Thank you all for your support. He was well known and well liked in the community and they are also in shock to deal with this. Small communites are a blessing for the physical support they give and they have certainly rallied. Small communitites are also tough because even if you aren't ready for them they are there, wanting to know all the details especially if it isn't their business. That's one reason I left the small community.
The gossip and rumour mill are going to be difficult to deal with for the kids. We'll have to be especially careful with them. The 13 year old has already wondered where the money is going to come from to pay the bills, how sad is that.
So thanks again for your support, and for being a small community in all the best ways.