn't be upset about it. I tell my own child that and he very much believes in the Easter Bunny. We set out a basket and empty plastic eggs every year, real reason being I'm cheap and want to re-use them, but I've always told my son we do it to help out the Bunny so he doesn't run out of those things.

 

[cccm]

Darn.......maybe she was trying to fake me out and I missed it.

 

[fan_of_small_world]

Maybe I'm just arguing semantics here, so if that's all it is, then I apologize; but you mentioned twice that you won't lie to your daughter, so you told her the truth. But, technically, you've been "lying" to her all along by saying that there is an Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, etc.

I guess I'm just not sure why you seem so adament about not lying. Again, I'm not trying to flame you at all, I'm just not understanding why you didn't just make something up, or even just say, yes, we do help them out sometimes. (I was all ready to give this as the explanation at Christmas in case either of mine found the hidden presents!)

And FTR, I would be very upset in your situation too. It's really not right that she did that to you!