Mother's Day- THIS SUNDAY!!

[Pebblszzz]

For those of you who wish to recognize a special Mom, I just thought I'd remind ya!!!

For me, it will be my Grandmother (aka Granny), as my mom passed away in '93. It's always a tough day for me, but Granny gets me through it!

 

[Robinrs]

Thank you, Pebs...

This will be my first Mother's day without my Mom, since you're a vet maybe you can teach me how not to go nuts.

I will be celebrating it with my wonderful Aunt who has stepped up to the plate since I lost my parents.

She's gotten us through Thanksgiving, Christmas and now this. I'm so blessed to have her!

 

[helenabear]

Pebs, Robin and all with out their moms, my heart goes out to you. This will make my 9th Mother's Day without mine. I usually honestly just hold it as a special day for my mom and spend time "with her" at her grave. I've had no real mother figures since my mom died. A cousin maybe for a while, but not recently. Anyway, I think this one will be rough as my sister is getting married the day before and it just tears at my heart when I think of all my mom is missing. Oh boy... anyway, mothers and mother figures are special creatures, definitely ones to be treasured

 

[Pebblszzz]

It's taken me this long to ....

Wake up on her birthday and not instantly think she's missing it.
Forget the date of her death (until usually a week or so later).
Get through holidays without missing her there (well, not totally).
Not cry all day long on Mother's day.

It gets better.

I wish I could visit her grave, but to my knowledge - there isn't one. Long story, but suffice it to say, I didn't know she had died until 2 months later, when I found out completely by accident. She had "disappeared" with the man she was married to (and all of us couldn't stand, which is another story entirely).

From what I've heard, my mother was cremated, and nobody really knows what happened to her ashes.

Before she married the jerk, we were best friends.

I will always miss her and cherish my fond memories of our times together.

Hi Mom!!!

 

[Robinrs]

Thank you, Cheryl and Elaine...

I hope I'll get better with time.

Right now it's so hard. My Mom was my confidante, my best friend, my hero. Every store has nothing but Mother's Day things up and until two days ago it just KILLED me.

That's when Michael looked me straight in the eye and reminded me that I'm not just a daughter, that I AM a mother!

For 47 years I've been a daughter. Now it's my son's turn to make it a special day for me. It's hard to accept because I'm so much more of a giver than a receiver, but he MADE me realize that I cannot take that from him.

As my Mom couldn't take it from me.

 

[helenabear]

Cheryl, I am so sorry you lost your mom on such terms So sad that you had to find out that way. Especially since it seems like you two had a special relationship before hand. I will say I need some help with out to "forget" the day she died and to not miss her so much on her birthday. I'm not there... yet. I do agree with you though, it does get 'easier' with time.

Robin, hang on to the reminder that you are a mom. Your Michael sounds like one amazing boy. I am sure that he will make this day totally unforgetable for you. But that pain of walking through the stores is rough. I have been looking for jewelry for myself recently (for my sister's wedding among other things) and every store I went into asked if it was for my mom. Then the next question asking if I am one hurts (for other reasons) right now. I have found one thing though, that on days that are special to me and when I fear that I won't be able to handle it because I am sure I will miss her most, are the days where I find some strength inside... like my mom is making sure that she won't be 'taking something away' from me. The feelings I get during those special times are what gets me through some days. I only know of your mom through what you've said here, and I am sure she hopes you can celebrate mother's day as a mom yourself with your precious boy.

... just a few thoughts there you could hold onto and do remember it does get a little easier with time.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

Robin - you just made me cry. Im sorry. Yes this will be a tough Mother's Day for you and the others who have lost their moms.

Father's Day is a hard one for me as it will be 9yrs this July that I lost Dad.
I do remember I had to make an extra effort for my son to make Father's Day a joyous occasion for my husband.

This will be a hard Mother's Day for my mom this year. Her oldest son just had a massive heart attack and because of his breast cancer the docs havent told us whether they can operate on his heart or not.

 

[Robinrs]

Thanks, Elaine and IGTD:

I'm so sorry about your Mom's son. Is he your brother? God bless your family.

Elaine, I don't know what I would've done if I didn't have Michael. He has been my backbone. Like I've always said, when I go down, he comes UP and vice versa. I know my parents are watching him and smiling.

Everyone, have a great Mother's Day. We deserve it.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

Hi Robin - yes my mother's son is also my brother. Thinking of the situation from my mother's point-of-view also.

Arent our kids wonderful? DS definately helps me through the toughest times.

 

[Robinrs]

I see.

Like my Mom always told me, it's not right for a child to precede a parent in death. I pray that your brother makes it.

Yep, my little "gentleman" was God's plan to get me through this thing called life, as I know yours does for your.

God bless, ladies,

and HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

 

[lisajl]

Oh my goodness...you ladies are making me cry!

I fortunately, still have my mom. She will be 83 in July. The same day I turn 41.

My mom and I are not that close. I do try to make mother's day nice for her though.

The problem I have is with father's day. I was very close to my dad and he died when I was 15. He was 67 then.

It sounds like you all had wonderful moms. Obviously you did, look at how you turned out!

Please remember how much they loved you.

Lisajl

 

[Serena]

Ok, now I'm crying.


Robin, Cheryl, Elaine, and the other's out there, {{{{hugs}}}}}

 

[WDWLVR]

Mother's day is always hard on me because it is always close to my mom's birthday. We lost her in '97 and she would have turned 74 this Friday.

Thankfully I have a very nice MIL who I get along with pretty well. She is sailing with us next week and we'll celebrate Mother's Day on the Disney Magic. I have a basket ordered for her as a surprise Mother's Day treat. She was always very good to my mom from the time I entered the family, always invited my mother to every holiday, helped take care of my mom when she was sick, and even takes care of the flowers on my mother's grave.

I have been blessed by these two women as well as my Grandmother and Great Aunt who raised me.

I have no children of my own (I was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer the same year I got married) so I envy those of you who have a child to love and who loves you back.

I have no regrets - I'm having a great life and to that I thank the women in my life.

Happy Mother's Day to all you Mothers out there. For those of you who have a Mother still living - give her a hug, a call, or a card and say thank you to her. She helped make you who you are!

 

[Fire14]

I normally spend Mother's day at work so that the mom's who have children can be with them. This year I will be flying to Vegas. I get my joys in watching Children come to vist their mom's at the nursing homes I work in.