My dd's best friend's parents are mad at my dd...

[BuzznBelle'smom]

I had also considered the religious angle--actually, Mormons don't avoid caffeine completely, a friend of mine said hot cocoa was allowed (thank God--he was always hiking with his Boy Scouts!). But even given the possible religious issue, unless your DD was holding the other girl down and "funnelling" her the coffee, shouldn't they trust their daughter to say "yes" or "no" if it's against her faith? Especially a teenager, if they do have restrictions, you know they're going to be faced with temptations, they have to learn to deal with it.

Beyond that, these people are wacky. I hope in 10 years, the worst thing I have to worry about is my daughter drinking caffeine! I wonder if the issue is really control (controlling caffeine, controlling bed time, controlling cake consumption...) Good luck in the future with this.

P.S. DD made an honest mistake at best--please don't let her feel bad about this!

 

[MinnieM21]

That's what sleepovers are all about for kids! Staying up late, eating junk food, and just having fun!

 

[Disney Doll]

Boy, it'll be fun to watch the fireworks when this kid goes to college and goes nuts!

 

[ttichenor]

15 year olds on a sleepover, staying up late, drinking coffee and baking a cake.......the shame.

Sounds like fun to me. Can I come to the next one?

 

[MICKEY88]

I think they overreacted with the term in that environment, however as her parents I think they have every right to determine if she as a minor should be drinking coffee...technically caffeine is a drug..... I found the following info online


Caffeine can aggravate heart problems or nervous disorders, and some teens may not be aware that they're at risk.

I know from experience that caffeine can cause dangerous heart palpitations in some people, especially teenagers,,in those who have this problem it can be sporadic, so a teenager could drink coffee for months with no effects, then suddenly one cup could cause the heart to race dangerously..


caffeine levels in some common drinks..
Jolt soft drink
12 ounces
71.2 mg


Mountain Dew
12 ounces
55.0 mg


Brewed coffee (drip method)
5 ounces
115 mg*


Cocoa beverage
5 ounces
4 mg*

 

[BedKnobbery2]

Originally posted by BuzznBelle'smom
I had also considered the religious angle--actually, Mormons don't avoid caffeine completely, a friend of mine said hot cocoa was allowed (thank God--he was always hiking with his Boy Scouts!).

Actually, its a scripture that is loosely open to interpretation; it states that "hot drinks" should be avoided; at the time (early 1800s), the only "hot drinks" around were coffee and tea, so some interpret that as meaning simply no coffee or tea; others interpret it literally, and avoid all "hot drinks" but still drink cold caffeinated beverages; still others interpret it as absolutely no caffeine.

BK ( a former Mormon/LDS member )

 

[jrydberg]

While I do think that was an overreaction, I don't think it would be appropriate for my child to drink coffee when she's that age (other people's kids are their concern, not mine).

Personally, I wouldn't make a big deal of it, but I am a little puzzled by all the replies thinking that withholding coffee is setting up for major rebellion. I have a hard time believing that coffee is A) something that most kids are looking to drink at 15 and B) a major issue in a kid's life. Perhaps the overreaction might be indicative of a deeper problem -- that I could believe.

 

[Chicago526]

Originally posted by jrydberg
Perhaps the overreaction might be indicative of a deeper problem -- that I could believe.

I think that's what the other posters were refering to. If the parents are so strict as to freak out over having a cup of coffee (yes it is their right to restrict it, but to flip out over it?) then they are most likely way to strict on other maters, which could be setting this girl up for a major rebellion in a couple of years.

 

[Twinkles6892]

She didn't drink it. They were mad it was offered.

 

[Mermaid02]

They are Catholic. My dd offered the coffee innocently and I am afraid that for some reason they now see my dd as a "bad influence" I would never offer someone else's child coffee and don't think my dd should have, but they know my daughter well enough so they should know it was not malicious.

I guess I just don't understand the level of "freak out"

 

[Nancy]

Good thing she doesn't hang out with my kids. My 14 and 16 yr old are regulars at Starbucks. (they can walk to one from our house)

 

[binny]

Im sorry but that is ridiculous!!!

we all know that Im a coffee addict so I guess Im a little biased here but like you siad its not like you gave them something illicit. It was coffee!! Our group always went out to coffee during HS, we were often at school all hours due to the theatre productions so it was just natural for us to go for breakfast and have coffee together. That started at 14.


wanna know a secret????? shhhhhhhhhh Karissa (dd5) loves coffee

 

[Jeanny]

Originally posted by Disney Doll
Boy, it'll be fun to watch the fireworks when this kid goes to college and goes nuts!

she's probably not allowed to watch fireworks either!!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

It's a good thing there were no BOYS at this sleepover! Can you imagine the horror!?!?

 

[auntpolly]

Maybe they just hadn't had their first cup of coffee that morning and were a little grumpy!

 

[arminnie]

Originally posted by Serena
[B What's next, candy?! [/B]

Carbs?

 

[DVC Jen]

Wow up in the middle of the night making coffee and cake????

What a bunch of ill-behaved children.

I think instead of getting upset over something so minor they should be thanking God that they were not sneaking out of the house in the middle of the night to do who knows what.

Mermaid02 don't let this bother you or your daughter. Your daughters sounds like a great kid. I have a 15 yr old daughter as well. She doesn't drink coffee all the time, but every once in a while she will have a cup of french vanilla coffee ... and it is usually more flavored creamer than anything else.

I also agree that parents who are too rigid and structured are setting themselves up for major rebellion. Coffee is no worse than a coke.... and a heck of a lot better than other things that could be taken into their bodies.

 

[DIZNYFAN]

Some parents can be a little overprotective but some have good reason. Maybe there was a substance dependancy in the past for one of the parents. They may be doing this as they are afraid that the daughter could fall victim to substance abuse/dependancy some people are truly addicted to coffee and caffine etc. Which could down the road lead to other addictions later on in life. Try not to be so critical of others when they do things for their kids as the childs parents they are only looking out for her no matter how trivial we may find it.

 

[auntpolly]

Originally posted by DIZNYFAN
Try not to be so critical of others when they do things for their kids as the childs parents they are only looking out for her no matter how trivial we may find it.

I don't think the OP was being critical -- more like startled and confused! If parents are going to get worked up like that instead of just dealing with things calmly they better get used to people making fun of them!!!!

 

[DIZNYFAN]

I was not directing this at the OP it was directed to everyone even me myself I can be critical of people for thingfs we find trivial. Just remember there may be things we do not allow our kids to d and may get upset about that others may find silly that is all I am saying.