Need help w/potty training!!!

[disneyfan551]

Hi all! My 2-1/2yo dd is doing well potty training this week. She has worn Pullups for quite a while, and we (the parents) have just been too slack about taking her potty all of the time. Well, this week, we put her in her big-girl princess panties, and she has done really well! She only has accidents when it's poopy time. However, we have been putting her in a pullup at night, and she is NOT happy with this! I feel so bad about it, but I know she would have an accident overnight.

Can anyone give me advice? What do I tell her to calm her, when she is pitching a fit about me putting a pullup on her before going to bed? HELP!!! (and thanks!! )

 

[Jordan's MOM]

I would buy the thickest cloth underwear I could find and get a water proof cover for the bed and then give into her request. She will be able to see for herself whether or not she is ready to go all night or not. This independence will make the process easier. I would dress her in am easy to manage gown and put the potty right by her bed if case she gets up and wants to go. She may indeed be too little to stay dry all night but I think giving her the chance to see might be worth the hassle. My DS was staying dry by 2 1/2 so some kids are ready.


Good luck.


Jordans mom

 

[campingcorgi]

Is her pullup dry in the morning? If it is, then she is ready. If not, then tell her when her pullup is dry in the morning she can wear her princess panties to bed. Our latest potty-trainer was dry at night from the first night to wear panties so maybe she is ready for that too.

 

[moinab]

My DS (3.5 yo) always woke up in the morning with a soaked diaper. We had to keep him in diapers at night because the Pull-Ups didn't keep him dry. He's a very sound sleeper. One night, I fell asleep early, and DH put him to bed in his underwear. Lo and behold, he woke up dry! So we started putting him to bed with underwear every night. The other night, he even woke me up at 3 AM because he needed help using the toilet (for some reason, both potty rings were in the downstairs bathroom.) After he peed, he crawled right back into bed and fell asleep immediately.

Of course, every child is different, but I would also recommend letting her try panties at night.

Good luck!

 

[peg2001]

Originally posted by moinab
. One night, I fell asleep early, and DH put him to bed in his underwear. Lo and behold, he woke up dry! Good luck!

This is our EXACT experience also. The pull-up was soaking wet every morning but when we accidently forgot to put on the pull-up one night, she woke up dry!

Ditch the pull-ups!

Peggy

 

[CEDmom]

You could try a trick that worked when DD was potty training and we'd be traveling. Put you DD's underpants on and then put a pull-up over it. We told our DD that it was just in case we couldn't get to a potty in time and she couldn't hold it. We never had a problem with this as long as she was awake. She would occasionally wet if she fell asleep. When that happened we'd just change her underpants but at least her carseat was dry.

I wouldn't stress too much over the night time situation though. Our DD is 4 1/2 (potty trained for over a 1 1/2 yrs) and still wears a pull-up to bed. We've tried several times for weeks on end to get away from wearing them. We'd limit liquids and take her to the bathroom before we'd go to bed but she still wet several times during the night. Our doctor agreed with us that it's not something to worry about it until she's well over 5.

 

[catherines_mama]

my DD is about to turn 3. We had the SAME poppy issue, and a lot of it was my laziness. I am a single mom and to take the time to push (pardon the pun) the issue was too much for me. Esp because her BM time of day was while I was cooking dinner, paying bills etc.

Finally I just had to sit with her and make her stay on the potty. She'd been tinkling in the potty for several months with no problem, just this. I was SO sick of cleaning panties every day. So I'd take a book and just sit there. I'd make her stay on the potty until she pooped. You know when its coming.. yousee that look in their eyes. My DD would want to be left alone and not looked at. when she did this, I'd just scoop her up and sit her on the potty. for 2 nights she faught with me.. fussed and tried to get off the potty. Once she'd poop I'd let her up and give her a sticker. After that.. she's a pro. She does not even tell me she needs to go. she'll just find me and say.. I POOPED.. I'd dance.. sing . .get excited. LOL Its now common place for us. I am very proud of her. Its a transition and its not at ALL uncommon.

