My parents really have annoyed me!

[angel659]

Hi

I am so annoyed I need to vent out.

I am an only child and I can not emphasize that I am not a spoilt only child. Far from it. Thats fine though.

Whats annoyed me is I got a text about twenty mins ago saying that mum has had her appendix out and she seems fine though.

That was my rection. At know point did they mention that mum was having her appendix out. I knew she was having tests done for abdo pain, but her results apparently were not due until September. Receiving this text was quite shocking. I replied and added why was I not informed. My dad said that mum didnt want anyone to know. I replied saying that I was not anyone and I should at least of been told, they would not of liked it if Bruce did the same to them. Asked when does mum come home and I will pick her up from hospital.

I have just had to send it agian, apparently it did not come out. I am so livid and had a cry. That I must mean that little to them. Its other things they do and have done that just proves to me that I am no where on thier priority list. My mum lied to her work saying she has her grandchildren every other friday so she gets every other friday off. One day I went into her store and forgot that was what she said. They questioned her. The next friday she was off. She took the kids into her shop to show them off. I know it was to try and prove that she has them They will drop anything for her brothers, sisters and masons. Me well I seem to be right at the bottom of thier priroties. I am so upset and so tearful. I got back from holiday on Thursday morning. Yes I could of phoned, but we have been so busy.

Ethan cut his chin open he had to go to A&E. I was due back to work on Friday. After being at work for three hours I was sent to A&E after an injury I occured whilst away and then Sat we had to get a new car because my car was written off a two weeks before I went away. I needed a new car. Sunday I had to get Casey's school uniform.

I have been so busy, in pain etc. I had a text Sunday saying they were trying to get in contact with me. They could always phone my mobile or email me if my mobile and home number is having problems.

My dad just said that he knew I should of been told, but my mum is stubborn. He would of told me Friday if he had seen me. (Why should this make any difference, he could of sent a text asking me to pop over or something or even a phone call Sunday night?????).

Sorry I have ranted, but I am so annoyed.

 

[mushumadness]

I wouldnt have been too pleased either

I think mums do it because they think we dont need to worry but it hurts us more to find out after

I hope you have a better run of things soon

 

[natalielongstaff]

my mum does this to me all the time !!!!

you vent away Hun

 

[KayleeUK]

for you...

 

[florida sun]

Here's a hug for you

 

[irongirlof12]

'nowt so strange as folk', especially ones you are related to - that is the sort of thing my folks would do.

 

[mumloveseeyore]

hope things get better soon

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Maybe they think you have enough on your plate without worrying you further until things are sorted out. I don't know!

I know I used to get shut out a lot by my parents, I'm not an only child but my brother and sister are 15 and 16 years older than me so almost like being an only child and I know what you are saying about other things taking priority, it used to happen to me. The day I went to buy my wedding dress my mum and dad were going to see a friend ordained as a vicar and gave me about 30 minuts of their time that day, or my dad always used to insist on watching Crossroads on the telly before driving me to the weekly band practice I attended (I was always the last one to arrive!). My in laws think I am a strong person and able to cope without any support, including when I've been ill and had two young pre school children to cope with or the fact that one has a heart condition and the other is on the autistic spectrum and yet I have to listen to stories of other family members suffering with depression when all I feel like is a good cry and a hug but don't get it.

Maybe you just need to calmly explain how hurt you feel at being left in the dark, I'm sure it wasn't done intentionally.

 

[jen_uk]

No wonder you are upset, hugs for you

 

[mandymouse]

Sending you lots of hugs

Mandy

 

[BRobson]

Sending you a big I get the same sort of thing

 

[tennisfan]

Vent away, I know parents can be like that

 

[DisneyJo]

Ooooo Michelle I'm so sorry, vent away though

 

[SammieG]

i understand why youre upset about this... my parents did it to me too once when my mother had cancer surgery and they didnt want to worry me...
I felt EXACTLY the way that you do about it.. but now looking back on it, they were trying to protect me rather than pull the wool over my eyes.

