My DD8 and I had our 1st clash over clothing today!

[imsayin]

Bella is a skinny-mini 8 year old (short for her age and very thin). Finding things that fit around (size 3-4) but are long enough (6-6X) and still look like what she thinks an 8 year old should wear is giving me fits.

Have you tried "slims"? DD12 has always been petite for her age. She can only wear slims. Unfortunately, the best slims for her come from Limited Too. I've also had luck at Old Navy. It is hard when the clothes are too babyish for their age. It is hard with shoes too. I can't get my middle-schooler shoes that have flowers and ribbons on them.

 

[KerriMc]

I too struggle in clothes shopping for my oldest dd, who is five. She isn't really into it, basically likes what I buy her, but I have a hard time getting things to fit!!! I don't have a skinny-minnie kid ... but she isn't a chubby kid ... she is solid, pretty straight cut right down ... and it seems everything is made for skinny kids and then the skinny pants have adjustable waists for even skinnier kids!!!! What about the little girls that are not quite so skinny????? It is so frustrating. I bought her a pair of "plus" size jeans at Please Mum (a kids store up here in Canada) ... can you believe my kid, who is NOT overweight at all, has to wear PLUS??? It is starting to become very frustrating now as she needs more along the lines of a 7, sometimes an 8 just to fit comfortably in her hip and tummy area, but they are sooooooo long ... hemming would be ok if they weren't all flared!!! What gives?? And I'm not flaming the skinny kids ... because my youngest will soon be one of those as she continues to grow! Ugh ... why is shopping so frustrating???

We actually come down to shop in the States because I find the cut of clothing is geared a little more to a "normal" body ... whereas here in Canada we seem to have some different type of "model" we cut our clothing to. I frequent Gymboree outlets, Children place, and the Gap. I wish Carters went past a 6x though ... they are the BEST clothes!!

If I could whip things up I would, but darn it I can only quilt (and make Halloween costumes).

What do those of you do who have girls that are like this do? Where do you go or what do buy? I'm not impressed by the "styles" in the 7-14 departments ... kind of not age appropriate IMO.

So she has a ton of skirts this year that are "playground friendly" ... she loves them, so this is how I avoid the pants issue with her. I don't want her to ever feel like there is something wrong with her because she can't fit in a pair of pants. Now she could probably wear boys pants as they are cut a little roomier ... why can't they make some girls pants cut the same way? I just don't get it

Kerri
(sorry I rambled a bit here )

 

[Disney1fan2002]

No flames, just wondering. Are all you ladies with the fashionista dds fashion concious yourselves? Or have you always talked it up to your daughters(oh, sweety, you look so cute etc...)? My sister and I were never into clothes at that age (I'm STILL not ). My ds 12 has very few issues with clothes. As long as the t-shirt has a dragon or Mickey on it and is 100% cotton he's fine. How his socks fit is a whole other issue though .

Disneyfan2002 THANK YOU for not letting your dd were pants with words on her bum. My dh who is totally oblivious actually came home one day and said to me "Have you seen these little girls with word on the bum, WTH is up with that? Their parents need a good smacking!"

I know for myself, my DD does not get an sense of fashion from me. I am lacking in the clothes/make-up dept. The minute I found out we were having a girl I thought, "Why would God punish this child by giving her a mom like me? The most I can do is teach her how to match her socks."

And here we have it, 8 years later, and I can't even get pony tails on her head even. She does have a very girly gramma, so she get's her "girl" time over there.

I grew up being a very serious tomboy, and never got into "girl" things. Even today, I am a t-shirt/jeans/sweats person. I HATE dressing up. It actually has made me angry, because I never know if it looks OK or not.

So no, I think some girls are just naturally born to have a "diva" sense of fashion.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

We are very non-clothing-conscious here. Oldest dd (9th grade now) is in a phase, I guess. But the rest of us (adults and kids alike) are pretty open-minded. That said, I am NOT in need of a smack or whatever, just because my dd8 has athletic shorts with words on the Butt. We bought them for her for dance class, and she wears them. I don't think Giant Letters across someone's rear is in any way suggestive or attractive (the opposite, in fact)...and since I am not THAT picky about clothes, we don't stress about words on the rear. Even my dd had a yoga+hoodie set that had DANCE on the butt, when she was 2-3 yrs old. It was cute and comfy, warm, and good washable fabric so she wore it A LOT.

My limits are no bare midriffs, clothes that fit (none of the undies-hanging-out-the-back-pants-falling-down look), and no spaghetti strap tops to school (against the rules anyway). Oh, and my girls wear shorts under skirts/dresses (less risk for embarassment that way).

I must add that I don't purposely seek out pants/shorts with words on the butt. But if the pants/shorts that fit well and are comfy have a word on the butt, we'll not pass them by on sale!

