miscarriage question

[ZPT1022]

Not sure if this is the right place for this question, but for anyone who has ever had a miscarriage, how long did it take for you to feel okay again. Not emotionally, I'm not sure I'll ever feel 100% that way again, but the physical stuff. How long did it take your body to heal? Mine started on Tuesday night and I am just wondering how long I am going to physically feel like crap, I know mentally it will be a much longer road

 

[Mommyto1andtwins]

That is such a hard thing to go through. I had a miscarriage 7 years ago. For me I had cramping worse then my period for the first day maybe two. After that I was fine it lasted less time then my period and my body took care of itself. Emotionally I was fine at the time it wasn't until I went to the doctor's to get the check up and they gave me a book on my emotions that I couldn't handle them. I just kept telling myself that there is always a reason in the end.

 

[kimis]

I have had several miscarriages and I know what you are feeling. Everyone is different. Take the time your body wants you to take. Trust me you will feel good again and probably sooner than you thought. When I had my miscarriages it was at a time when no one spoke of them so those of us that had them mourned in private. I am so glad that 32 years later it is out in the open. It is okay to be sad and mourn. Remember that everything happens for a reason and we may never know what that reason is. I ended up having three wonderful sons in the middle of 5 miscarriages. I have always thought I got the exact children God wanted me to have and the other five are waiting for me in heaven. I even say they are quiet calm little girls (remember I have 3 boys). Well now I have 5 grandchildren and 3 more on the way. I have been blessed.
You are in my prayers.

 

[ZPT1022]

That is such a hard thing to go through. I had a miscarriage 7 years ago. For me I had cramping worse then my period for the first day maybe two. After that I was fine it lasted less time then my period and my body took care of itself. Emotionally I was fine at the time it wasn't until I went to the doctor's to get the check up and they gave me a book on my emotions that I couldn't handle them. I just kept telling myself that there is always a reason in the end.

I have to go back for a follow up too, I didn't really know why but I guess it's probably partially to make sure you're okay emotionally. I'm really glad that I have that appointment with the midwife and not one of the male doctors then. Thank you for sharing your experience, it's nice to feel less alone and to have some idea about the physical part. Yesterday there were no appointments available, so I just saw the ultrasound tech who confirmed that yes, it was a miscarriage, but no other info was really given.

 

[ZPT1022]

I have had several miscarriages and I know what you are feeling. Everyone is different. Take the time your body wants you to take. Trust me you will feel good again and probably sooner than you thought. When I had my miscarriages it was at a time when no one spoke of them so those of us that had them mourned in private. I am so glad that 32 years later it is out in the open. It is okay to be sad and mourn. Remember that everything happens for a reason and we may never know what that reason is. I ended up having three wonderful sons in the middle of 5 miscarriages. I have always thought I got the exact children God wanted me to have and the other five are waiting for me in heaven. I even say they are quiet calm little girls (remember I have 3 boys). Well now I have 5 grandchildren and 3 more on the way. I have been blessed.
You are in my prayers.

Thank you for the prayers and well wishes and for sharing your story. I'm glad to be going through this in a time that it's okay to reach out to other people. I love that you joke about quiet calm little girls, I grew up with only brothers so I can definitely relate to that! Congratulations on all those grandkids, DH and I hope that someday we will be blessed with lots of grandkids to keep us busy!

 

[ilovemickeymost]

All I can ever say when someone miscarries is "I'm sorry you have to go through this & this just sucks". Nothing else makes you feel any better. I've had a miscarriage, but have no idea what you are going through. EAch persons situation is different. For me, I already had 2 children, the 3rd was a surprise & we weren't sure we really wanted anymore children or how we would handle it. DH was getting ready to leave on his 1st deployment overseas. We worked through all the detail: where the baby would sleep, how we would afford another little one, how we would handle delivery w/ DH away, everything. It seemed once we figured it all out & were excited & ready to welcome the newest member of our family & really wanted another child, we miscarried. It took me awhile to understand. The deployment is now over & was way harder for all of us then I thought. I'm not sure I could have handled everything about having a new baby w/ DH gone. We are currently expecting again & this time when we found out we were able to be really excited & not at all worried. We had already worked out all the details w/ Baby Ryan (giving our baby a name, even though I was at 9 weeks, really helped me). Our newest bundle will be here in mid-January & we've already planned his introductory trip to WDW. Here's praying that you are able to come to peace. PM me if you ever need to talk. You'll find how many women are in this club of ours.

