???Moving???

[d1sneyf4n]

Has anyone out there moved their children around a few times? My daughter was in a school in NJ then we moved out of state for awhile and then moved back and she returned to her old school the this school year. Now my husband has been offered a new job that will let him work from home some but we have to move again. The moving does not bother me but I feel sick that I have to pull her out again. We will be going to the house where we were the first time we moved out of state bc it has not sold yet but then once it does we will be going south anywhere from NC to FL. Is my feeling of sick justified or am i being silly?

 

[fireworks fan]

My family moved around often when I was a kid. My brother and I are 7 yrs apart and never went to the same school because we moved at least every 3 years, and never back to the same place either. In my case, I found that it made for a very tight immediate family-we are very close even now as adults. As a kid, I think we both got used to it, and my parents were very laid back about the moving around. I moved both before school started and during the school year without any real issue. I think your family will be fine!

 

[jnzimm]

I for one believe moving kids all the time has both positive and negative effects. On paper write down the positives on one side and the percieved negatives on the other and see for yourslf.

I for one have never chased job oppourtunities. I like that my neighbors are the same, my child plays with the same friends, attends school in the same district every year. Money and oppourtunity to make more has never justified uprooting my family. My wife and I both have jobs we love and would never move for the sake of making more money or have a more conveinient work enviroment at the expense of moving our daughter. Just one mans opinion.

 

[d1sneyf4n]

Thank you both for your responses. I am sure my daughter will be fine being that she is a social butterfly.

 

[Schmeck]

If she makes friends easily, then I think she'll be OK - have you asked her how she feels about it? Kids need to have some input too. I remember moving too much between the 3rd and 9th grades. I'm an only child, was quite shy, and my parents didn't ask me how I felt about any of the moves (there were 3) I had a pretty rotten time in high school, because everyone else had been together for years, and I was "brand new". I think the fact that my parents never talked to me about it (basically never asked me how I felt about moving, just told it would happen) mad me feel very resentful. I even tried to flunk out of 9th grade, until I realized that I'd just have to do it over again the next year, LOL!

 

[d1sneyf4n]

If she makes friends easily, then I think she'll be OK - have you asked her how she feels about it? Kids need to have some input too. I remember moving too much between the 3rd and 9th grades. I'm an only child, was quite shy, and my parents didn't ask me how I felt about any of the moves (there were 3) I had a pretty rotten time in high school, because everyone else had been together for years, and I was "brand new". I think the fact that my parents never talked to me about it (basically never asked me how I felt about moving, just told it would happen) mad me feel very resentful. I even tried to flunk out of 9th grade, until I realized that I'd just have to do it over again the next year, LOL!

I asked her a little bit on our walk home from school and she seems to be ok with it. I told her we would not be staying in VA but only until our house sells. She know then after that we have a chance to move to FL were her cousins are so I think she excited for that. I will say where ever we end up after our house sells in VA, I hope it to be my last until my children are out of school...........my daughter is 5 and my son is 2.

 

[The Moonk's Mom]

We have only moved once, last year. At first it was hard for all of us, but we just really mapped out all the positive stuff for our kids (and me!) and a year later we are doing great. I think as someone else posted, it has drawn us even closer as a family. Good luck!