Need some consolation...

[disneymomof2boyz]

Hi to all!
(Before I post this, I want everyone to understand that I am NOT complaining or being unappreciative of what a blessing children are.)

I just found out that I'm pregnant yesterday. We were NOT trying to have a baby, in fact I got pregnant with an IUD in. I am in complete shock and don't even know where to start with my thoughts.

One dissapointment that I'm having (Disney related) is that we are having our annual trip this December and we were VERY excited b/c this would be the first year both my kids and husband would be able to ride together on most things as a family. I feel like my kids will be very disapointed in me not riding, and that breaks my heart. I feel as if I'm cheating them of their experiece.

I just need some words of encouragement....

Thanks

 

[GoofyG]

What a BLESSING that God has given you! It may be a shocker, but in a few days you will see how special this gift is! You will still be able to ENJOY plenty of rides! I was able to enjoy the rides with my girls, and if I couldn't they had as much fun with their grandparents! Your kids will also enjoy the trip and just the time with their parents. Just think how special your youngest DS will be being a Big Brother! I also had the feelings of not fully enjoying my trip with the girls, and them not getting the time to ride the rides with me. They loved being able to wave to me! I even did the safari, just sat up front! Yes I did miss the roller coasters, but this past Sept. I made it up!

ENJOY YOUR TRIP!

 

[MousekaMaddi]

lucky u,,, wish it were me....

 

[MrsGoofyMitchell]

First of all, congratulations!! I know you must be shocked right now though.

I went to Disney when I was 4 months pregnant and rode a ton of rides! The only rides I really didn't go on were the roller coasters and TOT.

You still will have a fantastic time!!

 

[teachermom]

CONGRATULATIONS! My youngest was quite a surprise too. It may take awhile to get used to the idea of having another baby. honestly could not imagine that my would have felt complete without my youngest daughter.She was born hearing but became deaf due to a genetic disorder. I have learned so much from her. Keira has taught so many people so much. Even her cochlear implant speech therapist and the way CI kids are taught at Pennsylvania School for the Deaf. Her teachers and the administrators never knew how well a child with a CI would be able to hear and speak. My third child is a blessing and I know yours will be too!

 

[ToddyLu]

I am with Mousekamaddi...me, too. Turned 40 today (not as bad as turning 30) and would love a baby. Congratulations! I am sure you will have a wonderful time and enjoy every minute in the World. My brother is the breeder in our family--DH and I do not have children--brother and his wife have 5 of their own, ages 15 to 3 months. So this year we are taking my parents with us--an adult only trip since I am sure my nieces and nephew will take them next time. Best of luck to you

 

[amandaraye]

Congratulations! After the shock wears off your doubts wil wash away. I think it's perfectly normal to be somewhat diappointed your vacation plans have to be tweaked a bit. There are plenty of rides you can still anjoy safely. Like the other poster said, your kids can wave to you from the ride and you'll get better pictures of them that way. Yu're going to have a great time! I wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy!

 

[AngieWin]

Congratulations!! I need to change my ticker below from a vacation ticker, to a pregnancy ticker Our unplanned baby #5 is due 2 weeks after our planned spring break trip (that is now postponed).

I see that your youngest is 3 and unless he is very tall, you wouldnt be riding most of the offlimit rides with him anyway. Most of the family rides that you can all ride together should be safe for pgy (if I remember correctly!).

Take this opportunity to celebrate your last big vacation as a family of 4 and get the boys excited about their favorite things that they can share with their new baby brother/sister on your next Disney vacation as a family of 5!

 

[Carlyzmom]

It is a shock now, but whe he/she is born you won't know how you ever lived without them. That being said - I would freak out too. But you are young, so it will work out fine. Congrats!!

 

[Kaler131]

They grow soooooo fast! Before you know it, the newest addition to your family will be sitting next to you on EE...that was the case for me in Sept. It seems like my DS5 was just a baby and now he's riding roller coasters with me!

