Naming baby!

[nkjzmom]

We found out we were pregnant just 2 weeks after my Grandma passed away in May, so decided right away that if this baby is a girl we would use her middle name as our baby's middle name....Yvonne.

Now I found out that my sister (who already wasn't speaking to me because she's having trouble conceiving and we're expecting our fifth) had planned on using Grandma's middle name for her first daughter...sometime in the future. So now we've got a whole new level of unhappiness and frustration towards us from them.

I'm totally comfortable with middle names being shared, especially if they're family names....now if I had "stolen" her choice for a first name...that would be different. I'm just wondering how many of you/your children/family have names repeating in your families.

 

[browneyes]

My cousin recently had a son. He named him Dakota. Same name as my 7 yo. I have 2 cousins that have ds's named Ethan. Ethan and Ethan are about a month and a half difference in age.

My SIL said I "stole" the name she wanted to use for a dd if she ever had one. She just neglected to tell me until after the birth certificate was signed. She wanted to use my dd's middle name. I told her if she ever has a dd, my dd would be honored to share the same name, which she would.

I think to save your sensitive sister from erupting, I'd just pick another name.

 

[coliebird]

My cousin and I are both named after our great-grandmother and it has never been a problem. Actually, it was always kind of fun growing up. Someone would call our name and we would both answer

On the other hand, when my daughter was born I named her Nicole Lauren. My brothers wife had a fit. Apparently, she loved the name Lauren and decided if she ever had a girl that would be her name and now I "stole" it. I told her that I had no problem with her naming her daughter Lauren, it didn't bother me. They are expecting their son in 3 weeks, I wonder if she'll name him Lauren, lol.

Anyway, I say if it means that much to you, than choose whatever name you want. I'm sorry for your sister, but she should really be happy for you and respect your decision. There is no reason the name can't be used by both of you.

BTW, congratulations.

 

[damo]

My daughter and my sister's daughter both have the same middle name. I don't think many people even noticed.

 

[vald1977]

I don't see any problem with two cousins sharing the same middle name. I'm sure your grandmother would be honored .

 

[MICKEY88]

my ex wife, my daughter and 2 of my nieces all share the same middle name my daughter age 22 and niece age 25 have always been close and have thought the shared name was a special bond between them...

I would name your child what you want..especially if it's a family name..why should one family member have exclusive rights to honoring another family member

 

[4greatboys]

Slightly OT but along the naming lines. I used to work with a girl who had 4 kids--3 girls and a boy and all the girls had the same middle name--Renee (which by the way is a great middle name and just happens to be my middle name too but spelled Rena).
If your ds was pg and planning on using that name then maybe I would think about using another but 1 she is not pg and 2 may not even have a child of that sex to use the name on. Wish you the best with your baby and with your sis.

 

[CEDmom]

I don't think there's anything wrong with having the same middle name within a family. I have siblings and cousins with the same first names and it's never been a problem.

As an aside, your sister is on an emotional roller coaster dealing with fertility problems. Take it from someone who went through several years of that, she just really needs your compassion right now. Don't take a lot of what she says and does too personally.

 

[Pooh67_68]

What was your gradmothers first name? Maybe one of you could use her first name as a middle name.

 

[sap1227]

We "reuse" middle names in my family a lot.

Marie is my middle name, my aunt's middle name and her daughter (my cousins) middle name

Rose is my grandmother's middle name, a different aunt's middle name, her daugther's middle name (my cousin) and my sisters middle name.

There is no conflict in our family over the names

Good luck!

Christy

 

[dizneegirl]

3 of us in my family share the same middle name (a family name), another cousin has a similar middle name... I don't see a problem with it.

 

[Charleneluvsdisney]

My family is full of the same middle names! My mom, my sister, niece and myself all have the middle name of Marie. My brother, father and my brothers 2 kids all have the middle name of Valentine, which also belonged to my Grandfather and if you can believe this one, my SIL's father's middle name was Valentine!

My son's name is Michael and so is my husband's cousin. We did ask him if he had any boys would he plan on using that name. He said no, but if he did say yes, we probably would have picked out something else.

I also gave my son the same middle name as my husband.

 

[nkjzmom]

Thank you all for your replies. DH's family has used the name Ann quite a bit, us included. I think it's all about honoring those family members whose name you are using. I too think Grandma would be honored to have more than one great granddaughter named after her.

If if was a first name, I'd feel a little strange, but middle names should be no problem. I just got done talking with my sister and I feel like we've got it taken care of. I think we'll both use it! I told her it really was about honoring Grandma....not who used it/or used it first. But she did claim our Grandfather's name Walter!! That's okay....I hadn't planned on that anyway.

 

[nkjzmom]

Deena...my DD and I share the middle name Renee also!! I always wanted to change it to my first name because it sounded so much more exotic than Amy.

CEDmom...thanks for your comments. I have cried many tears since finding out we were pregnant because I knew how hurt my sister would be. She was the first person I thought of when the test came back positive. We're talking now, but I tread lightly and take her lead on talking about the pregnancy.

Pooh67_68...Grandma's first name was Delores....that one is a little hard to match up. Our other Grandma's name is Lois Vernetta....another hard one! So Yvonne is our best bet!!

 

[whirlsy]

sorry for your sister but whose to say she will even have a baby , a girl for that matter if she is blessed with a baby, I wouldnt even think twice about using the middle name, she will get over it and if she does get pregnant and it happens to be a girl she will be so happy that I am sure she wont mind sharing the middle name. I have a best friend going through fertility problems and let me tell you she is totally obsessed, her personallity has changed so much it has paid a toll on our friendship, I am there for her but boy some of the things that come out of her mouth. Congratulations on your new baby. I love the nick name vonnie.

 

[cati]

Congrats on your pregnancy. Wonderful news.

I symphathize with how your sister is feeling though. I too, went through this. I wanted a child sooo bad, had 5 miscarriages and then a tubal. When my sister in law got pregnant she named her DD the same and entire name I had picked out since I was a little girl (the name I had chosen). Now, I have my own children and it does not hurt as bad.

How about naming your DD after your grandmother AND your sister. My sister named her DD after me and while I was going through soooo much at that time, I felt really close to her during her pregnancy because I felt like the baby was part of me (since she was being named after me). My niece and I are still VERY close to this day even though now I have my own DD. I can honestly say that when my sister told me she was naming her little girl after me, it kind of helped me with the feelings of "why does everyone else get to have a baby, but me".

Keep us updated.

 

[Disney Doll]

It's too bad your sister is letting her infertility issues color her relationships and her life.

Try to be understanding.

 

[luv2nascar]

DD's name is Emma Elizabeth
I had wanted to name our dd8 Emma as it was my grandmother's name but DH was not to thrilled
I managed to sell him on it this time
SIL had wanted to name her DS, 6 months older than DD Emily Rose
I dont' know if she still plans on Emily she is preggers again
Emma and Emily are very close names
but I had my heart set on Emma and if she names her baby Emily so be it. Maybe it will be a boy.

 

[Nutsy]

neither of my two have names that belonged to anyone else.

DH is the reversal of his father & his nieces & nephews are all after their parents or grandparents.

I specifically did not want that for my kids..........I wanted them to have their own identity.