Mother of Bride and groom dresses

[wishesuponastar]

What color did you choose? I think bridesmaids may have black/silver. Dark grey comes to my mind as MOB but I'm hoping for more ideas. March wedding

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Our wedding, the bridesmaids wore platinum (stated color but basically silver gray).

My mom dressed herself as a guest and I didn't have her coordinate. I did shop with her and was found this beautiful teal gown. It was perfect. Mother of the groom also picked what she wanted and hers was a baby blue ensemble.

And none of it clashed.

We were married in June.

What time of day is the wedding? Ours was afternoon--so colors were more suited to daytime than evening.

 

[WDWAurora]

I think time of day makes a difference, as stated. We got married at 2pm. My mom wore a light pink and MIL wore a light turquoise. My bridesmaids wore green. All a little darker than pastels and worked together.

I really like deep purple and a dark teal for moms. Maybe even a deep berry.

 

[NewRVLady]

MY Son & DIL had an Autumn wedding late PM in garden of Estate on Hudson River-reception till 11pm

Bridesmaids wore deep red/cranberry
Cranberry and Auntumn Gold were there colors
MOB wore brown chiffon
MOG (me) wore dark Gray Chiffon

 

[Mommyof2Boos]

I had a somewhat odd vision for our wedding (according to some of the guests). I wanted EVERYONE but the bridal party in all black. Husband and his groomsman were in their uniforms, I was in white, my daughter and bridesmaids were in red. Everyone who actually respects us was in black. Only a couple people were in other colors like purple and teal (they did not want to be there and wanted to show their disapproval outwardly of our marriage).

 

[sunshinehighway]

I had a somewhat odd vision for our wedding (according to some of the guests). I wanted EVERYONE but the bridal party in all black. Husband and his groomsman were in their uniforms, I was in white, my daughter and bridesmaids were in red. Everyone who actually respects us was in black. Only a couple people were in other colors like purple and teal (they did not want to be there and wanted to show their disapproval outwardly of our marriage).

Seriously? You wanted to dictate what color your guests wore?

 

[SirDuff]

What color did you choose? I think bridesmaids may have black/silver. Dark grey comes to my mind as MOB but I'm hoping for more ideas. March wedding

PPs have asked good questions. I think it also depends on your colouring (and hers) - different colours are going to look good/bad on different people.

Seriously? You wanted to dictate what color your guests wore?

That struck me as odd too - never been to a wedding (as a guest) where the colour of my clothes was dictated!

 

[mmouse37]

What color did you choose? I think bridesmaids may have black/silver. Dark grey comes to my mind as MOB but I'm hoping for more ideas. March wedding

My dress was called Platinum. I was MOG (sorry, didn't see you said MOB)

MJ

 

[Happy Snowman]

What color did you choose? I think bridesmaids may have black/silver. Dark grey comes to my mind as MOB but I'm hoping for more ideas. March wedding

Are the bridesmaids dresses black and silver or black or silver (meaning you aren't sure which?)

If they are black and silver or just black, the dark grey would be lovely. A dark plum would look nice with black, silver or black and silver as well. I wouldn't do a dark grey if they are silver without seeing the silver to make sure your dress isn't too close to the same color. A deep, deep green would look nice as well.

 

[Mommyof2Boos]

Seriously? You wanted to dictate what color your guests wore?

Yes, we did request our guests wear black. Most of our guests appreciated it because it helped them decide what to wear and understood the sentiment behind it. It worked very well with our venue as well. The reasoning is other than looking awesome in pictures is because we wanted the focus to be on the sentiment of the marriage and helping us celebrate our lives together. Neither one of us likes being the center of attention so it was suggested we do this to make ourselves be for just the one day. Like I said, many people found it odd, but once explained to them they thought it was a good idea. I had many people thank me for the dress code because "seeing what everyone else decided to wear is distracting; but with everyone wearing the same color it doesn't matter"

 

[kaytieeldr]

My dress was called Platinum. I was MOG (sorry, didn't see you said MOB)

MJ

You realize when a dress is too long, it looks and fits better hemming it from the bottom, right? Generally preferable to wearing it over your head?
But seriously - nice dress.