Good luck.

Night Pullups.. No advice.. we still wear pull ups to bed. we try every now and then.. but no go. I am in no rush though. LOL

 

[moinab]

Ok, I just can't resist. I have to tell DS's potty training story. After 3 weeks of hardcore potty training, DS was peeing in the pot like a pro, but still having poop accidents every time. I resorted to making him sit on the potty ALL DAY, but he would hold it in until I was momentarily distracted, and then he would go on the floor.

We decided we were going to have to use Pull-Ups for our WDW trip. We got him up at 4:30AM and changed him into a Pull-Up for our drive to Orlando. We got to MK at 8:30 AM. He was doing great, making regular toilet breaks with DH. Around 10 AM, we sat down by Ariel's Grotto for a snack break. DS told us he needed to go potty, so DH went with him. A few minutes later, they emerged with huge grins and a big thumbs up from DH. He pooped in the toilet! Since then, he hasn't had a single accident. We decided it truly is the "Magic" Kingdom.

 

[jcemom]

My DD is 17 months and I know I will have to start thinking about this soon...again! How old were yours when you started trying?

With my older DS I started at 2 1/2 and he resisted me for MANY months! Finally, a couple of months past his third birthday I just gave up. I said I quit and I don't care if you wear pull ups forever! Lo and behold, within a week he was going on his own and never had an accident, not even at night. My younger DS was 2 at the time and he copied his brother. Within a few weeks he, too, was going potty on his own, though he sometimes wet the bed at night until he was around 5.

I don't feel I've ever done potty training the "right" way and I have no clue how/when to begin, lol. Not to mention it having been SO LONG AGO that I have a hard time remembering the details!

So...how do you know they are ready to start?

 

[catherines_mama]

My DD was 2 yrs 4 mos before she trained for pee pee.. and 2 yrs 7 mos before she traind for poo poo. I think kids are just all different. Catherine is in daycare and its amazing the age range of her classmates who train. Some are 3 yo and still not. Just follow your own kids queues and let them show you when they are ready.

Potty training is such a joy! LOL

 

[jcemom]

Originally posted by catherines_mama
Potty training is such a joy! LOL

yeah, right!

 

[moinab]

I made the mistake of listening to the "experts" advice to wait until the child shows the signs of readiness. By the time DS was 3 years, 4 months, I gave up waiting and forced him, very much against his will, to start using the potty. It took exactly 3 weeks. It was hard, and the whole time, I kept thinking I was doing everything wrong and scarring him for life. Once it finally all clicked for him, though, he was so proud of himself, he just beamed, and I knew I did the right thing. He's just like me, very fearful of the new and unknown, so we often have to give him a gentle shove. I'm going to start much earlier with DD, who is completely opposite in every way. It should be interesting!

 

[CEDmom]

Originally posted by jcemom
My DD is 17 months and I know I will have to start thinking about this soon...again! How old were yours when you started trying?

With my older DS I started at 2 1/2 and he resisted me for MANY months! Finally, a couple of months past his third birthday I just gave up. I said I quit and I don't care if you wear pull ups forever! Lo and behold, within a week he was going on his own and never had an accident, not even at night. My younger DS was 2 at the time and he copied his brother. Within a few weeks he, too, was going potty on his own, though he sometimes wet the bed at night until he was around 5.

I don't feel I've ever done potty training the "right" way and I have no clue how/when to begin, lol. Not to mention it having been SO LONG AGO that I have a hard time remembering the details!

So...how do you know they are ready to start?

For us we began out of necessity. DD's daycare wouldn't advance her to the preschool room unless she was potty trained. We made it with about 1 week to spare. One trick that did seem to help was during a break in our training. After cleaning up the 5th "accident" of the day I asked DD if she wanted to take a break from training. She said yes so we went to the store for another package of diapers. I opened the whole bag and asked her to make a pile of the numbers of diapers she wanted to use before she would try the potty again. Well just giving her this little bit of control seemed to do the trick. We finished that pile and she went right to using the potty.

