My wife thinks Im nutts!!

[disneydad78]

Anyone else haven the problem im having,,MY wife thinks Im crazy,,Im a 30 yr old man , who owns his own business, has 3 wonderful kids, and loves WDW. It just makes me fill so happy, I can leave all my stress behind me. When Im on the boards it helps me get my mind of coaching baseball,business and etc. She says im sick . I study and try to learn as much as I can so my kids have a wonderful vacation. I stay on these boards and before I know it ,midnight,1am..She works nights, kids go to bed and im on DISboards,,am I alone here??O and to here defence she likes WDW,,is there ways I can get her more excited. She says her whole life, her parents would promise vacations,and they would never come true. She says,yr after yrs of being let down,i mean yrs, its hard to get her excited about things.She has watched her parents fight all her life.Then 2 yrs ago her mother killed herself. I dont know what to do to make her excited about this,we are taking her sister who is now 20,and everytime I ask her, she shows no emotion either..Please help any ideas

 

[cjstarr]

Anyone else haven the problem im having,,MY wife thinks Im crazy,,Im a 30 yr old man , who owns his own business, has 3 wonderful kids, and loves WDW. It just makes me fill so happy, I can leave all my stress behind me. When Im on the boards it helps me get my mind of coaching baseball,business and etc. She says im sick . I study and try to learn as much as I can so my kids have a wonderful vacation. I stay on these boards and before I know it ,midnight,1am..She works nights, kids go to bed and im on DISboards,,am I alone here??O and to here defence she likes WDW,,is there ways I can get her more excited. She says her whole life, her parents would promise vacations,and they would never come true. She says,yr after yrs of being let down,i mean yrs, its hard to get her excited about things.She has watched her parents fight all her life.Then 2 yrs ago her mother killed herself. I dont know what to do to make her excited about this,we are taking her sister who is now 20,and everytime I ask her, she shows no emotion either..Please help any ideas

Well lets see it's 12:40am, hmmm no you're not alone!!! I'm here!!!
Addicted who’s addicted,
not me !!!

Charles

 

[myAAbatteries&aTD]

Anyone else haven the problem im having,,MY wife thinks Im crazy,,Im a 30 yr old man , who owns his own business, has 3 wonderful kids, and loves WDW. It just makes me fill so happy, I can leave all my stress behind me. When Im on the boards it helps me get my mind of coaching baseball,business and etc. She says im sick . I study and try to learn as much as I can so my kids have a wonderful vacation. I stay on these boards and before I know it ,midnight,1am..She works nights, kids go to bed and im on DISboards,,am I alone here??O and to here defence she likes WDW,,is there ways I can get her more excited. She says her whole life, her parents would promise vacations,and they would never come true. She says,yr after yrs of being let down,i mean yrs, its hard to get her excited about things.She has watched her parents fight all her life.Then 2 yrs ago her mother killed herself. I dont know what to do to make her excited about this,we are taking her sister who is now 20,and everytime I ask her, she shows no emotion either..Please help any ideas

First of all, you are definitely NOT alone! I love DIS and am on here ALL the time - great stress-reliever like you said! (you sound a lot like me w/ the own business, 3 kids, etc... my dh does somewhat understand my addiction to DIS, though!)

Second, I'm so sorry for your wife's past.... Has your wife ever been to WDW? It doesn't sound like it from your post, so maybe she just hasn't experienced the magic and w/ her past experiences, it sounds like it would be very hard to understand all the excitement w/out actually experiencing it.... hopefully after your WONDERFUL trip, she and her sister will be more excited..... I know I didn't get the whole Disney thing at all until I went for the first time on our honeymoon - then I was hooked, and then I found DIS, much later I'm afraid, and here I am at 12:30 playing around on here.... best of luck!

 

[dbarker]

No, you are not alone. (I s/b in bed and asleep now. 6 am is going to come very soon)

My DH never got to go anywhere "fun" as a kid. We (Me, DH and my DS(then10) went to WDW for the first time while DH and I were still dating...actually a couple of months before we got married. Anyway, he was hooked...hook, line & sinker. I think DH is actually more excited about WDW than I am (he just doesn't show it). However, I do all the planning. It is what works best in our family.

