need help with my 2 year old DD

[taraprather]

My 2 year old is a handful (like most 2 year olds), but I swear she thinks she is going on 10! She already back talks, hits, says "no" constantly, along with other issues. Anyways, I can't find a punishment that works for her. I have tried timeout, taking her favorite toys away, sending her to her room, spanking her bottom. Nothing works! She is just rotten. I was talking to my mom about it and she said "why don't you ask the disboard people!" (she's never been on this board, but I talk about it ALL the time!). So here I am, asking for help. Hopefully my daughter isn't the only one like this. I'm just scared how she'll be in her teens, if she's like this now. I also have a 7 year old DS, and he is an angel, he may talk back a little bit, but not much at all (average for someone his age). He never hits or tells me no. I don't know where she picked this up. HELP PLEASE!

 

[texasthree]

The only advice I can give is whatever you choose to do stay consistant. It may not work at first but keep sticking to the rules and make every punishment the same. You may want to try a sticker chart of some kind. If she behaves for so many days(or hours ) she can have a trip to the dollar store, piece of candy, tv time, whatever you choose. Some kids respond better to positive reinforcement.
Good Luck!

 

[summerrluvv]

It's obvious where she is learning the hitting from. You are showing her that it's okay for you to hit her, but she can't do that to you. Stop spanking her, use positive reinforcement and maybe she will straighten up.

Like the PP said, use reward charts, etc.

 

[lulu71]

It's obvious where she is learning the hitting from. You are showing her that it's okay for you to hit her, but she can't do that to you. Stop spanking her, use positive reinforcement and maybe she will straighten up.

I disagree. My 18 month old has never been spanked by anyone ever and she has hit me in the face before when she is mad. Not that I believe in spanking, but I seriously doubt that the fact that the OP has spanked her has anything to do with it. Some toddlers are just very strong-willed and will resort to anything to get their way. Good luck to you OP.

 

[summerrluvv]

I disagree. My 18 month old has never been spanked by anyone ever and she has hit me in the face before when she is mad. Not that I believe in spanking, but I seriously doubt that the fact that the OP has spanked her has anything to do with it. Some toddlers are just very strong-willed and will resort to anything to get their way. Good luck to you OP.

Saying no hitting and then hitting your child would cause some confusion for the kid don't you think? Maybe I've watched too many episodes of Super Nanny, but obviously the spanking isn't working, so move onto something else and maybe the kid will stop hitting the OP, maybe not, but it's worth a shot.

 

[#1MMFan]

I disagree. My 18 month old has never been spanked by anyone ever and she has hit me in the face before when she is mad. Not that I believe in spanking, but I seriously doubt that the fact that the OP has spanked her has anything to do with it. Some toddlers are just very strong-willed and will resort to anything to get their way. Good luck to you OP.

Absolutely. She may just be going through the terrible twos but you need to be really firm and discipline her otherwise you'll have problems later.

It's inevitable that this is going to turn into a spanking debate, but that's not what this is about. The OP has tried VARIOUS methods, of which spanking was only one. Leave off the spanking debate and try some more constructive comments.

 

[Princess~Fun]

The only advice I can give is whatever you choose to do stay consistant. It may not work at first but keep sticking to the rules and make every punishment the same. You may want to try a sticker chart of some kind. If she behaves for so many days(or hours ) she can have a trip to the dollar store, piece of candy, tv time, whatever you choose. Some kids respond better to positive reinforcement.
Good Luck!

Okay so try to go on THE NANNY. Great show. If that dosen't happen. Take tips from the nanny show because the things they suggest are great!

 

[summerrluvv]

Okay so try to go on THE NANNY. Great show. If that dosen't happen. Take tips from the nanny show because the things they suggest are great!

I agree. I really like the positive reinforcement she teaches the parents. The charts and rewards are really great and it seems to work for the kids.

Everyone always talks about the terrible 2's, but DS was an angel at 2. I think he's now at the terrible 7's

 

[taraprather]

I watch super nanny all the time, and I swear I think that if she were to come to my house, she would probably quit her job. My daughter isn't really bad bad, but she does have her moments, as I have mentioned. As far as the spanking, I've only done it once or twice, and she just laughs at me (she wears a pull up so it really don't have much affect). I love watching the super nanny and I've tried using some of her techniques and my daughter is just hard headed just like her father. I keep telling my husband he needs to deal with it because it's his fault lol.
My daughter has a friend that comes over sometimes once a week and when she gets in trouble I tell her that her friend can't come over and she'll just say "I don't care, I don't want her to come over anyways!" She's such a stinker! How does she know these things?????