You are not the only parent who doesn't have a problem with it, or they would not be as popular as they are. The fact that you are fine with it is how you choose to accept what is appropriate for your DD. OK.

But, there are many parents, myself included, that find in unacceptable. The only thing letters on a rearend is doing, is calling attention to the rearend. Someone sees a word, they read it. In order to read it, they have to look at the butt.

These shorts/sweats started out as a teen fashion. Teenage girls wanting to call attention to their butt. How they ever found their way down to the under 12 girls, I will never know.

 

[Brianne]

Thus why I am so thankful for school uniforms.

As long as people are buying clothes like that, they'll continue to make it.

Luckily I haven't had battles about clothing but considering we're pretty relaxed ourselves (DH & I are both t-shirt/shorts/jeans type of people), the kids seem to have taken after us so far. Although DD9 is a huge jewelry fanatic--I don't know where she gets it from because I only wear my wedding ring & nothing else!

 

[maxiesmom]

Yeah, I would like to find whoever decided that writing across a 11yr olds but was cute, and smack them.

Can I make a request? If you are taking your daughter shopping, please, please, please, have her try on clothes in the girls fitting room. And boys in the boys too. For one thing, do you really want your daughter near guys when she is taking off her clothes, and they are doing the same, with only a thin door between them? Also, as someone who works at a mall, we get really tired of men yelling at us that there is a girl in "their" fitting room, and visa versa. And there are perverts out there. Why would even risk one getting near your daughter when she is in a state of undress? There are seperate fitting rooms for a reason. Thank you!

 

[disneymom3]

I hate the writing thing too. I also am relieved that many of the "hooker fashions" seem to be on their way out. Give me the 80s styles anyday.

DD10 is pretty conservative in the way she dresses. She almost had a heart attack that the tankini her Gma made for her showed her belly button and was soooo relieved when I said she didn't have to wear it. We do a lot of Land's End, American girl, Gymboree and Gap clothes. Have found some cute stuff at Kohls too but the quality is not great and you have to be careful, as it can be hit and miss. Oh, yeah, Children's place is good too.

 

[BelleBoo&AmisMum]

I'm more concerned about the older women wearing the short shorts with the writing on the rear.

We saw one in Vegas, camo shorts with rinestone writing across the butt, the shorts were about 5 sizes too small though so the Las Vegas on her tush looked more like LAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSS VEEEEEEEEEEEGGGGGGGGGAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS.

DD is only 4 but she has some of the shorts with writing on the tush, our problem is finding pants/shorts that are small enough through the waist and long enough. She's 49 inches tall now, everything is short on her for her age! I had to buy her a pair of Gymboree size 8 pants and tighten the adjustable waist as far as it would go for her!

 

[doxdogy]

I thought I was odd because the seams on socks drive me crazy. I will turn them inside out too.

My DD has issues with seams or anything itchy. She wears her panties and socks inside out even tho I buy the seamless softest socks I can find.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

SO NOT the girly girl here. Bella is adopted, she got her fashionista thing elsewhere. I wear cotton capris/tees all summer and switch to jeans with sweat shirts for the winter. I can't do hair for the life of me. I'm a tomboy to this day.

I've already raised 4 grown children. I swear it was easier before they had 'fanny writing' and Bratz.

 

[mamacatnv]

I too struggle in clothes shopping for my oldest dd, who is five. She isn't really into it, basically likes what I buy her, but I have a hard time getting things to fit!!! I don't have a skinny-minnie kid ... but she isn't a chubby kid ... she is solid, pretty straight cut right down ... and it seems everything is made for skinny kids and then the skinny pants have adjustable waists for even skinnier kids!!!! What about the little girls that are not quite so skinny????? It is so frustrating. I bought her a pair of "plus" size jeans at Please Mum (a kids store up here in Canada) ... can you believe my kid, who is NOT overweight at all, has to wear PLUS??? It is starting to become very frustrating now as she needs more along the lines of a 7, sometimes an 8 just to fit comfortably in her hip and tummy area, but they are sooooooo long ... hemming would be ok if they weren't all flared!!! What gives?? And I'm not flaming the skinny kids ... because my youngest will soon be one of those as she continues to grow! Ugh ... why is shopping so frustrating???

My best friend has the same problem with her daughter, in order to get the length right and still have the pants fit she buys the capri's that fit in the waist but work out fine in the length, they look like regular long pants on her DD.

My DD has always worn the slims, she had a hug growth spirt this summer and is a regular 10. We had a hard time finding 10's that were not too long but we succeeded and she has a few pair.

 

[belle&beast]

My DD almost 8 is very thin, so she can wear things that still fit in the waist, but very short. She doesn't understand why she can't wear them.

If that is the first disagreement you have had about clothes, you are very forunate. Our arguments started several years ago.

I agree! My DD started arguing about clothes at about 2 1/2 and now I won't but anything unless she tries it on first!