My mom has colon cancer that has mestasized to the liver

[LeahA]

My mom had colon cancer, went through chemo, colon cancer is gone. Now the cancer is in her liver and the doctor's only gave her 1 year to live. I have been on an emotional roller coaster. I've been sad, angry, and everything in between. My mom is 73 and has always been healthy until the colon cancer 2 years ago.

I don't know what to say to her to make her feel better. I know, how silly to think that simple words could make her feel better. I try to tell her to remain positive, to pray, to fight. I tell her that a doctor doesn't know 100% when she will go.

It feels surreal to me. I'm worried that when it does happen that I will not know how to cope. That I will have a mental breakdown. I worry that my 3 children will see their mom totally acting like a lunatic.

I will be going on Friday to the doctor with her and my dad and she will be letting the doctor know which treatment she will start, either the chemo or some type of pill form of radiation/chemo.

I'm happy to hear her voice everyday when I call the house, it saddens me to think there will be a day that I won't hear it.

 

[hentob]

I am so sorry you are going through this

 

[Mackey Mouse]

Leah, hugs to you.......

I think I have said this before and I truly believe it... no one has an expiration date stamped on their body and no one knows when someone will die.. They can speculate but sometimes things go differently and they are around lots longer..

Try to live in the today of this disease... do not go into the future with it.. one day at a time. You have your Mom now.. she is with you and your family now... stay in the now and fight and have hope...without hope I have to say I would be in the funny farm with my husband battling cancer..

Ask lots of questions, read everything you can, ask about trials being offered and keep in mind that knowledge is power....the more you know the better off she will be..

In this house, we just finished a regime of chemo and radiation, it was not easy but we got through it. We do not know what the results are and will not for at least 6 weeks, but I am not worrying....we are living our lives, seeing our grandchild, going to WDW for a break. one day at time..

HUgs, Hugs, hugs, try to stay focused on the now. Listen to the doctors and do your homework so that you can ask questions during that appointment.

 

[Rustysmom]

I'm so sorry. My mom also has cancer that spread to her liver and her lungs too. I also can't believe that soon I won't hear her voice on the phone either. I call her 2 or 3 times a day and after she's gone, I'll have nobody to call.

I'm also afraid I'm going to lose it when she's gone because all the things going on with her right now just don't seem real. I cried until I couldn't cry any more and now I think I'm just numb.

Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and to give you a big hug.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I hear you on this....when it was my Mom and she was in a coma for weeks from heart surgery that did not go well, I was like that.. I know what you are saying, it is a Mothers and daughters type of relationship that is so special that the thought of being without it is horrific.. I still know that phone number and it has been 21 years she is gone.. my children too know that number. I cannot ride by where she lived without getting a lump in my throat, I do understand..

Hugs to you.. try to get through this one day at a time.. do not go into that future area.. enjoy the days that you have with her. You can talk to her now, she can hear and understand, correct, then say all the things to her that you want her to know...how much she means to you and your family etc.. You will know the right words..

 

[LeahA]

Thanks for all the kind words and support. Her appointment is today and I'm leaving in an hour to go with her.

 

[safetymom]

I am sorry to hear about your mother. Enjoy the gift of time you have been given. Just keep living life and enjoying every minute you have with her.

Please keep us posted.

 

[DISNEYLOVER70]

My mother had stage 4 colon cancer that spread to her liver and lungs. That was 5 years ago. She is alive and doing pretty darn good I must say.

She has her runs of chemo and she plugs along. Last test a month ago she had almost 0 detectable cancer cells on her MRI. We all worry, but we take it day by day. Nobody knows when your time is up. My mother is a good example of that. If 5 years ago she would have given up and waited for the "end", what a waste that would have been. I am not trying to give false hope to anyone. I just say, "live for today and love all you can"

Hugs to all of you.

 

[catsrule]

I'm so sorry, Leah. I watched the same exact thing with my Mom. She had surgery, went through chemo, they said it was gone, 2 years later she had one tumor on her liver. I know how difficult it is. Be there for her and encourage her and tell her how much you love her.

 

[LeahA]

Thanks for all the kind words. My dad said that mom had a good day yesterday. Had a good appetite, took all her pills, she has a doctor's appointment today.

 

[catsrule]

Hey Leah. Nice to hear about the update on your Mom.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Hi Leah. I'm so sorry you have to go through this .

 

[Rustysmom]

I'm glad your mom had a good day. I hope she continues to feel good.