You sound like me! I've been going through this for the past couple of years. I never know when my "friend" will be visiting and I have mood swing that would scare the bravest of men!! LOL Hot flashes come and go but I've found I can live with them.
Dieting and losing weight has become more difficult but still do-able. I have been on Atkins since January and have lost 32.5 pounds. I find my moods are a problem from time to time because when I'm feeling all antsy I want to eat. I now keep Atkins chocolate bars in my cupboard for those times. I wouldn't suggest that you eat them all the time but they're a better choice than a large bag of M&M's!! LOL
Good Luck
Amelia