I come from a family that was also forged in the wake of grief over the death of two parents. My mom, the widow with three girls met my stepdad, a widower with three boys and one girl. They married and produced one daughter together. I think maybe you count your blessings just a little more in situations like ours. For myself (one of the three girls belonging to the widow) I am always reminded that there are so many children raised without even one father and here I am blessed with two dads who loved me so completely that I have always felt eveloped in their love. I'll bet your girls will feel that same way about you when they get older.