Multi generation family living under one roof?

[LSUmiss]

Absolutely no way! We got a glimpse of what it would be like to live with MIL twice! First she lived with us briefly for about 2 mos after Hurricane Katrina. Awful awful experience. But, time passed & we thought it was a bad experience b/c of the circumstances. So about 6 years later we were selling one house & buying another in a different city so she offered us to stay with her. Even worse experience! This was never DS even more no way now. And DH thought the experience was worse than I did so it’s not b/c she’s my MIL.

 

[LSUmiss]

The OP has pretty much described this as a business transaction. Entering a financial agreement with friends or family is almost always a bad idea.

As far as “taking care of your own” that can be done without moving someone into your home. For me it would destroy relationships. It’s not a bad thing to know your limits.

And my first priority is my DS. That’s “my own” before anyone else. Mil is toxic & would not be good for DS. She is ok for visits, but that’s it.