Missing Couple Found at Disney!

[gina2000]

MargieJ.....in NJ amber alerts are only used in non-custodial situations.

While each state determines its own parameters for issuing an AMBER Alert, the State of New Jersey has developed the following criteria:

AMBER Alerts are intended for non-family cases of child abduction, where the child is in imminent danger of serious bodily harm or death. AMBER Alerts are not intended for all missing child incidents, runaways, or child custody situations. All law enforcement must work together to ensure AMBER Alerts are not abused. Abuse will lead to a lack of confidence by law enforcement and the public.

Perhaps MA should reconsider their guidelines. When I first heard the NJ guidelines, I was not in agreement. The officer explained the state's reasons and after reading about the MA incident and the subsequent public response, I think NJ may be onto the right idea.

Missing children in custody situations are turned over to the NJ State Police Missing Persons Unit rather than Amber alert.


As for the rest of this, it's a shame. These two adults need to understand their responsibilities to their respective families regardless of the families' disapproval. Turning off cell phones is juvenile behavior. In case of emergency, everyone should be reachable. Reachable means a third party is knowledgeable as to your whereabouts and able to contact you if necessary. And they were not. Instead, they BECAME the emergency. Sorry, that's irresponsible and juvenile. Controlling parents? Deal with it. Others do in a more responsible fashion.

 

[Kallison]

It sounds to me like the two knew exactly what they were doing, trying to cover their tracks. Yes, they have a right to do it but they wasted thousands of dollars of public resources while they were being tracked down. Very immature, very iresponsible and the consequences will follow them for a long time into adulthood.

 

[Talking Hands]

Wait a minute. These are you adults. Both are over the age of 18. While not communicationg with their parents is not the best thing in the world it is not a crime. The ones at fault for the alert is not the kids but the parents who cried wolf. They need to accept that the no longer have children but young adults who will lead their own lives and may not always tell them when, where and why they are going some place.

 

[MosMom]

Coming from someone who has a controlling mother, I wouldn't have told her either. In fact, I went on vacation for a long weekend once (I was living in my own apartment and didn't speak to my mother daily as she is crazy) and my mother had the police searching for me, break into my apartment, etc. because she couldn't contact me exactly when she wanted to. My dad knew where I was but she never bothered to contact him because she thrives on chaos and drama. I'm certain she did it because it would gain attention for HER. Meanwhile, it was terribly mortifying for me.

I'm not saying what they did was smart but if you come from a controlling family, many times you feel that you have to pull moves like this just to live your life.

 

[allicat]

For two "adults" they acted like little children.
If the situation was that the girl was going on this trip no matter what, she should have told her mother "I am going, sorry if you dont like it"At least then, the mother would know that she wasnt in any danger instead of thinking they were missing!And this big "news event" wouldnt have happened.
Sounds like there is more to this story!

 

[bizybea]

I agree with allicat, I think there is a lot more to this story that we haven't heard about yet. The fact that they still refuse to go home is one reason why I feel that way. Also, the boy's dad said that they told him that he could come to them about anything and he said that he couldn't tell them why he had done it yet but that he would when they returned home. Something is not right in this situation....