message to my daughter's next boyfriend....

[Grumpy's Gal]

if you are going to get permission from us to date our daughter, when it's time that you want to break up with her, please do it in person or by phone. Don't text her to break up. Likewise, she will show you the same courtesy if she decides to break up with you.

thank you.

Seriously -- my DD's boyfriend texted her to breakup. He's a great guy -- very smart and polite. But a text? He lives not 5 minutes away....he could have come over. God knows he's over here all the time. After being shocked, I found out that several of her girlfriends have been broken up with via text. I have a HUGE problem with that! Anyone else have an opinion?

 

[We_Love_Disney]

Frankly, I think it stinks! Unfortunately, though, it does seem to be the way teens are doing things. Teens do not know how to talk face to face anymore, it is all via the fingers on a keyboard.

Emotions are now displayed via text <3 and the dreaded </3

Sorry your daughter got the text dump. Hopefully in the future she will pick a guy that has the ability to speak.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

Hopefully in the future she will pick a guy that has the ability to speak.

that's just it -- he is here for 3-4 5 hours at a time just talking and talking and TALKING! I was just shocked.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I've been broken up with by text. I almost prefer text so I don't have to pretend to be strong and like it doesn't hurt when it's done in person or over the phone . I've broken up with one guy face to face and it was awful, lots of yelling, crying, name calling, etc. coming from him. I can see why people would want not to do it in person after that. Yikes.

 

[Darsa]

Someone who does that is an absolute coward, no doubt about it. If you can't face something like that, how are you going to face the more major decisions you'll have when you're older, especially ones where the decision's going to upset someone???

 

[SplashMtnCrew]

I feel sorry for your daughter. This same thing just happened to one of DS's friends last week. His gf broke up with him with a text and he just sat there, as if in shock. I could tell he wanted to say something to her face, to talk about it or whatever, but he never got the chance. Very sad, impersonable and quite rude. OP, maybe your DD and my DS's friend need to meet Just kidding...OP I hope your DD is taking it well, there are plenty of fish in the sea!

 

[Magic Mom]

DS's girlfrind broke it off with him by text last month. It was a crappy thing to do. I hope her hair falls out.

 

[suzannen]

Several years ago, we invited several of my oldest DD's girlfriends to come over and share Thanksgiving dinner with us. They were all in their mid-twenties, working their first permanent jobs and as newbies in their companies, were required to work the day after Thanksgiving and couldn't travel home to be with their own folks. We were completely shocked when one of them came to the dining room table crying that her boyfriend (of a year) had just dumped her by text.

It was the first time I had ever heard that and the fact that he would do it on a holiday to boot! It was so ridiculous, we finally got her to laugh saying "that's just like Sex and the City when Berger broke up with Carrie in a Post-It Note." That was about 5 years ago, and she's now in a relationship with the nicest, nicest guy and they are talking marriage. We keep telling her that she so dodged a bullet by NOT being involved with a guy who would do that.

Tell your DD, he just showed her how he is NOT the guy for her and she can and will do so much better! So sorry for her hurt heart now, though!

 

[Praying Colonel]

DS's girlfriend broke up with him via Facebook message he received upon return from WDW. Not cool at all.

 

[ilovejack02]

MY best friend's ex husband sent her an EMAIL that he was leaving her and their 3 children . Civil engineer , military man , 35 years old , prominent member of our community , can't be a man and tell her is is done. What a ......!! I will let yall fill in the blank. PS, she had no clue it was coming !

Seems to be the way things are done these days . If I ever find out my DS21 deals with women this way I will kick his skinny butt !!

Whew, rant over.

 

[OhMari]

Add my dd to the list.
Her boyfriend broke up last year by a text message.
They both attend the same college.
Needless to say, my dd was home every weekend so she wouldn't bump into him.

It doesn't surprise me, kids, teens, 20 somethings are texting to each other constantly.

 

[wdwfan16]

Texting is such a part of teens lives that I can see this being the norm soon if not already.

 

[dislaney]

I think breaking up with someone over text is rude! I guess you have to believe that someone that would break up with you that way is someone that you are probably better off without.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

Call me old-fashioned. It's beyond rude to break up over text.

 

[KitKat_Tink]

ugh my first boyfriend broke up with me with a letter. Not the nicest way to do it. But unfortunately thats the way teenagers act. Its texts, notes, and facebook wall posts.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

My last boyfriend broke up with me via text message..twice.
I'm a teenager, and I find this to be incredibly disrespectful & cowardly.

I hope your daughter finds a better guy next time, who if they do break up, he will do it in a mature way!

 

[LuvOrlando]

My kids friends 11 & 12, have entire relationships through texting. It's so weird to me. It's as if the instant written word has so removed them from the real world they forget there are real life people on the other end of those phones. The biggest change I notice at the moment is how disengaged so many of my kids' peers are, they use terms that indicate a strong bond but some can't seem to back them up. They seem to swear being BFF's or IN LOVE with each other only to sever the bond in a split second with the press of the "SEND" key. VERY PECULIAR and I'm afraid, unhealthy because it's easy to mistake manipulative words for genuine feelings without looking in someone's eyes, and it's much easier to believe a lie or be hurt. I at least talk to my kids about this stuff but I think I am in the minority.

 

[Acklander]

I guess it's today's version of the "Dear John" letter. Doesn't matter how it's done, it's hard. Hugs to your daughter.

 

[Handbag Lady]

And here I thought I was the coward for breaking up with a long-time boyfriend over the phone. (I didn't want to see him cry and I knew it was going to be hard.) But, in my defense, I was very young and I did agree to meet with him in person afterwards to really talk it out to end it.

 

[Imzadi]

Britney Spears texted her husband she wanted a divorce, right while he was at an interview. So texting a breakup is now the "IN" thing to do.