Sadly my mother died of the cancer... and i can honestly say its not worth fretting over sweetie..... i spent far too long fretting over this and that with my mother.. at times she drove me completely nuts... and yet i would do anything to have her back for just one hour now..

 

[CustardTart]

Aww Michelle! So sorry for what your folks have put you thro'...

...my parents did it to me too once when my mother had cancer surgery and they didnt want to worry me...
I felt EXACTLY the way that you do about it.. but now looking back on it, they were trying to protect me rather than pull the wool over my eyes.

Sadly my mother died of the cancer... and i can honestly say its not worth fretting over sweetie..... i spent far too long fretting over this and that with my mother.. at times she drove me completely nuts... and yet i would do anything to have her back for just one hour now..

OMG Sammie! This happened to me with my Mum and ended when my father phoned to inform me she was in a coma from which she never came round - I had no idea she had cancer at all!!! The upshot is that I'm upfront with my kids at all times - I never want them to go thro' what I went thro'....

 

[fizz13]

Oh hun,

I don't know why parents do this to us, it may be partly that your mum didn't want to worry you but she really should have been more sensitive to your feelings. the thing about your mum getting time off work: well it would make my blood boil. my mum does the same thing, she tells everyone about how wonderful her grandchildren are and shows off about her wonderful grandparenting, when truth be told, she showed up the day after they were born and then maybe sees them every 6 months, the thought of actually babysitting them would horrify her. in 8 years of her being a grandparent she has never spent one minute alone with them or looked after them and she only lives 5 minutes away!!

This doesn't seem to have been your week at all; tell you what, next time we'll just stay in WDW and get bruce and the kids to come out instead it may nix the bad vibe.
Sending all my hugs and best wishes that this week is a much better one xxxxx

 

[mark&sue]

Oh Michelle you really have had a lot on your plate recently and as we all know we all need a vacation after a vacation in WDW!

I still feel so run down after the flu I had before I went away and with the jet lag I felt so tired at work today, but am now wide awake!! You know you really need to rest but with so much going on you can't. What with your accident your mum probably did not want to worry you. I think you should speak to her and let her know that she should not do that again as you feel so hurt and left out.

Next time you have some time off put your feel up and have a nice long drink (no short ones allowed!!). I am not drinking until the weekend but I will have one for you.

Hope you feel much better soon. oh and you can start looking forward to your holiday in November as it is not that long now.


Susan

 

[wils]

Sending you a hug I can understand your upset

Hope things look up for you very soon (I haven't read any trippes yet but I'm hoping you had a good time away?!)

 

[angel659]

Thanks for all your kind comments. I picked mum up today. I wasnt going to mention anything to her, because I felt she should rest after the op. She mentioned it. Said that she could not get in contact with me on Friday she thought she wouldnt say anything. I should be lucky that I knew. No one else knows. I dont think she could understand that she was digging herself a bigger hole I put my views across anyhow.

 

[angel659]

Oh hun,

I don't know why parents do this to us, it may be partly that your mum didn't want to worry you but she really should have been more sensitive to your feelings. the thing about your mum getting time off work: well it would make my blood boil. my mum does the same thing, she tells everyone about how wonderful her grandchildren are and shows off about her wonderful grandparenting, when truth be told, she showed up the day after they were born and then maybe sees them every 6 months, the thought of actually babysitting them would horrify her. in 8 years of her being a grandparent she has never spent one minute alone with them or looked after them and she only lives 5 minutes away!!

This doesn't seem to have been your week at all; tell you what, next time we'll just stay in WDW and get bruce and the kids to come out instead it may nix the bad vibe.
Sending all my hugs and best wishes that this week is a much better one xxxxx

That sounds like a great idea Claire. I would love to of stayed. Being back here is At least we are coming back in November.

Sounds like our mums are similar in certain views and situations. I remember you saying on holiday how many times she visits

Parents aye?????