 

[SLK1]

Hang in there! When I got pregnant with my fourth, it was such a surprise that I went into a pretty serious depression. In my mind, I was DONE. My youngest was going off to kindergarten and I was excited about the possiblities of what I could finally do. Funny how things change. Anyway, I went in for an amnio and while they were using the sonogram wand to find a spot where they could insert the needle, I saw her little foot. And it kept sneaking into the picture. And it was then in that amnio room that I realized my good fortune, I realized what a blessing I was being given (and yes, a challenge too!), and now, she is 18-months-old, and our entire family cannot imagine life without this little surprise.

I can't tell you to be excited...that has to come from within, but please give yourself time to feel what you need to feel - whether that is disappointment or anger or even joy, you are entitled to your feelings and feelings are neither right nor wrong. And, once you allow yourself to experience all those feelings, you will eventually come to accept this gift and welcome the miracle of this baby.

Congratulations! Lastly, don't worry about Disney. You'll have lots of years to enjoy Disney and now, you'll have another set of eyes to see it through!

 

[quasar4legs]

Life has a funny way of surprising us when we least expect it. We have so many plans and dreams for our lives and sometimes they just don't go to plan.
Give yourself some time to get over the shock and I hope you and your family will be able to prepare and enjoy this new baby.

Big Koala Cuddles from 'down under'.

Trish

 

[wlwilliams9]

lucky u,,, wish it were me....

Me too! We've been trying for over a year!

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Congratulations! Of course you're shocked, and feeling hurt or disappointed is natural. This baby is a blessing, just not one that you were expecting, and it takes a while to process that. It doesn't make you a bad person or a horrible mother. Frankly, I had very mixed feeling throughout all 4 pregnancies, but I'm crazy about my kids.

I agree on no roller coasters, no ToT, no Teacups--other than that, you can ride almost anything. And your children are still fairly small, so they might not want the big coasters anyway. I know Deb Willis' site has a section on pregnancy that might ease your concerns with WDW while pregnant. Personally, my concern would be nausea and fatigue, rather than thrill rides, but I was always a big hurler. I would definitely plan nap breaks daily, and plan on you napping, or at least resting, every day.

I found out about #3, the day after #2 started all-day kindergarten. I had reached the conclusion that 2 was our number--maybe not the number we wanted, but the number God wanted for us, KWIM? It took me a while to reach peace on that. Then--boom! Surprise! And then DH wanted a 4th, and I thought he was nuts (were you not THERE when it took us 6 years to conceive #3?). But, here we are. Next year I'll have one in HS, one in MS, one in elementary, and one in preschool. This was not my plan. But, clearly, it's "the" plan!

Sorry, so long, but there's one thing I want to tell you about Disney (for the future). It has been such a hoot watching the older two appreciate WDW through the eyes of their younger siblings. DD13 loves to ride "Pooh" with the little guys. The Barnstormer, too. Without younger siblings, she'd be waaayyy too sophisticated. We make sure each trip contains stuff for all ages (a princess meal for DD5, EE fastpasses for the older two, etc.). We spilt up a lot to do different things, too. It takes some planning, but it's very manageable.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

I feel for you. DH and I always said we'd have 2, in fact he was scheduled to have a vacetomy when I found out I was pregnant. I too was very upset and in fact had to be treated for depression during the beginning of my pregnancy. Well, that little princess is almost 7 and the love of our whole family's life. She is amazing, I can't imagine my life without her (or any of them) and her sisters lives would not be the same withouht her. I truly believe God gave me her as a wonderful gift, one I didn't know I wanted, but turns out I very much did!
As for rides, I went pregnant with DD9. The only "roller coaster" I did was Splash Mountian, having been on it before I felt comfortable with it, but there are so many other fun rides you won't feel completly left out.
Have fun with your famuly of 4 and I bet the whole time you are there you will be picturing being there next time and all the memories you will have with this new little blessing.

 

[mjkacmom]

I had an unexpected pregnancy with #4/#5 (don't mean to scare you ), and I went on all the rides at Hershey Park during my 1st trimester, with the kids. The baby (or babies, in my case) are just little bitty things, in this huge sack. In your case, I can't imagine what rides a grain of rice couldn't handle, that your preschoolers would ride.

BTW, my happy accidents are now 5, and I can't imagine life without them!

 

[mommytoone]

Me too! We've been trying for over a year!

Me Too!!! We have been trying unsuccessful for 7 years, guess it's never going to happen for us, I am getting older.