 

[disneyfan551]

Thanks for all of the advice! She did really well all week, with only the once a day poopy accidents. Unfortunately, Saturday, we went shopping all day, and I don't know if it was just time getting away from us, or if she just wasn't focused due to 'being out'. She had 2 accidents, 1 in Target, which she held pretty well until we got to the restroom. And, the other in Gymboree, where we had our own little pond forming beneath her stroller!!! Thank goodness my dh was with me and I quickly called him on the 2way radio to find napkins/towels at once!

The best news to report for the weekend is that she went poopy in the potty yesterday!! Woohoo!! We'll see what happens today, when she is at home with daddy....

Regarding the overnight issue, sometimes she does wake up dry, but we're really going to try to watch it for a week before we make any night changes.

Thanks again for all of the help!! (I need lots! )

 

[castlegazer]

I haven't gotten here yet, but a friend of mine was telling me that she got up at three or four in the morning, dragged her DD out of bed and sat her on the toilet until she pp'd and hten they went back off to bed. She said this worked great to get them through the night and she only had to do it for a couple of weeks.

Can I tell you how much this story scared the beegeeesus out of me. I just started being able to sleep through the night (DD was a bad sleeper from the start and continued on from there) and now to hear that I was going to have to drag not only myself but DD out of bed to go to the potty during the night! Man, all my potty training effort ceased right then and there. I don't care, I said, he can be five and still be in diapers as long as I don't have to get up in the middle of the night anymore. Well, now back to reality, after I calmed down about this I realized its just one person's experience - mine may be different, and there is no rush to get through the night. Plus, if I think about it, I usually do get up at least once during the night to check on him and it won't last forever - there is rarely a five year old still in diapers.

Not a helpful story, but one I had to tell - we all are novices at this and have absolutely no idea what the heck we are doing - plus someone throws a curve ball in by making all your children different each and every time. Good luck and congrats on getting this far with the training.

 

[Tigge50447]

I'm in the process of Potty training with my 3.5 year old son. He learned to talk later and the whole potty thing happened later as well, oh well. At 1st my son wouldn't even sit on the potty with out making it seem like I was trying to kill him. so I gave up for awhile. He knows we are going to disney and I told him there are no diapers at disney so if he wanted to come he had to start using the potty. (I also tried candy brides, stickers, little toys) Still he didn't want to go. Finally one day I had his pants off and he was playing he came over screaming he needed a diaper. I said no. He asked me for a pull up and I said no. He had underware on and I said if you don't want them wet you need to go potty. He screamed and screamed, he was in his bed at this point. I heard him open his bedroom door and yell to me he wanted to use the potty and he did. I've got to tell you I worked at a daycare center I NEVER had this problem before. It was like I had to force him to try it so he'd figure out it wasn't so bad. He now using the potty by himself, I normally try to get in there but a few times I was in another part of the house and hear the potty flush (and I RUN) to see, ya never know what kids will do with water and toilets. But he's been just finishing on his own. This all happened with in 3 weeks.

We ended up using a potty chart with stickers when he fills up a whole sheet I buy him one of those Thomas travel trains at target.

Problem is his daycare won't let him wear underware till he stays drive for them for 2 weeks. But since he knows if hes busy he can pee in a pull up he doesn't care. He's doesn't wear any pull ups or diapers at home for 3 weeks day or night. he hasn't had an accident. One way I figure it's their problem since he does fine all day with me on the wkends and at night. I know he'd do well if they just put underware on him. But they have that 2 week stay dry rule.

sorry I rambled. Good luck!

 

[VAServices]

Have you tried putting her in pull-ups with her pretty panties over the pull-ups? This way you both win.

 

[disneyfan551]

Hmmm... That's an idea... We haven't tried that yet. We would try the panties only, but she sleeps with us & we don't want a wet bed!

We may have to try this. Sometimes she wakes up dry, but not usually. We are really happy though. She is starting to go #2 in the potty now, and is pretty much accident free. I think we are just going to have to figure out the night thing, and be really careful about shopping/long outings.

Thanks!