Married DISers: Do you think divorce could ever be a possibility

[AntePrincess]

I admit it, I voted absolutely not. Not for particularly sentimental reasons, but for the whole host of practical, religious, business, and familial reasons. I could sooner see us sleeping in separate bedrooms then I could see us properly divorced. (Or maybe that old Winston Churchill chestnut about poisoning your husband comes to mind.) Our relationship is good, we're happy, but mostly we have our noses to the grindstone, leaving us precious little time to dwell on discontentments, members of the opposite sex, and other trouble. Trouble could always sneak up on us, of course. If something happened and we split up, I'd be shocked, but I'd get on with life. What else is there to do?

 

[MIGrandma]

DH and I just celebrated our 34th anniversary this past Sunday.

No, I don't think a divorce would ever be possible.

We're pretty much stuck with each other.

 

[Angelhalo]

DH and I just celebrated our 34th anniversary this past Sunday.

No, I don't think a divorce would ever be possible.

We're pretty much stuck with each other.

Ditto except for the 34 year part. Our faith is everything to us and we both made our vows not just to each other but also to God. I don't take that lightly and neither does my husband. I'm not naive, I know that ANYTHING can happen in a marriage but I believe that with God's help and the church's help, we could fix anything in order to keep our vows intact even if it meant parting ways temporarily, counseling, or any other method needed for mending. I know some may not understand that or think that it is foolish but, it is how I feel and won't be led into believing that divorce is an option just because others in the world do. I don't want to argue about it, and won't try to defend my feelings to anyone who disagrees. Just wanted to share my view on why I voted the way I did.

 

[sunlver]

I am a realist, and think anything is possible. I understand for religious beliefs some people would just never divorce no matter how miserable they are
I have been married 16 years, and my marriage is so-so..I know marriage takes work, and my problem is that I am very selfish..but never selfish when it comes to the kids though..

I have known many marriages who I thought were "perfect" end up in divorce for one reason or another. Then, I have known other marriages to be so dysfunctional, and they stay together forever I dont think always think marriage is "forever" or what you see in fairytales.

 

[Ellie Mae]

Yes, it's only a matter of time.

 

[Becky2005]

I voted #2 - uncomfortably. I'd say absolutely, but I'm firmly in the "never say never" camp. Like another poster, I don't deal in absolutes. Reality gets in the way of absolutes sometimes.

That's my thinking exactly. In my thinking...it's more of a "I highly doubt it", we have been married 18 years so far and here's the well...anything is possible! *As far as I know* things are good. I have no reason to believe otherwise but you always read about those with one spouse being the last to know there was any problem whatsoever.

I guess I think absolutely not but know I have no crystal ball to see what the future holds, so there is that .0000000000000000001% chance that it could happen.

 

[Frye7127]

I voted absolutely not, but the reason being is that I am married to someone who had been married before and obviously divorced. we have been through some tough times, but the last two years have been a doozy. If we can make it through those, we can make it through anything. To be honest, until the last year, i have felt he had one foot out the door and i was just waiting for it to happen. We may argue, but we do get things out on the table with this being one of them and it took me a long time to tell him that I felt this way. I needed to know that he was completely and 100% dedicated to making our marriage work and divorce was not something to be casual about, like an option. We both know that it is, but I finally feel like he knows that this is death do us part, good or bad. Of course, there is always the possibility...nothing in life is certain, except of course, death and taxes. But, we both know that our marriage is definitely something special and worth working on and fighting for.

 

[DenMig]

If you asked me this a year ago, I would have said no.

Now, yes. It's a very real possibility.

People change and it's not always for the better.

Wow, parallel universe here, only change mine from 1 year to 6 months.