Moving in with Significant Other

[FutureDisneyEventPlanner]

Had this conversation with one of my friends the other day...how long would you (or did you) wait before you moved in with you significant other? Whether you're just dating, engaged, married...

 

[mjkacmom]

Almost 6 years, I would’ve moved in sooner, but DH wanted to wait until closer to marriage (got engaged 6 months before we got married). We e been together for 28 years.

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

We dated for 5 months and then I moved in with him. My car was totaled and I could walk to my part time job from his studio apartment. And since we were both in college (him in regularly and me in vocational school) that were right next to each other I had a ride to college most days.
Some days I did have to ride my bike the 5 miles when he didn't have class. But that was much easier than the 15 miles I was riding to get to and from my part time job when I lived at home until I got my car.

We got married 6 months after that and just celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary on April 29th.

 

[Hikergirl]

Dh and I moved in together about a year after we started dating. We got engaged a few months after.

 

[Lilacs4Me]

I had a weird childhood/teen years with parents who only cared about themselves, so bear with me...

My high school boyfriend and I started "dating" when I was a Freshman and he was a Sophomore in high school. My mother and stepfather bought a new house in Oct of my Senior year before selling the one we lived in, so they asked my boyfriend (who was now 19 and had graduated the year before) to move in with me and pay them $500 in rent every month so I could "still go to school and finish out my senior year", even though the new house was only 30 min further and I had my own car. So, we played house for about 5 months before we realized that paying $500 in rent, plus our own groceries, gas, insurance, and car maintenance on both of our 10 year+ cars wasn't so easy on $8.50 and $4.75/hour jobs. We both moved back in with our respective parents by that March. Our son is exactly the same age now, that I was then, and I cannot imagine for a second asking him to have done that this whole past senior year.

Round two....In May the year I turned 19, and he was 20 about to turn 21, we tried it again. We got our own apartment and never looked back. He proposed to me that Christmas, we had a long engagement of 3 years, bought a house when I was 21 and he was almost 23, got married a year later, had DS17 two years after that, had two more kids in the next 6 years, and now we are 3 weeks to the day away from watching my sweet boy graduate high school, my baby girl is graduating 8th grade in just over two weeks, and DS12 will be a 7th grader and I'm sure taller than me by the end of 2018. We will be married for 20 years this July, and together for a total of 28.

Geesh....2018. It seemed SOOOO far away 18 years ago.

 

[Klayfish]

DW and I started "living together" about 3 weeks after our first date, in that I had pretty much abandoned my apartment and was staying with her. We then officially moved in together 7 weeks later when we rented a townhouse together. So from first date to signing a lease agreement together it was about 2.5 months. Sometimes you just "know" when it's right.

Still going strong over 20 years later.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

DW and I started "living together" about 3 weeks after our first date, in that I had pretty much abandoned my apartment and was staying with her. We then officially moved in together 7 weeks later when we rented a townhouse together. So from first date to signing a lease agreement together it was about 2.5 months. Sometimes you just "know" when it's right.

Still going strong over 20 years later.

This is almost exactly our story...

Except we're only going on about 13 years

 

[bjscheel]

After the wedding, at which point we had been together 2 years 1 month.

 

[soccerdad72]

Good Catholic kids - not until after the wedding, even though we closed on our house a few months beforehand. I lived there by myself for those couple months.

 

[DLmama]

We started dating in Oct. 2004 after being friends for about 4 years. My mom started having health issues in Feb. 2005 and passed away in June 2005. During the time she was sick, he would spend all day with her while my dad and I were at work. He started staying overnight to help with whatever needed to be done. After she passed, he never went home. So, I guess you could say we started living together after 4 months and will be celebrating 11 years of marriage this year.

 

[mamamary]

After we got married. We started dating when I was 15 so many years before we lived together.

 

[FutureDisneyEventPlanner]

We started dating in Oct. 2004 after being friends for about 4 years. My mom started having health issues in Feb. 2005 and passed away in June 2005. During the time she was sick, he would spend all day with her while my dad and I were at work. He started staying overnight to help with whatever needed to be done. After she passed, he never went home. So, I guess you could say we started living together after 4 months and will be celebrating 11 years of marriage this year.

lovely story! he sounds like an absolute gem!

 

[mjkacmom]

Good Catholic kids - not until after the wedding, even though we closed on our house a few months beforehand. I lived there by myself for those couple months.

When we moved in together after dating 5 1/2 years (and spending most of those nights together) his parents were so upset we were living together. We never told my grandmother, she would’ve been horrified.

 

[mjkacmom]

We started dating in Oct. 2004 after being friends for about 4 years. My mom started having health issues in Feb. 2005 and passed away in June 2005. During the time she was sick, he would spend all day with her while my dad and I were at work. He started staying overnight to help with whatever needed to be done. After she passed, he never went home. So, I guess you could say we started living together after 4 months and will be celebrating 11 years of marriage this year.

My sister’s divorce started when our mom got deathly sick, and her DH showed his true colors. She always kne2 he was selfish, but figured he’d step up in a serious situation.

 

[nkereina]

My now DH and I moved in together after about 9 months of dating. We lived 90 minutes away from each other so it was a "long distance" relationship. I was going to college in the same city where he lived and his lease was up, so it made sense for us to get an apartment together rather than me dorming at the time.

 

[sunshinemelody]

DBf and I have been together 3 years as of this past April. Moved into his place (CT) Christmas of 2017 after being done with college in VA. Definitely, don't miss VA in the slightest.

 

[DLmama]

My sister’s divorce started when our mom got deathly sick, and her DH showed his true colors. She always kne2 he was selfish, but figured he’d step up in a serious situation.

That happened to my best friend when her dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and went to live with them. Her ex-H was just awful and told her he "didn't sign up for this." I'm sorry your sister had to deal with it also.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

After marriage for me.

 

[MrJT]

This is almost exactly our story...

Except we're only going on about 13 years

My story is similar. We met in late October, and we were going to get an apartment in January. I had issues with my roommate, so I moved out in early December. My new lease wasn't going to be valid until the beginning of the year, so her mom let me sleep on the floor for those few weeks.
We moved into our own place on the 1st of the year. About 3 weeks later, we were engaged. Two months after that, we married. That was just over 23 years ago.

 

[cjbcam]

We didn’t start living together until about 6 months after we got married lol. We were high school sweethearts but I went away for University. I had one semester left before I started interning and I could come back home to intern. We knew we couldn’t get married in between semesters and his parents are very catholic and didn’t want us living in “sin” so we got married the summer before my last year so we could live together while I interned. We got engaged at 18 years old and got married at 21 years old. 4 kids and 17 years later still going strong.