My daughter won't stop talking!!!

[DisneyLovingMama]

My ears are bleeding! How do I make her stop????

I know that 10 years from now, I'll wish she was talking to me, but now, I can't do anything without a lengthy, all over the place conversation (one-way) from her. I've tried to play quiet games, set rules (no talking to me while I'm on the phone or in a conversation with another adult), redirected her activities (crafts, electronic games, computer, pretend play) but she just KEEPS TALKING!!

I don't want to punish her, but my patience these days is very thin. I try to tune her out, but she just keeps speaking louder!

And, it's not that I don't pay enough attention to her or don't talk to her enough. I'm always talking with her. There are just some times (when I'm paying bills or on the phone or trying to spend some time with DS) that I need quiet!

Any ideas?

 

[Hillbeans]

Boy, if you find a way, let me know.

My 4 yo talks non-stop and I could have written your post!!

We need a support group or something

 

[Feralpeg]

My grandmother used to pay me to stop talking. It is just very difficult for some people. I am now in the opposite position. DD has subjects she is very passionate about. The slightest thing can send her into lecture mode. It drives me crazy, but I don't want to discourage her from her interests.

Just learn to shut it out.

 

[mtblujeans]

My youngest DS was like that! I used to just sit and cry at the end of the day because I was so overwhelmed and overstimulated! I thanked God every day for school and I worshipped his teachers for having to have him all day long! Believe it not, he has gotten shy over the years and most people don't even know what his voice sounds like! But, now that he is a teen, he still likes to get right into everybody's face every once in awhile at home and he can still talk a blue streak when he wants to!!

I remember just asking him to sit some place and give me 5 minutes of silence....just....5....minutes! He rarely would but I would try to just block him out instead of trying to shut him up (my words, not yours) and change anything about him. I have always felt the kids would develop into the personalities they were going to be despite me....but I was never really sure if I would survive it! Hang in there Mom....

 

[Tigger&Belle]

My 6yo will have some quiet times (like when he's sleeping...), but otherwise is constantly talking, singing, making a joke, giving his opinion about any and everything, etc, etc. We are sure that he is going to be a sports announcer when he is older because that's what it's like living with him. Constant commentary. I don't have an answer, obviously, but let me know if you find one!

 

[Ava83]

Are you sure my Ava (3) is not visiting? My child talks so much, she talks in her sleep.

 

[tiff211]

Good luck!! I have 4 DD's and DD14 still talks non-stop and DD 4 months has discovered her voice and "talks" loudly @ 4am!!!!

 

[Ava83]

I forgot the best is when she is in opera mode, she sing all her responses

 

[mtblujeans]

Are you sure my Ava (3) is not visiting? My child talks so much, she talks in her sleep.

OMG! My DS does too....sometimes he shouts out in his sleep.....I find it quite disturbing!

 

[Lisa L from MI]

Both DD's were like that from when they learned to talk.....and still are to this day and they are now 12 and 9!! Sometimes I just say...."please stop talking for just 10 minutes!!"...They have and never had a problem striking up conversations with anyone!!! Used to to take me forever grocery shopping when I took them with me because they would have to ask everyone why they were buying what was in their cart.

One year, when dd was 3 or so, it took FOREVER to go trick or treating just down our street. She had to ask each house if they had any animals, their names and then would even ask to see them!! It was cute though....but kinda drove you nuts

 

[Stacerita]

Maybe try getting other people for her to talk to. Other family memebers she can tell about things to. Like calling grandparents or aunts and uncles on the phone and such. Set her up with play dates so she can converse with kids her age. Then let her call grammy to tell about her day. She may end up all talked out before she can tell you.

 

[klmklm]

What if you give her a tape-recorder, or a video-camera, and encourage her to create her own broadcasts?

 

[crz4mm2]

Used to take DS three hours to tell the plot of a two hour movie!!
I feel your pain.
Sorry I don't have any real words of wisdom. I guess hang in there and be thankful she CAN talk?

 

[bigmerle1966]

Duck tape!

My friends two youngest are the same way, there are times when we just want to wring their necks, usually when they are both talking at the same time. When the youngest was about 3 he would sing all the time. We would be walking through the store and he would be belting it out at the top of his lungs, usually the same song over and over again. Just ride it out, eventually she'll get a bunch of friends and be gabbing to them.

Maybe when you are doing those things when you really need that quiet you can send her to another room to watch a movie or listen to music. Or maybe even read a book, if she is old enough (you didn't say her age). Give her a specific time to spend and have her tell you about it when she is done, not a word until it is done.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

One year, when dd was 3 or so, it took FOREVER to go trick or treating just down our street. She had to ask each house if they had any animals, their names and then would even ask to see them!! It was cute though....but kinda drove you nuts

When my youngest was about 3yo he did the same thing while trick or treating. He would ask to see inside the houses when we were trick or treating, too. Of course I declined, but sometimes he would have already marched inside. Embarrassed the heck out of me, but the homeowners thought he was adorable. Yeah, they don't have to live with him.

Thankfully he stopped that before it wasn't cute anymore, but he still loves to talk to people. His favorite thing now is asking their favorite sports teams and debating the different teams with them. Beats the stage when he was 4yo and we were at WDW and he asked everyone their ages. Women didn't like that. That trip I got him to start asking people where they were from, which was a lot better than their ages.

 

[GillieRose]

I use to think my daughter talked way to much. Then we had Logan and boy I miss it when it was just her talking. He tells her to be quiet he was talking first. He also loves to sing. For the month of December he belted out Christmas songs. It's kinda cute to hear him sing 1985 by Bowling for Soup though.

 

[LBAK]

My 19 yo and 10 yo still talk non-stop. When they were little I used to tell them that God made them with only so many words and if they used them all up they couldn't talk anymore. That worked for a while and then they caught on!

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

Thanks for all the replies! Glad I'm not alone (but, sorry for all of you!!) DD got a Leapster L-Max for Christmas and I just hooked it up to the TV so I can pay my bills online. Of course, now she's giving me blow-by-blow of what she's making Dora do on the TV!!

I like the idea of having her call her grandparents and aunts. I've even considered letting her call her other friends of kindergarten, but figure the other Moms wouldn't like me too much if I use the parent list for evil, instead of good.

 

[mtblujeans]

Thanks for all the replies! Glad I'm not alone (but, sorry for all of you!!) DD got a Leapster L-Max for Christmas and I just hooked it up to the TV so I can pay my bills online. Of course, now she's giving me blow-by-blow of what she's making Dora do on the TV!!

I like the idea of having her call her grandparents and aunts. I've even considered letting her call her other friends of kindergarten, but figure the other Moms wouldn't like me too much if I use the parent list for evil, instead of good.

Oh, give it a try! They won't figure it out for a little while!! Tell them you are teaching your DD and their child telephone skills/manners!

 

[LuvN~Travel]

Well i suppose we could all put our talkative kids in one room. Can you imagine the noise?
Kim