Need help - something for Caitlyn

[honeywolf7]

dbond, just click on the word "archives" where it's a link on the first page. CathyCanada, I got this: "Please specify some words or valid user names to search on. There were no matches for those that you specified." when I clicked on that link.

 

[janette]

Search works for the regular boards, sometimes anyway so I can use it to get them off the regular boards and will be working on that. There is no search for user name for the archives so each page will need to be gone through. I'm going to try some searches like cruise board and other boards I don't think she would have posted on so we could eliminate some by the board they were from but pages of community board threads each thread has to be opened and looked at. Robin didn't post that often but has been on the boards from way back.

The link to the archives is on the first of this thread.

 

[kejoda]

I have been reading alot of Robins past posts and there seems like some are missing. Maybe if they are archived they don't show up in a regular search.

 

[dbond]

I did the search like CC mentioned and got 411 pages that have posts by Robin. The last page goes all the back to 4/2001. I'll start there and post what I find.

 

[janette]

I'm going to list on the first post boards that can be skipped completely. The archives seem to be board sections so that may help eliminate the need to look at some. I've done a search on the cruise boards and she has nothing. I don't think she ever did a cruise or planned one we can skip those. Still put the pages but as you browse the pages with those boards no need to open the threads.

 

[kejoda]

I think if we do it different ways it might be too confusing for Janette. She will end up with a lot of dupicate posts.

 

[CathyCanada]

Search won't work when there are a lot of people on the boards. I just went through 9 pages of her posts that made me smile through tears. What an amazing sense of humour. I can't tell you how much I'll miss her.

I thought this would make it easier than looking for them, don't want to confuse things, sorry.
CC

 

[dbond]

Well, I had 17 pages of Robin's post now the search has been disabled. Anyway, here are all of her posts on page 17. If it come back I'll do more.

01-22-2001 12:50 PM

Thanks for the info...I too am "Pooh" sized. And for the first summer for a long time I'm not going to try to starve myself trying to shed a few pounds I will be at sears tonight looking for the whale wear

*My "Best Job" is being Caitlyn's Mommy*

07-13-2001 03:49 PM

WOWOWOWOWOWOWOWOW.....I just checked a couple of dates in January and the Delta website is listing a RT price of $101.24!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now I just have to hurry up and make up my mind as to when we are going.

07-25-2001 10:17 AM

Hmmm...we are going to WDW for Caitlyn's 4th birthday and were planning on taking her booster. The last time we flew we just belted her in the regular seat which was fine...but when we went to get the rental car they only had an infant seat OR a booster that had the straps taken out (it is for children over 40 lbs) so I'm really not sure what to do now.

07-25-2001 10:08 AM

We just got our Delta etickets as well. Actually I am glad you said what they were...I just glanced at the sheet and thought it more as a reciept than a ticket. Good thing you guys gave me the heads up....I had just placed the envie in my junk box (it takes at least 30-45 minutes or me to find anything in there)! SO now it is in my trip box...everything is very well organized in that one.

07-26-2001 10:28 AM

Your local Disney Store will have them . They come in $1 $5 $10's....I think they put a limit of $200 per person per day that you can purchase.

I actually went to Toysrus and bought a couple of plastic piggy bank ( you can see through them ...but they dont have a hole to get the money out...you actually have to cut the piggy in half) This has really helped me save for my trip. When ever I have extra cash I go to the DIsney Store and turn it in to Disney Dollars. I now have over $750 already saved up for spending money.

07-26-2001 10:33 AM

Dan jumped too soon and booked our flights during peak season (he has never been to Disney and booked then because the weather would be nice)...we got a great RT flight rate but I worry about what hotel discounts might be available then? Does anyone know if Disney offered ANYTHING at about that time last year. I went ahead and made a back up ressie at the Courtyard DD at $89 per night government rate.

There will just be 3 of us going...2 adults and Caitlyn will turn 4 the day we get there.

Any help/advice would be great. +

07-26-2001 11:38 AM

HI....thanks for the tip about a rental car! SOG is full...they wont even put anyoe else on the wait list, but said to call back after Sept and ask about overflow rates. Anyone else get any discounts this time last year?

07-26-2001 03:33 PM

OMG....I had no idea that Easter was March 31st this year. I was stupidly thinking it would be the 2nd week of April. My goodness....it's going to be a mad house! Well...I guess I better be happy with getting any kind of room discount even if just at a Downtown Disney hotel.

07-25-2001 10:21 AM

Wow...I might stop by the Disney Store after work and do my preorder. Sounds like a great deal to me. for $ 20 bucks it can take care of two xmas gifts for Caitlyn.