 

[ronandannette]

I had a somewhat odd vision for our wedding (according to some of the guests). I wanted EVERYONE but the bridal party in all black. Husband and his groomsman were in their uniforms, I was in white, my daughter and bridesmaids were in red. Everyone who actually respects us was in black. Only a couple people were in other colors like purple and teal (they did not want to be there and wanted to show their disapproval outwardly of our marriage).

...or maybe they just disapproved of your pretentious demand?

Yes, we did request our guests wear black. Most of our guests appreciated it because it helped them decide what to wear and understood the sentiment behind it. It worked very well with our venue as well. The reasoning is other than looking awesome in pictures is because we wanted the focus to be on the sentiment of the marriage and helping us celebrate our lives together. Neither one of us likes being the center of attention so it was suggested we do this to make ourselves be for just the one day. Like I said, many people found it odd, but once explained to them they thought it was a good idea. I had many people thank me for the dress code because "seeing what everyone else decided to wear is distracting; but with everyone wearing the same color it doesn't matter"

This is one of the goofiest things I've ever heard. It was your WEDDING for heaven's sake - what else would the focus possibly have been on beside the sentiment of your marriage? And how on earth could you have helped but be the centre of attention? I'm a pretty go-with-the-flow person and may well have acquiesced to the idea of dressing for a "theme" wedding, but hearing your reasoning would have had me .

 

[Gracie09]

Yes, we did request our guests wear black. Most of our guests appreciated it because it helped them decide what to wear and understood the sentiment behind it. It worked very well with our venue as well. The reasoning is other than looking awesome in pictures is because we wanted the focus to be on the sentiment of the marriage and helping us celebrate our lives together. Neither one of us likes being the center of attention so it was suggested we do this to make ourselves be for just the one day. Like I said, many people found it odd, but once explained to them they thought it was a good idea. I had many people thank me for the dress code because "seeing what everyone else decided to wear is distracting; but with everyone wearing the same color it doesn't matter"

Or they were just being polite and were behind your back.

 

[Hrhpd]

Yes, we did request our guests wear black. Most of our guests appreciated it because it helped them decide what to wear and understood the sentiment behind it. It worked very well with our venue as well. The reasoning is other than looking awesome in pictures is because we wanted the focus to be on the sentiment of the marriage and helping us celebrate our lives together. Neither one of us likes being the center of attention so it was suggested we do this to make ourselves be for just the one day. Like I said, many people found it odd, but once explained to them they thought it was a good idea. I had many people thank me for the dress code because "seeing what everyone else decided to wear is distracting; but with everyone wearing the same color it doesn't matter"

If it was just a request, how come you are judging those who did not follow your request as people who do not respect you? You said it twice, once when you said those who respected you wore black and then you specifically mentioned those who wore a different color.

Perhaps they didn't have anything black and wore a dark color to be close. The only time I wear black is to a funeral. And I know I probably wouldn't go out and buy a dress and I know for a fact we wouldn't drop a few hundred on a black suit for DH just because a bride demands a dress code. But that doesn't mean I don't respect the couple.

I agree with your guests. Odd request. And my first thought would have been that the bride had been sucked into a "bridezilla" mode. As a guest at numerous weddings, I have never been distracted by what others wear. I have never heard anybody being distracted by other guest's outfits, unless a guest comes dressed as a porn star. The bride has always been the focus. Strange.

 

[sunshinehighway]

...or maybe they just disapproved of your pretentious demand?



This is one of the goofiest things I've ever heard. It was your WEDDING for heaven's sake - what else would the focus possibly have been on beside the sentiment of your marriage? And how on earth could you have helped but be the centre of attention? I'm a pretty go-with-the-flow person and may well have acquiesced to the idea of dressing for a "theme" wedding, but hearing your reasoning would have had me .

Yup. Of course most people will tell you what a great idea it is and all that. They were just trying to be nice.

