I haven't posted much here, but I love reading all your planning journals (I actually did try to start my own, but wasn't much good at it)! I am getting married at home in NJ but honeymooning at Disney.
Well I just needed to vent and I know that you guys would understand. For the last few weeks I have been trying to get in touch with my matron of honor with no luck. I have known her for more than 9 years and she was the first friend I made when I moved to NJ. We worked together at the same company for all of these nine years but a year ago I transferred to her department and she became my manager. We thought we could seperate the work relationship from our friendship and we did ok for awhile until I quit.
She just had a baby at the beginning of July. I received an e mail today, about 6 weeks before the wedding to tell me because she is breastfeeding the baby she can't come to the wedding and therefore can't me my matron of honor. She said she has tried to pump and give the baby a bottle but she won't take it. I know she is supposed to go back to work at the beginning of September so I have a feeling that she is using the baby as an excuse is actually mad at me because of work.
I quit my job because it was really stressful and they were demanding things that weren't even legal. When I applied for unemployment I had to explain why I quit my job and I am afraid she might have gotten in trouble for telling the truth.
I am really hurt and not sure what to do. I have a feeling our friendship is over. I can't believe she didn't even call me to tell me. She said she was telling me now to give me time to find a replacement instead of waiting until September like she was doing me some kind of favor. Unfortunately it took 3 months for the bridesmaid dresses to come in. I called Macy's Bridal today and they said they can't even give me her dress unless she signs a form releasing it. I tried to call her to tell her this but of course she doesn't answer her phone and she doesn't return my calls. I also e mailed but haven't heard back. So now I might not even have the dress! My financee's sister is willing to fill in and is going to try to find the same dress in Florida where she lives but I am not sure if that will even be possible. Even if we do get the dress we already ordered, it is a size 16 and she is a size 6. Macy's said with a good steamstress that knows bridal we should still be able to take it in but it might cost more than the dress cost itself.
I am so mad....besides the dress, I have her dyed shoes here (too big for my future sis in law) and I already purchases the personalized bridal gifts. But more than anything I am just really hurt.
Thanks for letting me vent...and sorry so long. I just really needed to get that all out.
Jes
Well I just needed to vent and I know that you guys would understand. For the last few weeks I have been trying to get in touch with my matron of honor with no luck. I have known her for more than 9 years and she was the first friend I made when I moved to NJ. We worked together at the same company for all of these nine years but a year ago I transferred to her department and she became my manager. We thought we could seperate the work relationship from our friendship and we did ok for awhile until I quit.
She just had a baby at the beginning of July. I received an e mail today, about 6 weeks before the wedding to tell me because she is breastfeeding the baby she can't come to the wedding and therefore can't me my matron of honor. She said she has tried to pump and give the baby a bottle but she won't take it. I know she is supposed to go back to work at the beginning of September so I have a feeling that she is using the baby as an excuse is actually mad at me because of work.
I quit my job because it was really stressful and they were demanding things that weren't even legal. When I applied for unemployment I had to explain why I quit my job and I am afraid she might have gotten in trouble for telling the truth.
I am really hurt and not sure what to do. I have a feeling our friendship is over. I can't believe she didn't even call me to tell me. She said she was telling me now to give me time to find a replacement instead of waiting until September like she was doing me some kind of favor. Unfortunately it took 3 months for the bridesmaid dresses to come in. I called Macy's Bridal today and they said they can't even give me her dress unless she signs a form releasing it. I tried to call her to tell her this but of course she doesn't answer her phone and she doesn't return my calls. I also e mailed but haven't heard back. So now I might not even have the dress! My financee's sister is willing to fill in and is going to try to find the same dress in Florida where she lives but I am not sure if that will even be possible. Even if we do get the dress we already ordered, it is a size 16 and she is a size 6. Macy's said with a good steamstress that knows bridal we should still be able to take it in but it might cost more than the dress cost itself.
I am so mad....besides the dress, I have her dyed shoes here (too big for my future sis in law) and I already purchases the personalized bridal gifts. But more than anything I am just really hurt.
Thanks for letting me vent...and sorry so long. I just really needed to get that all out.
Jes