07-25-2001 12:09 PM

WOW...I'm blind. Good thing I double checked this thread I would have felt awfully stupid tonight. Thanks.

08-02-2001 02:15 PM

When to book RT from DFW???
We are planning on going Dec 1- Dec 8 and need good airfare. I have $300 worth of American Airlines giftcertificates and the current rate is listed at 209.00 should I book now or wait?? What you think a good price on American would be leaving out of DFW?

I have a trip already for March 30- April 6th...I only paid 101.24 through Delta for those flights.

08-02-2001 02:53 PM

I too have MS...and am worried about my energy levels during our WDW vacation. I am pretty active at home...I have good days/bad days. At times my legs spasm and I am forced back in to my chair...spasms can last minutes to hours to days. I look very healthy...but tire very fast, My SO calls me his firecracker (i start off real strong in the mornings but get dim as the day goes one) We are going Dec 1- Dec 8...with the parks closing early I am hoping the attendance will be light. I have a 3 yo DD and dont want her to see me in my chair the whole time. We are staying at the CSR and have requested a disabled friendly room...but in reading about the resort I'm afraid it might be too spread out?? Any suggestions on what resort would be best??

08-09-2001 10:24 AM

georgiapeach60

I just checked southwest.com and they are offering 112 RT out of Austin. You might want to check it out...seems like a great deal to me.

 

[janette]

Thanks Cathy, they are hard to read. She really comes through in her words and that is what will make saving them special for Caitlyn. The regular search works often enough I'll do that part, it would be hard to keep track of also.

The archives can be found here http://www.disboards.com/showarchiv.php?s=&action=showarchives&forumid=-1

There are no new posts but no search by user so if people just go through the threads and look for her posts that would be great. By posting what pages they are looking at we can hopefully keep up and get most of it look through.

 

[janette]

I'm starting 26-30.

Nothing there all cruise line.

Starting 31-40.

Nothing there all cruise line.

Starting 41-50.

 

[dbond]

I know this isn't how you really wanted it done, but I searched the archives for Caitlyn and here's what came up....my heart is breaking right now for that sweet little girl...

05-07-2001 10:15 AM

I just thought I would let all you guys know the outcome of child protective services investigation. Nothing is or is going to be done to my ex.... He is getting away with it completely. In the letter it said that they were closing the case but the complaint will stay on file until Caitlyn is 18 years old.... that way the have something to reference back to the "next time” I talked to my case worker and she even admitted that she felt that IT DID happen but with no PROOF there is nothing more that they can do. I'm so frustrated.... for weeks I have been begging for them to talk with her again and see if they could get more information from her..."No, we can't do that.... she’s only three and we cant force anything out of her, IF she were 4 we could try doll therapy but that is a year away” I just can't believe that after all she has already gone through the *&%#*ing system isn't going to do anything to protect her from it happening again. My ex is just smitten with the whole thing.... he now has a smirk on his face every time I have to see him. He has agreed at least temporarily to just visit her at my home...instead of taking her for weekends (thank God) So Dan and I have been putting up with his crap for almost a month...he shows up and wants to eat dinner with us or invites Caitlyn and I to the movies. Dan just wants to ring the child molester’s neck but we are trying to be cool and do everything possible to keep the monster from being alone with Caitlyn. I really think this might be part of the jerks plan...now he can rule our lives because we fear what he'll do to Caitlyn if he's alone with her for 10 minutes. I feel like I have no control anymore...I am being forced to be nice to someone I would rather spit on.

Dan is trying to transfer out of state...not the best solution in the world but it would at least be better than this. Caitlyn sleeps with us every night because she is terrified to be alone.... she WAS potty trained with no accidents for over 6 months but now she is occasionally wetting her self...she told me that she doesn't like to take her pants off (it only happens when her dad is around) In July I am going to file against him for non-support (July will mark one entire year of him not paying) and try to renegotiate visitation with him...or he will end up in JAIL. My ex has even been hinting about "us" getting back together.... so we can be a "real family"! I thought I was going to throw up.... what a sicko.

Once again I want to thank everyone for their support. It has meant more to me and Dan than you would ever know.


07-15-2001 12:50 PM

As many of you remember my family has been going through a rough time. I just wanted to take the time to update you all on the situation. My ex is no longer able to pick up Caitlyn by himself....if he wishes to visit with her he has to be with his mother at all times. His mother realizes that 'something' might have happened and promised to do everything to prevent it happening again. CPS was never of any help....but I have made an agreement with the ex not to file against him for non-support so long as he doesn't try to seek to have unsupervised visits with Caity. ( I have not gotten a penny of support in over a year....so he would go to jail)

Dan and I are doing great....and have a trip planned to WDW in March on Caitlyn's 4th birthday. Actually just booked the flights yesterday (101.24 RT from Dallas/Fort Worth....we just couldn't pass up the price). Caitlyn is still sleeping with us every night...but seems to be less panicked then she did...she still has a hard time right after seeing her dad though. Dan and I are trying are hardest to take away her monsters...but to be honest I don't think we can ever relief her of all that has happened.

