Need help! Friend trying to hijack our vacation.

[SwirlTheCitrus]

Hey all-- I need your assistance! My mother, myself, and our friend in common have booked a Christmas trip to Wilderness Lodge at the end of December through the beginning of January. Well, now this friend's adult son won free tickets. Not only is our friend trying to invite her son on our vacation and stay in our room, but she wants to change the reservation so that he only needs to stay for 3 days so that he doesn't need to pay the full dining plan package at the rest of us are paying for.

I'm extremely frustrated because I don't know her son very well, and because this is extremely short notice for plans I have had completed for 2/3 of a year. Is it possible even to do a "split stay" where we have four people in the room for two nights out of the six? I'm very concerned that this is going to completely wreck our reservation of which there are none left at this point.

I'm truly hoping you all say no, because I'm looking for any excuse to nip this in the bud. She does not have common sense when it regards her children, and doesn't even appreciate that this is completely inappropriate to ask.

And anyone have any advice for me, for how to deal with this? ❤ I'm one of those people that has every moment planned because I don't want to miss one moment of anything related to holidays at Disney World, and it is NOT OKAY. JUST NOT OKAY.

... At the same point, however, I do not want to lose her friendship.

... But what about the dining reservations?!

 

[SaintsManiac]

She needs to disconnect from your reservation and set up her own room and dining plan for her and her son.

That’s my opinion. Might not be a popular one, but I would not be okay with her idea.

 

[KayaWildfire]

At this late date, you might struggle to find another reservation to make the split. However, does she know enough about disney planning if you just say no it's not possible? Pretend you called and there is nothing available type deal.

 

[mom2rtk]

That would be a hard pass from me. "Thanks for the offer, but we have our plans pretty set already. I hope you guys have a great time. Maybe we could meet up to watch the fireworks one night and share stories."

Going at the same time is one thing. But inviting herself to stay in your room is a bridge WAY too far.

 

[SaintsManiac]

That would be a hard pass from me. "Thanks for the offer, but we have our plans pretty set already. I hope you guys have a great time. Maybe we could meet up to watch the fireworks one night and share stories."

Going at the same time is one thing. But inviting herself to stay in your room is a bridge WAY too far.

Sounds like she is already staying in their room. She wants to add the son in now.

 

[SwirlTheCitrus]

At this late date, you might struggle to find another reservation to make the split. However, does she know enough about disney planning if you just say no it's not possible? Pretend you called and there is nothing available type deal.

She would not believe me unless I had proof. Although I am on the line, hoping...

 

[Disneylover99]

Hey all-- I need your assistance! My mother, myself, and our friend in common have booked a Christmas trip to Wilderness Lodge at the end of December through the beginning of January. Well, now this friend's adult son won free tickets. Not only is our friend trying to invite her son on our vacation and stay in our room, but she wants to change the reservation so that he only needs to stay for 3 days so that he doesn't need to pay the full dining plan package at the rest of us are paying for.

I'm extremely frustrated because I don't know her son very well, and because this is extremely short notice for plans I have had completed for 2/3 of a year. Is it possible even to do a "split stay" where we have four people in the room for two nights out of the six? I'm very concerned that this is going to completely wreck our reservation of which there are none left at this point.

I'm truly hoping you all say no, because I'm looking for any excuse to nip this in the bud. She does not have common sense when it regards her children, and doesn't even appreciate that this is completely inappropriate to ask.

And anyone have any advice for me, for how to deal with this? ❤ I'm one of those people that has every moment planned because I don't want to miss one moment of anything related to holidays at Disney World, and it is NOT OKAY. JUST NOT OKAY.

... At the same point, however, I do not want to lose her friendship.

... But what about the dining reservations?!

I would just say no. Tell her that you and your mother are not comfortable sharing a room with her son. If she’s your friend, she’ll understand. I don’t think you need to prove anything to her.

 

[SwirlTheCitrus]

That would be a hard pass from me. "Thanks for the offer, but we have our plans pretty set already. I hope you guys have a great time. Maybe we could meet up to watch the fireworks one night and share stories."

Going at the same time is one thing. But inviting herself to stay in your room is a bridge WAY too far.

Yes, she already was staying with us-- but now is inviting her son, without offering to pay any more than her third of the cost.

