My step-brother just announced his divorce...

[FutureAshleyDukes]

I feel awful even bringing up my wedding plans now. Would it be tacky to still have our wedding this October? Or should we think about maybe moving it back (which we REALLY don't want to do)

 

[Mommy Poppins]

Absolutely not! You should not move your wedding because your stepbrother is getting a divorce. YOu have been planning this for a long time. I'm sure he will want to see you happy. Your wedding has nothing to do with his divorce. I would go ahead with your plans.

 

[PryncessChrysty]

I'm so sorry to hear about your step-brother, but I definitely do not think you should even consider moving your wedding!! October is still just over 7 months away - that's more than enough time for everyone to calm down from his announcement.

My goodness, especially after everything you have been through this past year in trying to plan your wedding...no way!!!!

Maybe just try to not bring it up a lot while he's around for the next month or so...

 

[sajetto]

My goodness you should certainly NOT change your wedding plans! Ashley, as terrible as a divorce can be it is not a death of an immediate family member nor is it an illness. This is your wedding and as unfortunate as it is for your brother to be going through a divorce it is no reason not to continue on with your marriage. He should be happy for you and not expect that you would postpone such an important day in your life.

 

[hmgolden]

I agree. I don't think you should change your wedding plans. I'm sure your step brother will understand and will want you to be happy.

 

[Tinkerbelle14]

I agree with all the previous posts. While I am sure he will not be over his marriage by then, it is still long enough away that he will be back to being happy for people getting married. He is going to want his step-sister to be happy and just because his marriage wasn't successful doesn't mean he won't want to help you celebrate your's.
I agree that you have been through way too much with trying to get this wedding planned that you should not have to delay it again. I'm sure he'll be fine and ready to talk about the wedding plans in a couple of months, but bringing them up now is not the greatest idea. I'm sure he'll ask how the plans are going once he is ready to talk about it.
Just give him lots of love and be supportive. I'm sure the last thing he would want right now would be for his divorce to impact another couple's marriage.

 

[FutureAshleyDukes]

Thank you, ladies. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't doing something that other family members might see as inappropriate given the situation.

 

[TexasCourt]

As sad as that is for your brother, I am in agreement with everyone else.....absolutely not! Your getting married, and his getting a divorce are two separate things. Enjoy your wedding planning, this is your time to be blissful and happy!

 

[Laurafoster]

It is sad about the divorce but you have had enough problems with your wedding plans already! If i were you i would definately go ahead!

 

[bzzelady]

It's wonderful of you to think of your brother and his feelings, but I would not think of postponing your own wedding. Go forth and celebrate!

 

[mickeyfan2]

Why should you move your marriage date because somebody else's marriage is breaking up?

 

[twojo21]

stick with your wedding plans, youve had so many set backs you two deserve to finally get married! & im sure your brother wont hold it againest you.



23 days until were married at wdw!

 

[JonetteA]

Ash,

You have been through so much! It is time to do this thing. I think that your step-brother will understand after everything that has been going on. It is YOUR time now!
It's time to get hitched girl!

 

[ksumn1]

I was just surfing the boards and cam across this post. Please, Please do not postpone your wedding. I can give you a personal example. My DH and I got engaged in February and started planning our very small, intimate non Disney wedding. We attended church with his family and picked the date Dec 17. I had always wanted a Christmas wedding. We call informally and tell everyone the good news before booking the church etc. 3 days later we get a call from DH's grandmother thet his Aunt became engaged on Valentines Day and wanted to also get married at Christmas in the same church. OK, hectic 2 wedddings at Christmas but doable, since ours was going to be fairly low key mostly family and his aunt's was going to be large. Well, DH's grandmother calls back and thinks that's it really not fair to have 2 weedings so clse to each other at Christmas and since we already put the cart in front of the horse (we already had a baby together) and were younger and since his aunt had waited so long, couldn't we just change our date. Especially since we didn't need as much time to plan since we were having a small wedding! So, to keep the peace and not alienate DH's grandmother and that portion of the family and because it did make a little sense, we got married on August 27th. I never had my dream Christmas wedding, and to be honest every year that I can't go on an Anniversary trip (DH works and power lines and is always out of town working because of a stupid hurrican or tropical storm) I get a little upset. Moral of the story, be considerate of everyone's feelings right now, be tactful of what your brother is going through, but have your wedding on your day, and be happy. You are the Princess that day and don't let anything ruin your plans! Oh, and Congratulations!!

 

[we3disneygo]

I would agree with everyone else don't change your plans......when we were planning our wedding brother in law met a girl in the bar and 1 month later wanted to get married they had to hurry and do it before us......2 weeks before to be exact......dh and I had been dating for 7 years!!!!!! and had everything planned....my grandfather passed away about 2 months before but we went ahead as planned......we have been married 20 years this fall and brother in law made it about 3 yrs.....................

 

[allisonswonderland]

Don't change your plans....Gosh I feel for you - with all of your ups and downs, I do not know that you should let something stand in the way. So sweet to consider your brother, but would he really want you to postpone? I think it would probably be a good thing for him to focus on something fun and happy.

 

[princessblueeyzes]

You have gone through so much already. Don't change your plans. Maybe talk to your step-brother and be honest with him and let him know that you understand that it is a hard time in his life but you would like him to still take part in your wedding. I'm sure he will understand and be happy for you- besides he probably needs something to help keep him busy from thinking about the divorce. Hopefully you will all have a wonderful and great time. Here's some pixie dust for you