allisonswonderland said:
Thanks- I guess there are other menus, I will talk to my em....so you really think it is worth it for the tea party....I always kind of wanted one and then I started asking questions about it, but I just don't want to blow it all because we have a home reception to still pay for.
I don't really think that's a question I can answer. I truly and honestly don't know what the pricetag on the event was. This was a gift to me from my MIL. She didn't want us getting married without all the trimmings. She considered the bridal shower part of those trimmings.
I don't think anyone can determine if something is "worth it" unless they are answering the question for themselves. For example, I would love a huge leather Coach purse. But not for $300+. There are plenty of people that I see with the exact one I would like. For them, obviously, the purse was "worth it." For me, not so much.
I think this event is something that you, your DFi, and any other parties involved with paying for the wedding, need to sit down and talk about. Although it may be something you would love to have, it may be an impractical place to put money for the rest of the people involved.
What type of "event" are you planning on using the tea party for? Can't very well throw yourself a bridal shower. A brunch?
allisonswonderland said:
So how many did you have?
Number of guests, right? We were right about the 25-30 mark, I think. It was 3 tables of between 6-8.
Edit: I was just kind of thinking about this... Had we been left to our own devices, then no, we would have not had a Mad Hatter's Tea. The prospect of owning a home is far more important to us. We would have put that money into a down payment. Of course, we live in one of the most expensive areas in the country. Our first home is likely to be a half million dollar townhome. Not becuase that's what we want, but because that is what is available. The new construction signs for single family homes read, "From the low 1 million!" around here. It's sick.
Additionally, we were legally wed in August 2004 in a quick courthouse ceremony. It was a decision we made and executed in about two weeks. With him in the military, everything was too uncertain to not have the legal documents we needed. In the military, if you're not married, you're nothing.
But, with that came a really tough dilemma when it came to the Disney wedding. We really wanted to take the money, pay off our debt, and purchase a home. It was MIL that stuck to her guns. She reminded us that when we called and spoke with her about the courthouse wedding, that we had promised not to abandon the Disney wedding... the wedding we had all been planning for nearly three years.
I think the bridal shower was so incredibly important to her becuase of everything that we had been through and the "Should we? Shouldn't we?" back and forth fights (and I mean
fights) we had. I think our situation lends itself to the explanation as to why we had the type of event we did and the costs associated with it.