 

[Canyon girl]

I had a miscarriage after my doctor said that he thought I would never get pregnant. I was heartbroken! But then I thought about another woman that I had seen just before I miscarried. She was almost to term when her baby died inutero. The baby just stopped moving. It put everything into perspective for me! I was much happier with the miscarriage happening early that a later fetal death. I know it is not a happy situation, but I looked at it as it could be worse. I later had 2 healthy children. I wish you well with your appt and recovery. It will get better.

 

[faerieprincess]

i had two miscarriages in my very early twenties, at 9 & 11 weeks, both when i was in a very unstable relationship, both when i'd been on the pill and really not wanting kids. Each time i was horrified to find out i was pregnant but gradually came round to being resigned and then excited and then ecstatic, and both times it was a crushing loss.

Physically it was mostly like a period with worse cramps and lasted a few days.

Fast forward four or five years and i am currently a secretary at a funeral home, where i've seen several women come in after miscarriages. While this is certainly not a medical opinion, in my observation the later into the term it occurs, the longer the physical symptoms last. i've seen women who've lost the baby at 19 weeks walking around ok, and women with a stillbirth who were still in a wheelchair a few days later. It really varies.

i'm really, really sorry that you're having to go through this and, as it's been a few weeks, i hope that physically at least, you are feeling better.

 

[dunbarfamily]

I am so very sorry. I haven't had a miscarriage, but I did have a stillborn daughter in June at 25 weeks of pregnancy. It was a regular labor and birth. I can't answer your question pertaining to how long you will be in pain with the miscarriage since I do not have personal experience, but from what I've read on other websites, it sounds like it might be a week or so. Again, that is not based on me.

I just wanted to tell you I am sorry for your loss. I know that might not make you feel any better, or it may, either way is fine. Grief is a very unique experience, and while others can guess how you feel, or tell you they know how you feel, you are the only one who knows what its like for you.

You didn't ask for any advice, but I'll throw in my two cents anyways. Consider naming your child. I've read that it helps to acknowledge that this was a baby. You don't have to name your baby now. Its never too late.

Please know you and your child are in my thoughts and prayers. Feel free to PM if you'd like to chat more. Many, many hugs to you, mama, and I'm wishing for happy moments for you.

 

[LoveMyDisneyCats]

All I can ever say when someone miscarries is "I'm sorry you have to go through this & this just sucks".

That was pretty much what DH and I had come up with to say to each other- "this just sucks" and then of course, "it's just so sad"- when we delivered my stillborn twin sons 5 weeks ago. Really, there are just no words to make it better so those simple statements just seemed to best describe it.

ZPT1022- I am so very sorry for your loss! Know you will be in my thoughts. For me it helped to know that I wasn't alone and not the only one whose been through this. Again, I am very terribly sorry that you too have to go through the loss- I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone.

I hope you start feeling better (physically) soon! I had a normal labor so I can't really offer any advise or knowledge on that. But as far as emotionally, take it day by day. From what I've learned, it's different for everyone. I'm still struggling each day and I don't think I'll ever "get over it" completely, but that's me. Take your time and pamper yourself a little. And like I said, know that you are not alone and we are all thinking of you. I wish for you peace and comfort during this time!

 

[wuv tigger]

to you as you continue to heal.

There are more women (and families) in this club than you realize. Dh & I went through 1 tubal, 2 miscarriages & and 2nd tubal.

Allow yourself to heal. Know there are many of us who have been there & pray for your comfort.

It stinks & I am sorry

 

[Elfstar]

I have no experience with this but offer my condolences. I hope you recover quickly. It is difficult, not knowing "why". My grandmother used to say that God needed a little angel in a hurry and picked the safest mommas to incubate them for him.

 

[chicagoshannon]

How are you feeling?

I had a m/c on July 31st. I was about 8 weeks. THe cramping was bad the first 3-4 days and then it went away. I bled for 10 days. I still have lingering hormanal symptoms though. Right now I have really bad skin issues, just like after I had my daughter. My cycle also took almost 50 days to come after the m/c.

I hope your physical pain is gone by now. It really truely sucks, especially emotionally. I bought a little precious moments angel to remember our little angel.