Congrats, and when the shock wears off, you will be happy!!

 

[thelindysix]

I know exactly how you feel. I found out that I was expecting in Sept, so I will be 16 weeks along when we get there in Dec. I was terribly disappointed that I wouldn't be able to ride all the "fun" rides, because I was soooo looking forward it! We were even taking my SIL along with us to watch DS2 so we could go on rides with the older kids.

It has taken me 12 weeks to even really accept this pregnancy, as we were done having kids. (And did I mention I'll be 40 next week!! ) I was really looking forward to DS2 being potty trained, going to preschool next Sept and giving me a "day off", and him just being more independent. Now we're going back to square one...again. I had an ultrasound on Monday, and actually seeing him/her on the screen has really helped a lot. Seeing those little hands and little feet...now I can't wait to meet him/her!!

Congratulations, and good luck to you!

 

[mommy-on-the-move]

Congratulations- you may not feel it now but in a few weeks you'll be happy to look back on the fact people greeted your announcement with happiness and congratulations.

Two of our four were "surprises" ... both of our girls actually. Our oldest was conceived during our final year of high school- we were 17 & 18 and it was a huge shock made worse by the fact no one is happy for you when you're 17 and pregnant let alone still literally in school, not "in school" as in at college. We made best of a scary situation and we're now happily married, 12 year relationship and have enjoyed growing up together- all 3 of us grew up when dd1 was born and began to grow. Our second was very much planned but unfortunately our plans didn't match lifes plans and we learnt we have secondary infertility due to my having PCOS, our second took 4.5 years of trying, testing, drugs and eventually surgery before we conceived naturally 5 weeks after they told us we had 2 options- egg donor ivf or giving up. (there's a point to this I swear!) our 3rd (as people really don't believe you can be subfertile and have a large family) was a surprise conception just 11 weeks after #2 our "miracle" baby was born... it was the biggest shock on earth, we'd always wanted a larger family but after having to have surgery to conceive #2 we assumed he was the biggest blessing on earth and we'd never have another. I only realised we were pg again because after 11 weeks of PP i felt normal again! There is less than a year between my 2nd and 3rd after a gap of nearly 6 years between the first and second. We then had 3 very planned pregnancies which all sadly ended in m/c - 2 early term ones at 5/6 weeks and one missed miscarriage where we realised absolutely nothing was wrong until scan day where we saw a very perfect, well developed baby whos heart had stopped a week or so before. #4 took us 13 months to conceive but is now the happiest, smiliest nearly two year old you can imagine.

My point is I really didn't chose any of the gaps we have, a larger family was our plan but our family certainly never followed our plan in terms of when they chose to show up- planned or not. I never imagined I'd have over my kids spread over a decade, i never imagined I'd deal with such a big gap as 5.5 years, I never imagined I'd deal with such a small gap as 11.5 months, I never imagined I'd deal with subfertility and i especially never thought I'd deal with miscarriage after having gone through subfertility (after that you kind of feel like you've paid your dues and it's time for someone else to have the rain on their parade) BUT every single unplanned, unscheduled, untimely event in our life has made for a very perfect family at the end of it and hopefully yours will too.

This won't be the last chance for a trip to disney, it is however the beginning of the chance to see another absolutely believing thrilled toddler all over again on their first trip.

Your kids will have a life time of memories with a new siblings which will massively overwhelm the memories of a trip where mom had to be spectator on some rides.

I hope the shock wears off soon and you can start to tweak areas of your vacation that need it and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

 

[bellebud]

First, congrats!! I'm sorry you're feeling a bit surprised/sad, and you certainly have every right to your feelings. There's some saying like "if you want to make god laugh, go ahead and make plans"... it always makes me smile in the fact we aren't really in control of some things, even though we think we may be (and i'm not really religious, but for some reason this saying hits home for me). So after you're over the shock, try to enjoy the fact we cannot always plan our lives.

Second, because I get dizzy easily, I can't ride the rides that go around and around, i have to sit out anyway. But i have the BEST pics of dh w/ dd & ds on Dumbo, Alladin & the carousel. Priceless!! So go ahead and enjoy your trip anway.