We are having about 48 people and we were looking at doing a brunch so for bluezoo we would not have to use the private dining rooms.
We are looking at a brunch time reception. I spoke to lindsey about doing a cocktail hour with actual snacks not just cake in the west courtyard and she really liked the idea.
Just and update:
I did talk to DF about all of this finally while we were driving back from Houston and we discussed a lot of things. One of the things that we discussed were the benefits of the annual passes for us and also the discounted room rate. My consultant at disney told me she can extend our room block for us for the honeymoon to cover our entire stay of the honeymoon which means we get a deluxe hotel for way cheaper at christmas time than it would be normally. Which means it cuts the honeymoon down by 1/2.
We are going to sit and look at savings and then in december when we go we are going to ask a bunch of questions to the disney people and the swan/dolphin people and try to figure out which one is the best economically for us. So it looks like we will have to wait until after our christmas vacation to really know what we will do.
I am just going to continue trying to estimate prices the hard part to estimate is floral and decor.
Teresa
Sounds like a good idea!!!
Don't forget that if you like the deluxes, you can save an enormous amount by renting DVC points too - probably end up being far cheaper than paying rack rates, even with a room block!!!
Have a look at David's prices
http://www.dvcrequest.com/
He is a Disboards sponsor and comes highly recommended here!! As an owner, I have rented points out through him before, and currently have some BLT points up for rent with him (we will not be making a trip to WDW until our big 'special birthday trip in 2013

). He provides an excellent service for both parties.
I understand your point about the APs. We knew that we weren't going to make another trip after our VR for a couple of years, and so the APs were not a big issue. Also, for part of the trip we used DVC points and for part bought a package with free dining which offset the price of our passes!!
Try to get some quotes from outside vendors for decor and floral (even if you run with Disney, you can use outside vendors for decor and floral apart from at outside venues). At least that way, you will have some ball-park figures to work with. Just be aware that if you eventually go through Disney for theses things, your bill will be significantly higher!!!
Good luck with your decision!!