My wife is really angry with me... should she be?

[Big Cuddly Bear]

She asked me to do laundry, so I did. I took all the laundry from the laundry chute.

Problem is, is that I washed a sweater of hers that was "Hand Wash Only"....

1. Like I would know to look for that....

2. If she had hand wash only stuff, she should have not put it in the laundry chute, IMO.

So now she is upset because it shrunk to the point where she can't wear it. I don't see how this is my fault. I never even knew we had anything in our home that was Hand Wash Only.

 

[HelenePA]

where should she have put it then? dirty laundry goes in there right? it was dirty and laundry...

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

Big Cuddly Bear,

This is easy for me. You are not at fault. Who reads labels before they wash clothes. Sure, you read it when you buy it, but you didn't buy it so therefore you are not responsible. Now go, and enjoy your day. to your fuming wife.

 

[Hutchy]

You washed clothes, she shouldn't complain. If I have something that needs special care I set it aside so it's not mixed in with everything else. Next time she'll be more careful. I don't check my husband's pockets or check any of his uniforms for special instructions so I don't see where it was your responsibility unless she had told you before hand not to wash that exact sweater and then you forgot.

 

[OK!]

If it were me, I'd have kept hand-wash-only things separate from regular laundry, primarily because I've lost sweaters before when well-meaning men dumped them in with all of the other laundry without a thought. It did take me twice, but since then, the hand-wash stuff stays far, far away from the machine-washable stuff.

 

[bicker]

Repeat after me: The wife is always right.

 

[Big Cuddly Bear]

If it were me, I'd have kept hand-wash-only things separate from regular laundry, primarily because I've lost sweaters before when well-meaning men dumped them in with all of the other laundry without a thought. It did take me twice, but since then, the hand-wash stuff stays far, far away from the machine-washable stuff.

LOL, well her response to my telling her that she should have kept it separate is that I should not wash any of her clothes from now on.... and she's still hopping mad.

 

[Michelle and crew]

If you are going to do a job, do it well. That would be like me using my husbands chainsaw and putting gas, not oil in it. I shouldn't be appreciated for just helping out.

 

[Big Cuddly Bear]

If you are going to do a job, do it well. That would be like me using my husbands chainsaw and putting gas, not oil in it. I shouldn't be appreciated for just helping out.

That might make sense IF I had any reason to know that there was hand wash only stuff in our home. I've been with my wife 13 years, and I never came across it before.

 

[HelenePA]

Big Cuddly Bear,

This is easy for me. You are not at fault. Who reads labels before they wash clothes. Sure, you read it when you buy it, but you didn't buy it so therefore you are not responsible. Now go, and enjoy your day. to your fuming wife.

You think he's going to enjoy his day? I would bet he wont. If your going to help after being asked, then do it a half ***ed job with it, then just dont do it at all.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

I guess it varies by wife as you can already see on this thread. I have never beein in this situation, not only because I can count on one hand how many loads of laundry DH has done (not at alllll complaining, we have had a system that works well for us for more then 17 years.) Also, I have never owned anything nice enough to be hand wash. Having said that, if I did I would think I would put it aside. I tell hubby and the kids if they have a stain or something that needs extra attention to put it seperate. If I wash and dry without noticing the stain and it gets set we all get upset over that. So they put it seperate and I know to deal with it seperatly.

Hopefully she is just upset by the item being ruined and not so much with you for doing it. I guess the good news is you won't be asked to doing laundry again. Just kidding! But really, it was an honest mistake, IMO.

As for the wife is always right, I have never understood that. I am not always right and I like to be called out on it when I am not. It seems to me that makes one persons's feeling more important then the other and that makes me sad just thinking about it. Again, just my opinion.

 

[npmommie]

Big Cuddly Bear,

This is easy for me. You are not at fault. Who reads labels before they wash clothes. Sure, you read it when you buy it, but you didn't buy it so therefore you are not responsible. Now go, and enjoy your day. to your fuming wife.

I agree with this.

I would keep anything handwash only out of the pile, because my well intentioned husband would do the same thing.

I usually never buy anything handwash only cuz who has the time?? LOL

 

[Brit17]

Personally, I wouldn't be mad at my DH if he accidently ruined my sweater in the wash ... I would just be happy that he DID the wash ... and then I would just go out and buy myself a new sweater ... that's all ...

 

[LuvOrlando]

Ouch,that's bad.

I rolled this around in my head a few moments before coming up with yes, she is right to be angry. Why do I say this? Because if I were to say no, then I would be being sexist to assume a guy is incapable of reading labels or shouldn't be expected to know fabrics because they don't know any better. If women can work outside the home guys should be able to do the laundry with equal skill. Welcome to equality

That said my DH just isn't me so when he does do the laundry or puts dishes and groceries away I don't think it's right of me to expect him to do it just like I do. If I want it my way I do it, which is how things tend to go. I don't go to his office and mess with his place of work to suit me and he doesn't come into my office and mess with my place of work either and in my SAHM case, our home IS my office.... well a good portion of it anyway

 

[Michelle and crew]

Personally, I wouldn't be mad at my DH if he accidently ruined my sweater in the wash ... I would just be happy that he DID the wash ... and then I would just go out and buy myself a new sweater ... that's all ...

Lol, my husband wears clothes, and knows how to wash. It i a household chore.

 

[tvguy]

My wife has a simple way around that.
We never buy hand washable or dry clean only clothing.

She also rarely ALLOWS me to touch the washer and dryer, and she doesn't touch the cars. She has put gas in a car just once in the 28 years we've been married.

 

[TheZue]

Ouch,that's bad.

I rolled this around in my head a few moments before coming up with yes, she is right to be angry. Why do I say this? Because if I were to say no, then I would be being sexist to assume a guy is incapable of reading labels or shouldn't be expected to know fabrics because they don't know any better. If women can work outside the home guys should be able to do the laundry with equal skill. Welcome to equality

Exactly. My husband isn't a moron, I'm not going to give him a pass on wrecking something because he didn't bother to read.That said my husband avoids my nice clothes like the plague because he knows enough to know he shouldn't touch them. I also think you wife is a little at fault because she could have given you a heads up to avoid them. Bottom line is you need to learn how to do laundry properly so this won't happen again. It's not rocket surgery.

 

[EllenFrasier]

Is it a rarity for you to do laundry? If you don't usually do it, then I would say you have an excuse. My Dh recently decided to "help" me with the laundry. He had taken the day off and I was working. He put the clothes from the washer to the dryer - the underwear and whites. He also put my bras in the dryer - I always hang them up to dry. Now he did not know this because he does not do the laundry, but I was not too thrilled to see what he did. I did not get mad over it though because he meant well...

 

[bicker]

Is it a rarity for you to do laundry?

It's funny, actually. My wife and I each do our own laundry "of course". I put "of course" in quotation marks because, during lunch at work a few weeks ago, it came to my attention that I'm basically the only guy at my office who has a wife who does not do his laundry, and all the women there who had husbands did their husband's laundry.

I was shocked.

 

[ols386]

If I have something that has to be hand-washed, I don't put it in with the regular dirty clothes. I keep it separate, because even I might forget that it's in with the regular dirty clothes.

I think your wife is over-reacting. It's just a sweater. And if the sweater is that important to her, then she should have made sure to remind you not to wash the sweater in with the regular laundry.