My Mummy is dying.

[kileylovesdisney]

That shows great courrage that you could share that with other people. I work in a hospital with cancer patients and I see how it affects them but rarely see how it affects the family so thank you for making me think about that.
There are no words that make this better ....just have no regrets!
k x

 

[NMAmy]

I'm so sorry. Both you and your mom are in my thoughts.

 

[imabrat]

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Is there any chance she could maybe go for a second opinion?


Your mummy will be in my thoughts. I hate cancer so much - everytime I hear of someone with terminal cancer, it makes me guilty to be a survivor.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

 

[bicker]

I'm so very sorry.

 

[snels]

I am sorry to hear about your mom.

 

[celerystalker]

You're in my prayers.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Very sorry to read this, Ember.

Yes, do see if second opinion can be pursued.

Good wishes and prayers for your mom, Ember.

 

[alexandria674]

I'm awfully sorry, Ember.

Prayers

 

[Mom2Nick]

I sm so sorry. I lost my mom to breast cancer just 2 weeks after her 54th birthday. I know exactly what you are going through

 

[ead79]

I am so very, very sorry. You and your mom will be in my prayers.

 

[MickeysMommy]

I am so sorry.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I am so sorry for the news about your Mum. I am battling cancer too and I hope my 3 ds see that each day of life that God gives us is precious and a blessing. My God give you strength and peace.

 

[ryanshana]

Yesterday I learned that my Mum has inoperable, terminal cancer. I am heart sick and broken.

There is a tumor near the gallbladder and second one wrapped around the artery and vein of the liver. Survival is less that 5% and the doctor says 6 to 8 months, with a year being optimistic. I don't know what to do with myself.

She is only 53. And I'm too young to be an orphan.

I didn't read the entire thread so I'm sorry if I am re-iterating a few things.

First of sweetie, I am soo sorry. I, unfortunately, know just how you feel. In late 2003/2004 my mom was diagnosed w/ breast cancer. She went thru chemo and we thought she beat it. Late 2005/early2006 it came back and it was terminal. I was devastated. I was pregnant w/ my first DS. I remember the day that I found out, when I was driving home I saw an older women (I assumed a grandmom) w/ a little boy walking together. I lost it. I was so mad and angry and upset and scared. I wanted this unborn child in me to know how much of a wonderful person my mom was. People would tell me that they will know from us (meaning her friends and family). But that wasn't good enough for me. I wanted him to KNOW her. She was also young only 54. I was 26 when she passed away, so I completely relate w/ feeling like you are an orphan! She actually passed away the day after DS was born. People told me it should comfort me that she at least got to know that DS was here. It did not. It was really hard at first because of course as a new mother you want to call your mom when you need help and since her death was so new, when I would need advice every now and then I would forget that she had passed away and start to call.....and then I would remember....it was like she was dying all over again.

It was really rough in the beginning. Real rough. But slower it got easy. Not that I stopped missing her terribly. But more like at first I would be hysterically crying, then I would crying for hrs and then I would cry for a few mins, and now I just get teared up (like I am doing now).

Every now and then I still will "forget" she is gone. And that hurts like hell. Actually even last night when Michael Jackson died (one of my mom's fav singers) I "forget" and actually started to dial and then I remembered. That is the worse.

Every day I talk to her and I believe that she is watching over me and my boys. I don't know if you have little kids or plan to have kids...but there is this wonderful book, when you were young, grandma. Its like a fill in book. Maybe if she is up to it she could fill it out for your ("future") kids. My mom did something similar but it was more in a letter to my DS.

I am praying for you and your family. If you ever (seriously, ever) want to talk to someone who's been there...Please DO NOT hesitate!

 

[ccgirl]

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry to the OP and to all the posters that shared their grief with losing a loved one. This thread really brought tears to my eyes and reinforced that we need to cherish each day we have with our loved ones. I will pray for you and your entire family. I hope you are able to enjoy the last moments you have with your mom.

 

[mickeyboat]

I am so sorry.

 

[jax677]

I am so sorry. As others have said, its hard feeling like an orphan.

My mom died when she was 43, after a long battle with diabetes, heart attacks and strokes. I was pregnant with my second daughter. She died with a pic of my oldest in her hands. She was a wonderful grandma while she was here. I still talk about her alot because I want my children to know who she was.

I lost my father a few years later from heart disease. It hit me so hard to have no one left who was there when I first started life. I am 47 years old now and still feel like an orphan. It never goes away. When my girls do something wonderful or just plain cute, I don't have them to call. They would have gushed over them.

Also all the family memories they didn't get a chance to tell are gone forever.

My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope your mom is able to have her days as pain free as possible and that you will be able to spend time with her.

 

[Jenvenza]

I am so sorry.

 

[Teacher03]

I am so sorry. I've been in your shoes and I know how devastated you feel. Enjoy as much time as you can with your mom. A good board to post other than the community board is the compassion board. Many others who are dealing with the same thing you are. They helped me when my mom was sick and just recently when my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer.

 

[MA pigletfan]

I can't imagine how you are feeling. I am so sorry.