Hi everyone. This is my first post on this subject, so please bear with me. I need lots of advice, and I am hoping you can help me, as I am new to this arena.
My BF has a 10 y/o son who I love with all my heart and we are planning on joining our two families next year. His son has PDD and ADHD. There have been some custody issues recently and for 3 months he did not get to see his son, but that has been solved.
His son has some behavior issues and has been moved out of a mainstream school and into a behavior school where there have been some outbursts. He has attacked other children, as well as teachers and it has taken several adults as well as the school resource officer to pull him off.
He has hit his mom, bit her, and said he is bad so dad will come home. (We have not heard this, this is only been told to us) The school administrator called mom and demanded a meeting a little over a week ago about his outbursts, and reccommened he be in-patient evaluated because of his violence at school. We had him the weekend after the meeting and saw NO violence at all. No problems with him except for a little bit of teasing towards my son who is 13 after dad went to work. I put him in time out for 5 min, which he was not happy about, and he started shouting he was hungry, we had just ate, so I knew he was not and told him to calm down. He finished his time out, got a shower, took his meds, and went to bed.
Mom got a letter from the school psych on Saturday, which stated he had been telling her over several weeks that he wanted to go join his little brother in heaven and was going to bring a knife to school and cut his heart out. She told us this when we brought him home Sun. We spent all day Mon with him at the ER getting him evaluated and he is now in a Psych hospital and is coming off the 72 hr no-contact today. The nurse that checked him in said she saw in him that he is also bi-polar. Dad is also bipolar.
They are de-toxing him off of all of his meds and doing a complete re-evauluation of everything for him. He has had several episodes while down there already and been sedated a couple times and attacked a couple kids because they made him mad. We know this is the best thing for him because we want him better.
They have said it will be at least 9 days before he comes home, we know this, and we have discussed he won't be left alone with my 7 y/o DD until we know it is safe.
My questions are...
What all am I in for? I am not all that familiar with PDD as I have not had this child since birth and he has been kept away from his dad by his mom, and when we have him, he is fine. But we have a court order now Also, fill me in on bipolar in kids. I know about ADHD, as my former stepdaughter had it, and I raised her for many years.
TIA.
My BF has a 10 y/o son who I love with all my heart and we are planning on joining our two families next year. His son has PDD and ADHD. There have been some custody issues recently and for 3 months he did not get to see his son, but that has been solved.

He has hit his mom, bit her, and said he is bad so dad will come home. (We have not heard this, this is only been told to us) The school administrator called mom and demanded a meeting a little over a week ago about his outbursts, and reccommened he be in-patient evaluated because of his violence at school. We had him the weekend after the meeting and saw NO violence at all. No problems with him except for a little bit of teasing towards my son who is 13 after dad went to work. I put him in time out for 5 min, which he was not happy about, and he started shouting he was hungry, we had just ate, so I knew he was not and told him to calm down. He finished his time out, got a shower, took his meds, and went to bed.
Mom got a letter from the school psych on Saturday, which stated he had been telling her over several weeks that he wanted to go join his little brother in heaven and was going to bring a knife to school and cut his heart out. She told us this when we brought him home Sun. We spent all day Mon with him at the ER getting him evaluated and he is now in a Psych hospital and is coming off the 72 hr no-contact today. The nurse that checked him in said she saw in him that he is also bi-polar. Dad is also bipolar.
They are de-toxing him off of all of his meds and doing a complete re-evauluation of everything for him. He has had several episodes while down there already and been sedated a couple times and attacked a couple kids because they made him mad. We know this is the best thing for him because we want him better.
They have said it will be at least 9 days before he comes home, we know this, and we have discussed he won't be left alone with my 7 y/o DD until we know it is safe.
My questions are...
What all am I in for? I am not all that familiar with PDD as I have not had this child since birth and he has been kept away from his dad by his mom, and when we have him, he is fine. But we have a court order now Also, fill me in on bipolar in kids. I know about ADHD, as my former stepdaughter had it, and I raised her for many years.
TIA.