 

[Farro]

Oh my god. I'd say nope, not staying with four adults in the room, too crowded. See if they can get a room for two nights elsewhere, then she can rejoin you after he leaves.

 

[SwirlTheCitrus]

Oh my god. I'd say nope, not staying with four adults in the room, too crowded. See if they can get a room for two nights elsewhere, then she can rejoin you after he leaves.

Do you think that there will even be a reservation from the 28-30th available? I will have to check...
She will still have to pay for the dining plan, though, wouldn't she? Otherwise we would have to rebook into a split stay....

 

[Jennasis]

Nope. Though I'm bettimg you feel bad telling her you are not comfortable with this set up?

The reality is that everyone in the room must be on the same amount of days and tix for a pkg. So he can't do just 3 days. Theoretically he could be added at check in for just x number if days...but she doesn't need to know that.

 

[Jennasis]

Also, tell her your mom is uncomfortable sharing a room with a man. And you are as well.

 

[Farro]

Do you think that there will even be a reservation from the 28-30th available? I will have to check...
She will still have to pay for the dining plan, though, wouldn't she? Otherwise we would have to rebook into a split stay....

The cheapest I saw is $347 at POFQ. If she's in your room she will have to be on dining plan. She was going to be anyways right? So I don't see big deal if she stays with son two nights and is technically booked in your room.

 

[SaintsManiac]

I can’t stop thinking about how awkward this could be. I struggle staying with my husband and daughter in a hotel room and they are the loves of my life. Lol

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

For this I would just kindly tell her unfortunately that's not really going to work out (if that's what you want). Understandable if she wants her son to come (I mean hello free tickets!) but if that were to happen he would be unable to stay with you in the room. I personally would recommend she get a room with her son and leave your room but I don't know how the financials are in that meaning are you relying on her share to make the room work?

She may not be able to find a room onsite for her son (and possibly her) to be in (and if offsite no DP for her) but she could def. look plus there's DS hotels and offsite hotels (many of which have free shuttles though they aren't always the most convenient). That time of year will likely be fairly hard given that it's so close (assuming it's this year) but that goes with the territory of short notice vacation plan changes. Maybe stressing how short notice it is may help push her towards thinking it's not the best idea.

An alternative for her is to take a mother-son trip at a later date but that may really depend on the expiration date of those free tickets. I get her wanting her son to come but it's impolite and unrealistic IMO to add her son into your room. Inviting on the trip is hard enough though especially if this was more supposed to be more of a girls trip. I wouldn't really appreciate inviting aspect to begin with.

 

[Wood Nymph]

I would not be comfortable with having her son in my room. Would her son even want to stay with three ladies? How old is this son? Can he get his own room somewhere?

Everyone has to be on the same package so her only option would be to add her son to your room when he arrives.

She is imposing on your travel group. This is a very sticky situation and I hope it resolves itself painlessly. Maybe the son will say no.

But what about the dining reservations?!

The dining reservations will remain as they are, although you would have to try to add him to the ADR.

She will still have to pay for the dining plan, though, wouldn't she? Otherwise we would have to rebook into a split stay...

She doesn't have to buy the dining plan for him. He can pay out of pocket for his meals.

 

[Moliphino]

Yes, she already was staying with us-- but now is inviting her son, without offering to pay any more than her third of the cost.

Oh hell no! She needs to get her own room for her and her son.

 

[siren0119]

To me it would begin and end with the idea of her son staying in a room with 3 women. I don't share hotel rooms with men I'm not related to or already practically family with. You've gotta be well versed in my weirdness before you get to see me in the morning lol.

What makes the MOST sense is for her to get a room for her son separately. yes she'd have to pay for the dining plan if she remained on your reservation, but heck she could use some of those dining credits to treat him to a meal if she wanted to.

Could you sell her on the idea if you and your mom offered to NOT charge her for her part of your room on the two nights she would be with her son?

 

[Brett Wyman]

Yuck. Very uncomfortable social situation. Honesty is the best policy here. Just tell her how you feel. No easy way out of this one though. If that upsets her she's not much of a friend anyway.

 

[mom2rtk]

Sounds like she is already staying in their room. She wants to add the son in now.

Skimmed too fast! It's even worse though that she thought she'd just sneak him in there and not pay any more. Still a hard pass. Adding someone of the opposite sex in a standard room is expecting way too much.

Too crowded, too awkward, too everything!