Merged Random Questions 10/29-30

[Buzz Rules]

What’s one thing you learned from your mother in law/father in law that you will and/or won’t do when when you become one yourself? I always hear mixed things about my married friends’ in laws when they speak of them. Curious to see the responses. Thanks.

 

[tvguy]

Acceptance without question and support. From my FIL.

 

[Buzz Rules]

https://www.npr.org/2021/10/29/1050485610/peta-wants-mlb-to-rename-the-bullpen-to-arm-barn

 

[ronandannette]

I heard this on the radio today and my only response is "Oh, for Pete's sake." Coming from a farm background, I can confidently say this issue really isn't bothering the bulls.

 

[DuskKodesh]

It's PETA. Their bread and butter is doing some half-brained publicity stunt to make people talk, rack up donations, then never help any real animals and spend the take on the leadership and then the next publicity stunt. Rinse repeat.

They know exactly what they're doing and no one I know that actually supports animal rights will touch them with a ten foot pole. It's weaponized "charity" work.

 

[NeedMoreMickey]

Always put your golf bag in the same spot when setting up your golf shot so it won’t be distracting

 

[ronandannette]

Sadly, anything I could have learned from either of them would have been in the form of a cautionary tale. They were terrible parents and total non-entities as grandparents. My relationship (20'ish years before they passed away) was never anything more than cordial and completely superficial.

 

[lifesavacation]

MIL accepts everyone, and encourages everyone to be who they are.

 

[ronandannette]

Acceptance without question and support. From my FIL.

That must have been important for you, having lost your own Dad so early. My DH's relationship with my Dad was very healing for him and we're both so grateful for it.

 

[AuntieMe3]

Sadly, anything I could have learned from either of them would have been in the form of a cautionary tale. They were terrible parents and total non-entities as grandparents.

Same with my MIL, she is still alive but we have no relationship with her after many years of disgusting treatment of my poor DH. FIL wasn't bad but he passed not long after we married so I didn't really get to know him well.

 

[Dead2009]

They keep trying to get teams to get rid of animal mascots and it hasnt happened yet. MLB isnt going to change the name of a section of the park to appease these nerds.

 

[Colleen27]

PETA finds yet another way to make animal rights activists look frivolous and stupid. I swear, their little PR stunts do more harm than good because when sane people try to talk about issues of real animal abuse and mistreatment, their ridiculousness is the first thing that comes to the minds of skeptics.

 

[easyas123]

Sadly, anything I could have learned from either of them would have been in the form of a cautionary tale. They were terrible parents and total non-entities as grandparents. My relationship (20'ish years before they passed away) was never anything more than cordial and completely superficial.

Same with my MIL, she is still alive but we have no relationship with her after many years of disgusting treatment of my poor DH. FIL wasn't bad but he passed not long after we married so I didn't really get to know him well.

Regretfully it's much the same for us w/ my husbands family. My husband has made a 95% break from them, he has a phone conversation with them 2 or 3 times per year, but we don't see them. They were/are not very nice to him.

 

[C&Jx2]

My mother in law is one of my best friends so there are too many things to mention…

My father in law taught me to be “Big Cassie” . He taught me to be assertive and stick up for myself. He can be kind of a bully and one day I finally told him off. He started laughing hysterically and said, “There she is. I was wondering when she’d show up”.

 

[Forevermarypoppins]

I was blessed to have wonderful in-laws. Although Mil and FIL were divorced, they got along remarkedly well when together.
Lesson learned: it is possible to be civil, cordial and kind in the presence of one whom has hurt you.

** I admit, idk if I could in those circumstances

 

[NannyBeBe]

My MIL loved unconditionally and always put her family first. My FIL was a man of integrity and honesty. I learned from them how to have these qualities in my life.

 

[mamamary]

My FIL died when my dh was about 5 so never knew him but from what I hear he wasn’t the best person. He left mil with 7 children- two of which were disabled. That left my mil with not having the greatest life. That being said mil was not the grandmotherly type and that is the opposite of how I want to be when I eventually become one.

 

[momz]

I have learned the importance of being present in the lives of grandchildren. my in-laws were not. but now that my kids are older, they expect my kids to show up to "help" them with their remodeling projects. I tell my kids they can help if they want to, but they are not obligated. My kids have both gone through a period of desiring to have a relationship with them (my DS is in that stage currently). But DD gave it a try and realized that the grandparents are only "loving" when they want something from her.

 

[luvnwdwgal]

From my mother-in-law-How not to be a wicked witch to your whole family until your last breath, which at the age of 92, hasn’t happened yet.
My father-in-law was the nicest man ever.

 

[MIGrandma]

My Mom-in-law was amazing. She taught me so much, but mainly not to interfere with your adult children’s lives. Give your opinion only if asked. And, travel when you can and as often as you can. She missed out on so much as she passed away 20 years ago at age 62, from a long and courageous battle with ALS.