I was laid off of work the first week of June (we had went on a mini vacation to San Antonio when the big cut happened....I actually had no idea what happened until a HR person came to my desk 4 days later) With the tech world the way it is I was scared and took a yuck job at an insurance company for a whopping two weeks. On Monday I start a new job...3 minutes from home, flex hours, Caitlyn's new preschool is right across the street, a boss that already thinks I hung the moon, and better pay than where I was before. I actually interviewed for this position the day after I was laid off....didn't think it went well until they called for a second interview...then a third! I will be doing tech support for a group on engineers....I have a glamorous title of "Marketing Specialist". The best part is that when they asked where I see myself in five years I was honest and said that I'm not looking for a high stress career...my main priority is my daughter....they actually thanked me for my honesty!!
So....Thank you guys so much for all of your prayers and pixie dust, They really seem to be working.
OH.... Dan and I have been under the same roof for 6 months with tons of stress....and we have yet to have an argument. We are as different as night and day, but we work together very well.

07-23-2001 02:02 PM

This all started a few months back. Caitlyn noticed that I had a few freckles on my nose....and she wanted some of her own. Well...sure enough she now has a total of 5 (which is a very good sounding number to a three year old). So every few days she has me check her face, arms, and legs for new additions. Last week as I was putting on my shirt Caitlyn gets very excited and starts pointing at my chect (I had a small little red spot on my upper chest area...it's been there for years) And she is just so happy that Mommy has a really neat red freckle. Today when I dropped her off at preschool she said that I had to stay for show and tell.....that she wanted her class to see me. So I agreed to come back during lunch for her show and tell. There I was standing in front of 20 something 3 year olds and Caitlyn was telling them that I was her favorite Mommy. It was just so cute...UNTIL she told me to take off my shirt so they could see the red freckle on my BOOB! I just wanted the ground to swallow me up....Caitlyn's teacher just couldn't stop laughing.

11-06-2001 10:57 AM

Caitlyn has once again started telling me that she is being 'touched' by her father. Caitlyn' school has also noticed that she is becoming more and more nervous around male teachers. I do not allow her to be alone with her father... He lives with his mother and she promised me that she would not leave Caitlyn there alone with him, well I no longer trust this is the way she does things. I took her to her counselor yesterday and was told it was time to go back to Child Protective Service and try again. Last night I called the 800# to report what she has said... her case was put on a priority 1 this time and I was told to expect a call by the end of the week.

At 10am this morning I got a call from a new case worker. This woman actually seems to want to help. Caitlyn goes in today for an interview with a forensic physcologist... it's a one on one interview that will be video taped. The last time they only talked to her for 5 minutes max (with a police officer in full uniform + gun in the room) and said she was too young to be fully examined.

I am hoping against all hope that things will go better this time. My lawyer has told me to 'ride the waves' for a while to see where CPS takes this. If I "lawyer up" they might think it's more about custody than about Caitlyn's over all safety.

11-06-2001 05:05 PM

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I am so FREAKING mad. In the interview Caitlyn told them again and again that he touched her bottom and body... When asked how many times she would say "Just one time".

So the case worker tells me that there is not enough there to do anything... They will talk to her school and interview my ex BUT.... She doesn't think we have enough information to go further.

What in the world does it take to get it through these peoples head that my daughter is in danger!!!!!!!!! I do not know what these people expect???... Not many 3 year olds I know would say "My father put his index finger on my ******l area causing physical discomfort" . I think the best they can get is "My daddy put his finger on my bottom and it hurt", This is what Caitlyn told them.

So now I'm back to square one with no protection for Caitlyn. There is NO way that I'm going to let her go over there again.... I will go to JAIL first. I called my attorney but got no where.... basically in Texas if CPS fails to recongnize the problem then you are SOL.
11-07-2001 08:23 AM

My lawyer has told me it is more of a risk to move. If we were out of state he could demand longer visitation.... ie spring break, christmas, summer vacation, this would mean putting Caitlyn on a plane to see her dad... ALL ALONE. Joseph doesn't do drugs, non-drinker, doesn't stay out and party... he is very normal in all those aspects. He doesn't pay child support (haven't gotten a dime in well over 18 months)... but seems to fall through the cracks of the system. Also, I have been told if I make a big deal about non-support it looks like I am being petty and trying to get him in to trouble (I'm just trying to protect my daughter).

