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[disneychick2721]

Im sorry but the word "popularity" makes me cringe. No One should be downsized based on how many friends they have or how many people they know or how they act.
Life's to short to worry about being noticed, having many friends, and being the center of attention. I think you should go talk to her.

That just my opinion.

 

[life of the party]

I'm like her (Christy).

I'd seriously hate you. You'd be on 'I hope a tiger eats' list.

 

[Lizbon]

Im sorry but the word "popularity" makes me cringe. No One should be downsized based on how many friends they have or how many people they know or how they act.
Life's to short to worry about being noticed, having many friends, and being the center of attention. I think you should go talk to her.

That just my opinion.

Me too! I absolutly hate that word. I don't even belive in the word popular. You are never liked by everyone, so what gives you the title of popular? Do you give it to yourself? Personally I can't stand the "popular" kids at school so to me they aren't "popular". I belive everyone is "popular" in their own group of friends. Having a lot of friends does not make you popular, obviously you're liked, but like I said, you're never liked by everyone. There are people who don't like me, and I don't like the "popular" people so why do they get to be doned the popular people? Why not me? I have lots of friends to. Do you see where I'm going? Sorry for my little rant.


Seriously how would you like it if you went through school without friends becasue people thought you were "weird". She has never done anything to you so I don't get how you can really say she isn't friend worthy. Just be nice to her. In a few years, when the going gets tough, she might be the one there for you. I'm sorry but you're basically saying you were to good for her. It seems in 8th grade you should be worrying about more than just popularity.


JMHO

 

[disneychick2721]

Me too! I absolutly hate that word. I don't even belive in the word popular. You are never liked by everyone, so what gives you the title of popular? Do you give it to yourself? Personally I can't stand the "popular" kids at school so to me they aren't "popular". I belive everyone is "popular" in their own group of friends. Having a lot of friends does not make you popular, obviously you're liked, but like I said, you're never liked by everyone. There are people who don't like me, and I don't like the "popular" people so why do they get to be doned the popular people? Why not me? I have lots of friends to. Do you see where I'm going? Sorry for my little rant.


Seriously how would you like it if you went through school without friends becasue people thought you were "weird". She has never done anything to you so I don't get how you can really say she isn't friend worthy. Just be nice to her. In a few years, when the going gets tough, she might be the one there for you. I'm sorry but you're basically saying you were to good for her. It seems in 8th grade you should be worrying about more than just popularity.


JMHO

Exactly my point !!
BTW: I enjoyed your little rant

 

[Lizbon]

Thank you. Now if only I could get up the nerve or the oppurtunity would come up so I could say that to all the "popular" people at my school.

Also adding: at this point, no offense but if I were her I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone in that school. You're saying your going to make an effort, but who says she wants to be your friend? I think the whole popular thing comes in here again, you think she is going to be your best friend now? My guess is probably not. This is where the "everyone isn't going to like you" comes in. Again, not trying to be mean, just honest. Its JMO.

 

[disneychick2721]

Thank you. Now if only I could get up the nerve or the oppurtunity would come up so I could say that to all the "popular" people at my school.

If something with "popular" people every say or do make you snap, just say what you gotta say. And hopefully people will listen.

 

[Lizbon]

You quoted me before I edited it, you should read the other part if you like my rants. Haha and I will if the opportunity comes up. But you know how some people get. You stand up to them and they walk away to their friends and start laughing. So I came up with a way to start my little arguement if the opportunity comes a knocking:

"I know I'm going to say this and when you walk away you're going to laugh with your friends and say what a loser I am, but I can almost guarentee when I walk off to talk about this to MY friends, we will proabaly do the same thing about you. So what makes you so special?...." (and so on, something liek that)

 

[disneychick2721]

Again I agree with you!
Thats pretty much it, you pretty much covered all I can think of.
Hahaha, i still love your rants they make me smile. lmao

 

[Lizbon]

Oh geez I went to go read my rants again and its amazing how many typos I make when I'm in a heated discussion (in this case a discussion basically with myself ) Time to do some editing.

 

[disneydance]

Update: Ok so today at school me and a friend went and talked to her and made our day yes she did want to hang out w/ us more after that aka the school dance but at least we made her day. We really didnt know want to think but she was real happy and we saw a big smile on her face. The only thing is now all she wants to do is hang out w/ us which alot of friends think we are weird for that and we really dont want to spend all our time w/ her since we have lots of other friends too. I guess that we just made her know that someone cares about her even if she really doesnt know it...

 

[My Own Little Corner]

Update: Ok so today at school me and a friend went and talked to her and made our day yes she did want to hang out w/ us more after that aka the school dance but at least we made her day. We really didnt know want to think but she was real happy and we saw a big smile on her face. The only thing is now all she wants to do is hang out w/ us which alot of friends think we are weird for that and we really dont want to spend all our time w/ her since we have lots of other friends too. I guess that we just made her know that someone cares about her even if she really doesnt know it...

Katie you did a really special thing today. You know that don't you. Hugs to you.

 

[disneydance]

thanks so much i know alot of people are chewing me out on this subject since it is a hard thing and all but at least she knows that we care. We really couldnt relate to what she was talking about and she does like slap and it alot of people and act pretty much more like a second grader aka ____________ has cuddys thats why some people dont like her but at least we took sometime to get to know her

 

[disneychick2721]

Update: Ok so today at school me and a friend went and talked to her and made our day yes she did want to hang out w/ us more after that aka the school dance but at least we made her day. We really didnt know want to think but she was real happy and we saw a big smile on her face. The only thing is now all she wants to do is hang out w/ us which alot of friends think we are weird for that and we really dont want to spend all our time w/ her since we have lots of other friends too. I guess that we just made her know that someone cares about her even if she really doesnt know it...

If you dont want to spend all your time with her, then introduce her to people, so she'll make more friends and hang out with them, when your not available.(< no idea if thats spelt right)

 

[life of the party]

sit next to her talk to her invite her over cause your moms are such good friends plan something idk.


ive been christy.

and i am in your shoes.

 

[Lizbon]

But see now your being her friend because you feel bad for her. You said you still think she is weird. And now people think your weird so you don't want to spend a lot of time with her. That is only going to make things worse in the long run. If you're not really her friend, don't pretend to be. Trust me, it will hurt her even more if she finds out if your pretending.

I'm not trying to be rude I'm just expressing my opinion. And I know I am not the only one who feels this way.

 

[disneychick2721]

^^^

 

[Lizbon]

(I just posted on a thread Shelby (Sparx) made. I had a little rant there too if you want to go read it. ) ^^^^^

 

[disneychick2721]

O-boy! ^^

 

[Lizbon]

 

[disneydance]

I'm sorry that i'm making people feel fusterated on this i'm not trying to be rude and i just want to get to know her a little bit more before i invite her over to my house or anything but that is just me