my aunt took swiped my kids pictures off my piano ( update post 54)

[njcarita]

....and Im still in shock...

My aunt and uncle came over to visit with my parents.... my aunt is from out of state and I see her only once a year ...

well at the end of her visit she walked over to my piano ... and commented about how she loved my kids pictures that were on top of my piano... she asked me why she never got a copy of these pictures.... told her I would look for extra copies and if I found where they were i would send her some... she proceeded to than take the pictures that were on top of my piano... frame and all and shoved them in her pocket book.... I thought she was joking... when i told her your not taking them.. she said she was and walked out the door....my mother was in the bathroom when all this transpired..

so I told her what happened... she looked shocked and told me don't worry I'll get them back... haven't heard from mom is the last 3 days...

my kids ... my husband and I are all still shocked.... short of tackling my 65 year old aunt at the door...not sure what I could have done....

I am not a big picture person and they are the only pictures I have up of my children... so its not like she thought i had tons up i wouldnt miss these...

i am just shocked at the audacity.... we are suppose to go to my parents for Easter and It really makes me feel like not going... I know its only 3 pictures but there are a few other things going on with my family that makes me just want to stay home with husband and kids.... but than i feel guilty cause none of these family issues have anything to do with my parents and they would be dissapointed if we didn;t come....

 

[3pletprincesses]

I can understand how you feel butyou are right, it's not your parents fault. I would go to your parents for Easter so to not punish them. If you see her there, ask for your pictures.

 

[ilovepete]

Wow I can't eve believe it! That is crazy!

 

[njcarita]

I can understand how you feel butyou are right, it's not your parents fault. I would go to your parents for Easter so to not punish them. If you see her there, ask for your pictures.

oh she'll be there cause she's staying with my parents while they are up...

 

[dfchelbay]

Can you find them and take them back from wherever you aunt has them at your parent's house tomorrow? Tell your mom to find them while your aunt is in the shower or something. See where she stashing them, then in all the commotion of tomorrow's holiday, just take them and put them in your pocketbook this time...and take them back!

 

[Allison]

Go and get the pictures back tomorrow.

 

[njcarita]

Can you find them and take them back from wherever you aunt has them at your parent's house tomorrow? Tell your mom to find them while your aunt is in the shower or something. See where she stashing them, then in all the commotion of tomorrow's holiday, just take them and put them in your pocketbook this time...and take them back!

I am betting on that my mom already took them back from my aunt...we will see.... but it just makes for a very uncomfortable Easter dinner.....

 

[crisi]

Is it possible that your aunt is suffering from some sort of dementia or a stroke? Or is this "typical" behavior for her.

If its typical, I simply wouldn't allow her in my own home any longer. Just don't invite her. If, for some reason, she were to show up uninvited, a "oh, we were just walking out the door" and then grab your purse and keys and start leaving will work.

If its an age thing, I'd try and be understanding.

 

[njcarita]

see red notes

Is it possible that your aunt is suffering from some sort of dementia or a stroke? Or is this "typical" behavior for her.

not the case.... my side of the family just have boundary issues..... my 15 year old summed it up pretty nicely.... my side of the family love them ( my 3 kids) sooooooooo much they steal pictures of them...while dads side of the family we couldnt get them to take a picture if we tried...lol


If its typical, I simply wouldn't allow her in my own home any longer. Just don't invite her. If, for some reason, she were to show up uninvited, a "oh, we were just walking out the door" and then grab your purse and keys and start leaving will work.

she lives on the other side of country.. so i only see her once a year or so

If its an age thing, I'd try and be understanding.

 

[FredinFL]

Well...you could look at it from the point that she wanted recent photos of your children so much she just took them. Maybe she figured if she didn't, she'd never get them. Is she right?

 

[girlieeee]

Sounds like she's a bit of a bully. I understand wanting to not go tomorrow night but I assure you if you don't, she ultimately wins. Don't let her get the best of you. Go in and if your mom hasn't already asked her for them make a fuss, she will be embarrassed and give them back. Offer again to make copies for her but you want YOUR pics back.

 

[njcarita]

Is it possible that your aunt is suffering from some sort of dementia or a stroke? Or is this "typical" behavior for her.

If its typical, I simply wouldn't allow her in my own home any longer. Just don't invite her. If, for some reason, she were to show up uninvited, a "oh, we were just walking out the door" and then grab your purse and keys and start leaving will work.

If its an age thing, I'd try and be understanding.

Well...you could look at it from the point that she wanted recent photos of your children so much she just took them. Maybe she figured if she didn't, she'd never get them. Is she right?

actually they probably have more pictures of my kids than I do.....and their son is a photographer who takes tons of pictures at every get together ...so no thats not the case.... she just wanted those pictures...

 

[telephoneman66]

Glad I'm not the only one with total nuts in my family. Thanks for posting.

 

[bdcp]

The only one that should feel uncomfortable is her. Do whatever it takes to get them back. She STOLE from you and don't let anyone tell you any different. She doesn't care about your feelings or your possessions so don't let her walk all over you.

 

[MamaOdie]

Wow, are we related?

My mom's side of the family is like that, but the funny thing is that I've never thought of it as a bad thing because they have always shown us so much love. As weird as it is, the joke in that side of family is to hide anything you aren't willing to give up because someone WILL ask for it. I've had aunts give me the jewelry or clothing off their body if I mention I like it so I consider it "paying it forward" when someone comments about something of mine and wants to have it.

It's good that your son realizes she did it because she loves them. So as crazy as it might have been, just remember that you are fortunate enough to have family that loves your kids so much. You see your kids everyday and she just wanted a small reminder to take home with her. Don't make her feel bad for loving your kids that much. Just move on and see if you can find more pictures or have new ones taken

My dad's side of the family...we'd have to pay them to take one of our pictures too! That is why I'm so much closer to my mom's side of the family.

 

[AJKMOM]

Please let us know how dinner turns out! Good luck.

 

[njcarita]

see red notes below

Wow, are we related?

I've had aunts give me the jewelry or clothing off their body if I mention I like it


My great aunts are like this too always giving us something!!!!!!!!!but I would NEVER just take something i liked and run out the door with it

It's good that your son realizes she did it because she loves them.
i keep reminding myself this fact over and over!!!

 

[honeydiane1953]

??? I think something is medically/psych. wrong with her. Go get them back or ask your mother to. I would def go.

 

[DawnM]

I would just comment with, "Were you able to get the copies made of those pictures you wanted? I hope so because I need MY copies back."

Dawn

 

[MamaOdie]

At 65 she has earned what my husband calls "the old people's right to say and do whatever the hell they please".

Seriously I really do understand what you're saying. Since it sounds like our families are similar in ways, I think about how I would react if my aunt did that.

Yes, I would want my picture back but not at the expense of ruining your (or your kids) relationship with her. No, she definitely shouldn't have just taken the picture and I would tell her nicely that you need the picture back but don't jeopardize the relationship over it. New pictures can always be taken but at 65 years old, if you alienate a family member that so obviously loves your kids you might regret it later.

My suggestion is to just have another family picture taken (Portrait studios always offer free 8x10s). Let her know you took the picture just for her but that you want the other one back.