My DS's friend (10 yr. old) just told me....

[RitaZ.]

to turn off the music because he wants to take a rest. The Game Cube is blasting in my DS's room, but that doesn't appear to bother him.

I'm listening to my iTunes while on the computer. I think they are going home early today.

 

[LucyStorm]

I hope you reminded him that he is in your house and that it is impolite to speak to an adult in that manner.

 

[Pam]

LucyStorm beat me to it - ditto what she said!!
Cheeky little fellow, isn't he??!!
Pam

 

[RitaZ.]

Yes, I did tell him that. He seems to think that he is at the same level as an adult.

 

[tiggerlover]

Originally posted by LucyStorm
I hope you reminded him that he is in your house and that it is impolite to speak to an adult in that manner.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[SuiteDisney]

He needs to either be respectful or go home and try to boss around the adults there.

 

[Serena]

Child, I hear your mother calling!

 

[RitaZ.]

They are gone now, they are twins. Their mom doesn't like one of their friends because he talks back all the time. I guess she doesn't realize her boys do the same thing. I hope she calls me to find out why they came home so early. If she doesn't, I won't start anything with her. I'll just handle it from my end.

I thought I'd only have to parent my own kids.

 

[shortbun]

In my house kids have rights as long as they are
polite and reasonable. Maybe he felt safer asking
for help from you than from his friends and was
on overload with noise. I give children respect and
they usually reciprocate. They are human and
deserve to be heard IMHO. How was his request
"talking back"?
Not a flame-just my way of
doing things; a different perspective.
mimi

 

[RoqueC]

Originally posted by RitaZ.
Yes, I did tell him that. He seems to think that he is at the same level as an adult.

Well, if he asked you politely then it's not as bad. However, it is your house, and your music. Do what you want.

 

[Serena]

I think if the child politely asked if she would ask his friend to turn down the music because it was too loud, she would have been more than happy to comply with his wishes.

But I got the impression that he told her that her music was too loud and she needed to turn it off.

Correct me if I'm mistaken please.

 

[RitaZ.]

I'm not a tyrant, if anything I accomodate children too much at times. The music wasn't loud and it wasn't in my DS's room. He asked for the music to be turned off.

This is not the first incident that we have had, it's just the most recent. This may not seem like talking back, but they have done it in the past. When I told DH what happened, he told me that the last time he took our kids and his friends to the park, one of the twins (same one) was very rude to him. DH took water bottles in a small soft cooler for all the children, when he asked this boy to give him his water bottle to put it back in the cooler, the boy just threw it at him. It hit the sand and was covered with it, DH then told him that he couldn't put it back in the cooler. The boy's response "waa waa".

I'm done explaining, take the post anyway you like. Enjoy your evening!

 

[JulesMom]