I am still hoping that after the case worker interviews Caitlyn's school staff they will get the hint that there is something seriously wrong.



02-12-2002 02:37 PM

My ex just went in to the CPS (Child Protective Service) office last night. I was on pins and needles all day waiting for my case worker to call. She just did... They are suspending ALL visitation rights until after the investigation is over. This takes such a tremendous amount of stress off of all of us. His mother went with him last night and claimed that she over heard my mother, sister, and I plotting against Caitlyn's father while she spoke to Caitlyn on the phone (We often let Caitlyn call her while in the car using a cell phone). The funny thing is that the caseworker asked when the conversation happened and she said over a month ago... Umm, and if that were true why didn't she go to CPS with that information a month ago? It's SO nice to have someone on our side for a change. They will be interviewing Caity's teachers and everyone else with constant contact. I have my finger and toes crossed... but things are starting to look up!

02-13-2002 08:35 AM

Thanks everybody. I can't even begin to tell you the amount of comfort I get from all of you.

02-06-2002 11:36 AM

As some of you may remember, I have been trying to deal with a very difficult personal issue. Basically my sweet almost 4 year old daughter has been repeatedly molested by her biological father. For almost a year now Dan and I have been fighting to have my ex's rights taken so I can protect Caitlyn from a repeated episode. We have gone through every possible avenue to protect her... local law enforcement, child protective service, incest crisis centers.... you name it have tried it. About a month ago Caitlyn started seeing a new counselor... The counselor called Child Protective Services and reported the abuse again. Last Friday Dan and I took Caitlyn to interview with a forensic psychologist that works for CPS, she also agreed that 'something' has happened and they are going to due a full criminal investigation. I know this is stupid... but I kept hoping that she would come out and tell me that my DD just had a wild imagination... I wanted this to have been proven as false. I was fighting for my DD to be heard and protected, I just never let it fully sink in how bad things were. My new case worker is being very supportive and they are setting up group counseling to teach Dan and I how to better help Caitlyn. I am so sickened by the system we have in place to protect our children.. Basically if a child is too young to sit up and say "My daddy touched my here...while I was visiting him, on the couch, on such and such date at such and such time" the agencies that are in place are unwilling to listen, Last year they actually said to wait till she turned four so they could get more information out of her. They let this monster have an extra YEAR with my baby girl. I am hopeful that things will be resolved this time... They have a detective in my EXs county that is working on the investigation, I was asked repeatedly if I would press charges. I told them I didn't think it should be up to me, THEY should get this guy off the street regardless!!!

Just wanted to give everyone an up date. I could use some pixie dust this way....

02-06-2002 01:02 PM

For those who have made statements saying that they couldn't have been law abiding. If you stop and think about it.... there was truly no other alternative. If I chose to deny visitation I would have been put in jail... then my ex would have Caitlyn even more. Plus by denying visitation I would have opened the door for him to fight for even more rights. If I was to run and take Caitlyn out of state... I would risk losing her forever.

02-06-2002 02:33 PM

C.Ann

Don't worry about it at all Most people have the same initial thoughts... I WISH I could have run away with her... but it just wasn't an option. Dan wanted to move out of state... but then my ex could demand to have her visit weeks at a time. To fight this Dan and I have had to stand hand in hand and push our way through all the crap the system gives us. I will protect my daughter at all costs... sometimes it means looking at the big picture and not just running away.

02-06-2002 04:48 PM

Thanks guys... I was just feeling kinda low today! I needed the {{{hugs}}}

 

[dbond]

OK, this may help. I've narrowed down the CB pages in the archives to pages 1163-1726.

Page 1163....no posts

 

[janette]

The CB pages are mixed in. I've found some starting on page 41 and I'm working through them. We'll want to include other boards as well, she did post sometimes in other places just mostly on the CB.

I may have to keep the ones on Caitlyn separate, I do want to save them but they aren't something she should read anytime soon and hopefully we can find some that can be shared with her even now.

 

[Dan Murphy]

A very nice undertaking and thought, Janette, and all.

 

[janette]

Anyone want to start on page 51? Just let us know there are lots of pages of CB board so it may take a little while so you may just want to do a few pages at a time.

Just look through the threads for Robins' posts. I know she's in there somewhere

 

[Rajah]

I'll take 51-60 tomorrow

 

[CourtasanSatine]

check my film/tv line thread for a post

 

[snoopy]

O.K. its 3am, and I am technically challenged in a BIG way - but I want to help. I'm going back to bed, but when I wake up I'll review this information and offer my support. Thanks, Janette.

 

[Marla Hellwig]

from 1502 - 1736 done

 

[CourtasanSatine]

I'll take 10-15 in the morning,but I'm kinda new at this so fair warning