Advice about your DW and SIL: Be patient w/ them. They have come from a rough background. They are probably afraid to get excited, for fear of disappointment. It is probably ingrained so heavily from childhood that they are not going to overcome it very quickly or easily. So, plan your trip. Keep them informed. Ask for opinions on things to do, places to eat, etc. Don't you get disappointed or discouraged when they do not show excitement.

Go to WDW and let them experience the Magic. Then, as soon as you get back home, ask them when they want to go again, and start planning the next trip...even if it is a couple of years out. Keep the magic alive for them. It will be a hard job, but you can do it.

Good luck, and have fun.

 

[SiClone]

I know what you mean... It's past 1 AM and I'm still on here. This is a bad place to be when you need to sleep and go to work in the morning.

DW had been asking to take our 2 DS (now 12 and 10) to WDW over the last 5 years. I always told her they were too young and wouldn't like it. They didn't really care for rides at the fair and carnivals, so I thought it would be a waste of money. I had never been to WDW and only went to DL once when I was a kid. I didn't know any better.

In January '07, something clicked and I said, let's do it. Our youngest son wasn't going to turn 2 until March of 2007, so I figured we were saving money by not having to buy a plane ticket or park pass for him. Also, the 2 older boys were 9 and 11, so DS9 was still only a child according to WDW. Another savings! So I planned a trip for the week prior to President's Day. 1.5 months wasn't much time compared to a lot of the die-hards on here. Luckily I found the DIS boards and spent many late nights and early mornings reading posts. I even bought TGM planner which helped tremendously. The minute we got into MK, everything changed for me. I definitely felt the MAGIC and now I'm hooked! We went to a P&PP and had a GREAT time! DW laughs about it because I was the one who didn't want to go at all and now I'm the one urging us to go more often.

My point is, DW does not do any of the planning at all. The MAGIC didn't overwhelm her like it did me. Yes, she thinks I'm crazy for not sleeping (especially right now) and staying on line checking these threads and posts. I had to convince her that staying on-site (our 1st time) is something we should try at least once. I told her the free dining will allow us to go to more TS and character meals. Up until now, we've only been to 3 TS's (Nine Dragons(D-1st trip), Ohana's(D-2nd trip), and Chef Mickeys(B-2nd trip)). In August, we'll be doing Ohana's(D) again, Le Cellier(L), Princess Storybook(D), Crystal Palace(D), and Cape May(B). DW is slowly learning and being OK with is that I'm on here to make our next WDW vacation the best it can be!

So give it some time and they will soon discover the MAGIC, too....

 

[gibsontrio]

I think its GREAT!! Your not taking away time from you family and lets face it you could be doing way worse things..lol.. I wish my DH would get as excited as you do!!!

 

[2Kds2K9]

Nope, you're not alone. I don't want to count how many times I'm on here looking at new threads during the day.

Just yesterday, my 14DS stated that he wanted to go to Disney again this Summer. YAHOO! DH thought he was nuts, but I'm excited. DD will go with us wherever!

Regarding your DW and SIL. It's going to take time. You will need to show them that life is not a big disappointment and that one can get excited about things that will come about. Take them by the hand and lead them though life with lots of love and TLC. They will come to realize that they can enjoy and trust the excitement again.

Good luck!
Leigh

 

[OceanStateKelly]

All NUTS!!!

Kelly/RI

 

[NorweJenNY]

I wish my hubby would get more excited too... but I know he's under a lot of stress lately. Once we're there, he'll be a different person... a happier, younger one hopefully.

I'm hoping it won't be like last year when he was sick as anything and couldn't enjoy the parks most of the trip. I'm hoping the upcoming trips will be more like family vacations with the whole family.

I am also realizing how addicting these boards can get! I've been mostly reading because my log-in pw wasn't working right... got that fixed today, so I can finally post & say "hi" to everybody!

I wish I was in Disney right now!