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ckret01

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I have a dilemma that I can use some opinions on. Last year my boyfriend and I went to Disney with his best friend and his wife. I didn’t know them very well at the time but we had a good time.

This year I booked the 7 for 5 deal for just me and my boyfriend to stay at the Contemporary resort which is a dream of mine. We have the reservations for Oct. Well the problem is the best friend and his wife want to go away with us again even if it is to Disney. Originally I had booked our vacation b/c I wanted to try and have a nice vacation with just my boyfriend (he isn’t really fond of Disney) but I got him to go. But now the other couple wants to go and I don’t know what to do. He and including myself feel bad if we tell them we are going and don’t invite them .The other catch to this is the wife can get a townhouse for free in Orlando through her job so we wouldn’t have to pay for a room and I can save all that money if we didn’t stay at the CR. (even though I have been so looking forward to staying there at a Tower room- I have never stayed there before). I just don’t know what to do and am getting upset with the whole thing now. What I thought would have been a nice vacation has turned out to be so stressful deciding to go with or without them and to save money or go without them and feel guilty. Any words of advice or comments may help me into making this hard decision a little easier. Thanks so much.
 
Don't lie to your friends...

Why not split your stay between the two? Reduce your stay at the CR, but also spend some time at the free townhome?

Tell them that this is something that you've always wanted to do - they'll understand.
 
That's a tough one. I had a similar situation last time...I invited my little cousin (14)to join us and it ended up his mom invited herself and her DH and her DD(7) as well.

At first it was a bit stressful b/c I wanted our "anniversary" trip back to WDW to be just DH and I. But we finally accepted it and to avoid any bad feelings, we went a couple of days ahead of them to spend alone, then they came down to join us.

Overall, we had a wonderful time! Perhaps you can book a couple of nights ahead for just your boyfriend and you then meet up with them at their townhouse.

Since you guys had a good time last trip, it wouldn't be too bad to share a great time again in WDW. (just my humble opinion).

I understand how you feel, I couldn't tell my family NO you can't come, I'm only bringing your son! So we made the best of it and had fun anyways!

Either way, a trip to WDW is a wonderful thing and you shouldn't get stressed over it no matter what! You should enjoy it!!! :hug:

Hope this helps, hope I didn't add to the confusion!

:wave2:
 
since they're his friends, can your BF help at all here?

If it were me and i had my heart set on a trip with just my SO, i would (or as a couple) tell the friends that while we'd like to take another trip with them, that this is a romantic getaway for 2 that you've been planning a long time...is it possible that you can do a long holiday weekend trip locally somewhere this or next year?

if they're married, surely they didn't want others along on their honeymoon LOL. hopefully that would get you out of it without hurting feelings.

good luck!!!
geek
 

I would tell them you and your boyfriend need some serious alone time, but would love to go to WDW them in the future. If they are real friends they will understand.
 
While staying on site is fun, staying for free anywhere is almost as good.:D However, if you are set on staying at CR(which is understandable) why not tell your friends that you can meet at parks or for dinners, and hang out that way? Better yet: plan another trip with the friends at their free place:earsboy:
 
I'm with Geekchick. Just tell them that you had a great time last time and you really want to do a vacation with them again but You two just want a little "couple time" that is really needed and you would love to stay at their place but this is a dream of yours to stay at the CR. I would also say that you just don't know when you will be going back again since your boyfriend isn't that big on WDW so you really want to take this opportunity.

I would also ask your boyfriend to join you in telling them so it will be easier.

Good luck... I know how hard it is... I've been in the same boat!!
:)
 

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