 

[JanaDee]

If it was just a request, how come you are judging those who did not follow your request as people who do not respect you? You said it twice, once when you said those who respected you wore black and then you specifically mentioned those who wore a different color. Perhaps they didn't have anything black and wore a dark color to be close. The only time I wear black is to a funeral. And I know I wouldn't go out and buy a dress just because a bride demands a dress code. But that doesn't mean I don't respect the couple. I agree with your guests. Odd request. And my first thought would have been that the bride had been sucked into a "bridezilla" mode. As a guest at numerous weddings, I have never been distracted by what others wear. I have never heard anybody being distracted by other guest's outfits, unless a guest comes dressed as a porn star. The bride has always been the focus. Strange.

Bridezilla is the first thing I thought of, too. I agree with the rest of what you said.

I don't own anything black and I wouldn't be buying a new dress just because a bride thinks I should wear what she tells me to.

 

[VAfamily1998]

I was married over 16 years ago.
Bridesmaids wore navy blue
My mom wore beige
MIL (mother of the groom) wore navy blue. She told me she wanted to match the bridesmaids. Not what I would have chosen, but also not worth causing a problem.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Well, since I was up to my chin in the other thread...

I will just be honest and say that, the color and choice of the Mother of the Bride and the Groom in dresses is just as personal and varied as anything else... Also, the venue, the time of day/evening, the season, the particular personality and tastes....

I really don't see how anybody could make a 'right - or - wrong' determination.

I will say that, in my personal opinion, a Bride selecting what anyone other than her bridesmaids might wear is just as over-the-top and self centered and inappropriate as a Mother of the Bride or Groom who would feel that they should have any opinion or say-so in what the bride and groom wear.

My son and the young woman that he might someday meet and choose to marry, and pledge to love each other for the rest of their lives... may decide on a huge lavish church wedding, a Justice of the Peace, a destination wedding at a beach or other beautiful travel destination.... (my son actually mentioned this when he was young, when we visited Sedona and the the Grand Canyon!!!!) Maybe they will get married in a garden in a back yard... Maybe they want some unique and wild activity wedding, like sky-diving or scuba... Whatever....

This is up to them, and I can't see beginning to think for one small tiny moment that me and my opinions, what I happen to think, about things like the colors, are things that warrant much thought. As long as I am there to share the love and hugs!!!

Going by the OP's description, for me, if the Bride did not have a preference... I might choose a nice berry-pink. Maybe others are more comfortable in more neutral colors...

I would not venture to begin to give anyone a viewpoint/opinion as to what might be best, or right, or wrong.

 

[Ceila]

Yes, we did request our guests wear black. Most of our guests appreciated it because it helped them decide what to wear and understood the sentiment behind it. It worked very well with our venue as well. The reasoning is other than looking awesome in pictures is because we wanted the focus to be on the sentiment of the marriage and helping us celebrate our lives together. Neither one of us likes being the center of attention so it was suggested we do this to make ourselves be for just the one day. Like I said, many people found it odd, but once explained to them they thought it was a good idea. I had many people thank me for the dress code because "seeing what everyone else decided to wear is distracting; but with everyone wearing the same color it doesn't matter"

Um, it's not quite a "request" if you have a problem with the people who chose not to participate.

As for your claim that "many" guests were happy to not be distracted by color - really? I'm having trouble buying that. And anyway, unless everyone wore the exact same dress, that's a ridiculous statement. I, for one, can get perfectly distracted viewing different black dresses, thankyouverymuch.

 

[Wishing on a star]

What color did you choose? I think bridesmaids may have black/silver. Dark grey comes to my mind as MOB but I'm hoping for more ideas. March wedding

Okay, just, again, since you asked for our thoughts/ideas... I am sure that there are some very lovely and flattering dark-grey dresses out there!! And, I do wear a lot of winter-neutral colors.. Black... etc...

But, just something about dark-grey seems dark and un-inspired... like Amish or something???? Hahahahaha!!!!

I might go for a lighter grey with some kind of 'interest'.

And for me, if the bride had no opinions or objections for any reason, I might add a pop of some berry/pink???