Memorial For Babies of Miscarriage

[TNKBELL]

In dealing with our recent miscarriage, I needed to have some way to say goodbye and deal with the grief that everyone does not understand. So I found a unique website that allows you to name your baby and post an online star as well as send a letter to Heaven... http://www.empty-cradles.com/

In my prayers I remember all Mothers who have lost children.

 

[disneyfreakk]

I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage *hugs*. This is a beautiful way to remember your child. Having lost Jordan Avery 7 years ago I understand what you are going through. The pain never really goes away, but it does get better. When I lost my mom ( 3 years ago on valantines day ) I couldnt help but think "she finally gets to meet her granddaughter." I somehow found comfort in this thought.

good luck to you in dealing with the loss of your .

 

[Our 2 Princesses]

I just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I lost a baby in October so I think I can understand the emotions you are dealing with.

 

[grlpwrd]

So sorry for your loss! I had a miscarriage in April 1997 and I understand what you are going thru.

Take care of yourself!

 

[Mom to Jordan]

So sorry for your lost. I lost "Amanda" 10 years ago and I posted on another thread that one way that we honor her is to choose a needy child at Christmas and buy for this child as we would our own. We choose a girl that is the age she would now be. We did that this year and while the shopping is a bitter sweet event, it truly does help. Prayers for the coming days.

Jordan's mom

 

[1sttimeWDW]

So sorry for your loss. We lost three sweet angels, Joshua, Emma and Will, to early m/c. The pain does ease over time & finding a way to remember /memorialize helps tremendously.

Here's another wonderful site for posting:

www.silentgrief.com

Blessings to you!

Galen

 

[AdventurerKat]

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage several years ago and alot of people don't understand the grief, especially a mother, feels. I am glad you found an outlet for yours.

 

[glass slipper girl]

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I've been there too, 6 times now actually (7 if you count that DS #2 started off as twins). Between infertility (tried for about 2 1/2 years for DS #1 and had all but one m/c in that time) and repeat miscarriages I thought it would never happen for us. It's definitely not something you get over, it's something you get through. I hope you are able to find your own way to honor your little angel.

 

[TNKBELL]

I guess it makes us realize how precious life truley is!! I also hug my blessings a little tighter than usual!! Thank you for all your support, I never thought I would be so profoundly affected by someone I never got the chance to meet! I agree that it something to get through...very true.

 

[kc10family]

I also had a mc about 6 yrs ago, He would have been my only boy. I have two DD's now 4 & 2 and yes it was a long road to get to them but I am so very happy to have them. I do believe that my son was not to be with me because someone else needed him more than I. (sounds strange I know) I believe we all choose our parents and our paths in life, so after the major grief past, I understood that someone else was in greater need of what he had to offer than I was. I know that everyday with my two DD's I teach them and they teach me about love and life. So I guess what I am trying to say is, that even though I still cry (as I am now) when I speak of him, I take comfort nowing he is with someone who loves him so very much and they are teaching each other so many wonderful things.

Hugs of understanding for all who mave mc'd.

 

[cinjam]

I am so sorry for your loss. I also had a M/C, in April of 2003. As another poster said, it's not something you get over, it's something you get through.

 

[travellady]

I was starting to fall asleep and my thoughts went to our daughter Katy Lyn, who was 3 months old when she died almost 13 years ago. I was then wide awake, so I decided to check out the boards to get my mind away from that thought and stumbled across this thread.

My heart feels for all of you who have lost a child either before birth, or shortly after. Few understand the pain of losing somebody so real, and future dreams crushed before they hardly begin.

 

[lntsmom]

Miscarriage: A Shattered Dream. My RE gave it to me when I m/c my second pregnancy. The book gives invaluable insight...about how others may perceive and react to the situation, ways to deal with your loss. I was depressed for 6 months following my loss...and was so distraught I didn't realize it until the fog started to lift!

I found this was much like having a traumatic c-section...the only people who will understand are other women who have been through this themselves.

Hugs to you...be kind to yourself! Wishing you healing, both physical and emotional!

 

[OceanAnnie]

I'm sorry.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Awww tnkbell

So sorry about your loss.

My friend has 5 children and miscarried over the summer. (She is now blessed with baby #7 and safely in her 2nd trimester)

I cannot comprehend the loss myself and it is one of my fears in expanding our family.

HUGS to you and your family!!!

 

[mel]

I am sorry for your loss and you are right it is something you do not understand until you go through it. I had two miscarriages, and understand your pain. May God bless you and may his Grace see you through this sad time.

 

[mommapoppins]

I am praying for you. I had a miscarriage in February of 2004 and it is really hard sometimes. My experience is that noone really acknowledges that there has been a loss because it hasn't really affected them. If it had been a baby who had died, there would have been a funeral, and people would know that there was a death. (Not that I would EVER want to lose a baby in that way either!) But with MC, some people didn't even know I was pregnant, so of course they didn't express sorrow for the loss.

I think the hardest thing for me now is when people ask "do you just have these two?" or "how many kids do you have?" I hate explaining the loss, but I also hate ignoring the fact that we do have another baby that we've never met.

But, it does get easier. So let yourself cry, and know that the sun will come back up soon!

God bless you!