This past weekend I went to visit my sister because her DS was getting married. She has been complaining about the in-laws and how they are nit picking every little expense. They had a budget of $2500.
If you are trying to throw a wedding on a budget that size these days I can imagine you would need to watch every little expense--those little things add up. Now my sister is not the easiest person to get along with, but from what I saw this weekend, the family that my nephew married in to are something else all together.
My nephew and his fiance actually got married in front to the magistrate in February. Why they didn't wait until the day before the wedding is everyone's best guess - (15 weeks pregnant).
I cannot even figure out what you are saying here
You are offended they got legally married near the time of the pregnancy? Something else? How is commenting on that anything but rude? So I see the future DIL when we go to decorate the church. She says absolutely nothing to me. Her mother doesn't even introduce us.
Not very polite of her--then agian not very polite of you not to introduce yourself. Both are equally bad in my opinion.She comes by the next day and again, no introduction plus she parks herself and does absolutely nothing both days to help get things done.
Your sister (as noted by many PPs was the rude one here). She probably should have helped--did anyone ask her to? Did she perhaps think she would be in the way if she tried? Where was your nephew at this time? Was he helping? The night of the rehearsal dinner, she starts to complain that someone is at a table that she knows nobody. I explain that we spread people out so they could get to know others.
Generally it is polite to put guests near at least one other person they know if possible. Mixing acquaintances and strangers is good but making one person be among only strangers is not nice. She EXPLODES on my sister about it.
Exploding was not nice. Even pregnant and a bride that is rude--I agree with you on this one. They turns and says that she didn't want the rehearsal dinner at my sister's house anyway. My sister said that it wasn't her decision to make. Bride says that it wasn't my sister's choice to make either that it was her son's. WRONG - it is the groom's parents choice, since they are paying for it.
How RUDE. Seriously, not askign the parents to pay more than they are comfortable with is important but I really think the parents should take the bride and groom's wishes into account. Not doing so is controlling and spiteful and throwing the "well we are paying for it so we will do what we want" card out there really highlights that attitude. I can see why the bride might not have wanted to help if any of what you were working on was this dinner that was hosted by your sister and her husband and they have the attitude that the bride and groom get NO say in it at all. If I had NO say in that and were encountering that I attitude I would not want to work on it either My sister then told the FIL that he still owed her some money, so he stormed off and never came back.
It was rude of your sister to bring up the money at that time and wrong of the FIL to storm off. So much for the rehearsal dinner, kindof tense after that.
Wedding day. Subway sandwiches are late, bride's friend can't do it, can someone at my sister's do it? Sorry its not happening, that is your family's job, find someone.
Really? What a horrible welcome to the family--no we will not help you out with a little thing if you are in a bind 
We have everything just about ready, and head to the wedding. Bride's mother comes in a dress that is black & white up top and red on the bottom, but strapless and short (really to short for her age).
You seem like you were really looking for things to criticize. Why? The bride's dress wasn't too bad, but the shoes were 6" red stilletos - best described as Stripper shoes.
If I could walk in them comfortably I would wear them The minister made a couple comments that some of us felt unappropriate as they were strictly directed at the groom and not the bride too
like?. (He was in blue jeans and flip flops).
so? Then when it came to the kiss, he had to kiss her next to her lips, but not on them.
again, so?
The father of the bride did not come to the reception,
that is odd and possibly rude. Was he still that upset about the request for money the night before? Was a reason given? Perhaps he did not feel well? and then told his wife to make sure that any left over food came home as they had paid for it.
makes sense to me The wedding cake was terrible. The MIL filled her plate before all the guests had arrived.
Normal--otherwise she would be so busy once people got there that she would not have time to eatThe bride who insisted on a head table, never sat down near it at all.
Was she circulating the room and greeting guests, etc? I never got to sit at my reception and hardly got any food because I was busy being a hostess. She gave away her veil
odd, but not rude. Why does this botehr you?and then tried to blame my sister for a box that got left at the church that had her shoes in them and the throw-away bouquet and a couple envelopes. It wasn't my sister's job, it was either the brides, or her bridesmaids or her mom's job.
It was not nice of her to blame your sister. It sounds like it was likely a misunderstanding about who was supposed to grab what.
My sister did pack every single thing up for the mom.
Good for your sister--I am glad she started working on getting along with the new addition to her family at the endEven the silk rose petals that were used to decorate the tables and the terrible wedding cake
most wedding cake tastes awful--I never thought to think teh bride or her family is to blame for this. Plus the favors and the church decorations. Any thing that the father might think that my sister might keep.
We had a good time after everyone left. Plus we did 2 shots of Fireball at the start of the reception and 1 at the end. (I want to find some of that)
Any way just a vent. Felt sorry for my sister and we don't always see eye to eye on things. I was glad that I went to help when she asked, because she doesn't has for help often.
I hope everyone can get past their wedding differences and make things pleasant for the new couple instead of putting them in the middle of all kinds of family drama.
