Myspace friend advice needed

[mking624]

OP, I hear your plight. I deleted two "friends" for their ridiculousness. The first was an old friend from high school who used to date my cousin. She continuously always posted these nasty bulletins that were incredibly demeaning to anyone who dared to have a differing opinion. I got sick and tired of it. The second one was someone I used to know as well...but she continuously flooded the bulletin section with all these sexually graphic bulletins...the the point that I woul dhave to go back a few pages to just see someone elses bulletin...she seriously did this every single day.

It's not a matter of being "high schoolish," but this is MY myspace account and I'm sorry, but I don't want to have it slapped in my face every single time I sign onto my account. A "once in a great while" hello isn't worth being flooded with all that nonsense. No, I don't have to open the bulletins, but neither should I have to go through pages and pages of bulletins just to find one I AM interested in. That's just absurd.

I say just delete her and move on. Myspace can be a fun site...don't let someone else ruin it for you.

I pretty much leave my friends to people I actually know and care about. Very few on my account are people who are not in that category (such as a few bands I like, or something). But I'm not afraid to give someone the boot if their antics cross the line. I wasted enough time in high school with that...and now I no longer need to.

 

[Lil_Tink]

I dont see it as too mean. I mean its myspace right.

 

[DVC Sadie]

ok maybe it's just me but how old are you??? Deleting an old friend because of a post?

Also if it's a bulliten or a message either 1, you can view who it is and the topic title before even opening. If it's from her with a title that just sounds like it will go a wrong way, don't open it, it's that easy.

Sorry if this sounds harsh.

ITA! You do not sound harsh at all, but very realistic!

 

[annegal]

Trust me--I've got almost 600 "friends" on myspace, and I'd count about 20 of them as "true" friends, and know a couple hundred in real life.




Anne

How impressive

 

[ducklite]

How impressive

Do you not know a couple hundred people in real life? I'm not talking about people you consider friends, but people you know? In my case because I work as a concert photographer, I'll have a band, then three of the guys in the band, their manager, attorney, publicist, and the wife of the singer. That's eight people right there that I know.

Then there are former classmates, co-workers, neighbors, people from church, the list goes on.

I'd find it hard to believe that anyone doesn't know 200 people in real life.

Anne

 

[jfulcer]

My age is not relevent to the situation. We were friends probably about 9 years ago and I have not really seen or talked to her for the last 5 or 6. It's not like we're best friends for life or anything. I don't open the bulletins. I'm just tired of seeing the topics. I never talk to her anyway. I'll probably just delete her. Thanks for the input.

I kinda agree with foolishmortal, age does have a bearing on part of the question. If you're like 35, or 40 - this becomes kinda a weird question, but if you're like 22 (or around there?), it makes it a little easier to understand.

At 37, I've learned that people use the word 'friends' as a really loose term. I would call the people that I know in real life 'friends'. People that I don't see very often but I still know (in RL or on the 'net) can still be friends.

But someone who I used to know and it's obvious we're going to different directions in life, I might consider an 'ex-friend' or something along that line.

 

[annegal]

Do you not know a couple hundred people in real life? I'm not talking about people you consider friends, but people you know?


I'd find it hard to believe that anyone doesn't know 200 people in real life.

Anne

But surely not all of those people have a myspace board...get serious.

 

[ducklite]

But surely not all of those people have a myspace board...get serious.

So I have a larger circle of friends and aquaintences than some people, and a lot of mine are on Myspace. I work in the music industry where not having myspace is beyond rare, and have a lot of my business associates and acquaintences as "friends." What is so freaking wrong with that? Why on earth would you flame me for it? Geesh!

Anne

 

[annegal]

I'm not flaming you. The normal middle aged person, their friends, family , church members, work mates etc is a large circle of people.

You indicated that you could not believe I didn't "know" 200 people in that sort of connotation. Of course I do.

But you als0 seem incredulous that all those people don't have a myspace page.

In your industry people do....my point is the average middle aged American does not. That's all.