Lymphoma

[music54]

my ex-husband whom i am still very close friends with came to my house last night and told me he is sick. he had been feeling very tired and crappy. then he felt a lump on his upper chest. the doctors say it is lymphoma and that he also has a mass on his intestines and chest. the doctor said he will deal with the other masses after dealing with the lymph node. they are doing a biopsy of it thursday and will remove it at that time-which i think means it is bad because i thought they do a biopsy and then wait for the results before deciding to remove it. i can see it swollen just from looking at his neck. ok - now trying to type while crying.....
my son and him are very close-best friends
i have read about some very good books for kids about dealing with cancer and god forbid the death of a parent but i forget the names
can anyone recommend
also any links to lymphoma web sites...other than the easy ones to find
you know-like the disboard was a great find
well he may move in here with me so i can take care of him through chemo
not sure though everything is so new
this is all happening just now
now if things are real bad after all the tests then we will move him in here so he can be close to my son
oh this is terrible
thanks for ANY advice

tobey

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey

 

[Pete's Mom]

No advice, but just wanted to say how sorry I am for you. I lost my father over 7 years ago to Lymphoma. Prayers said for you and yours.

 

[tevagirl]

 

[CherCrazy]

So sad to hear your news. Best wishes for you and your family.


I go to WebMd.com a lot for information. I have it marked as a favorite.
My DS just had an allergic reaction to a bee sting yesterday, landed in the hospital. I found info on WebMD about ways to reduce his reaction the next time...things they didn't tell me about in the hospital, so I am very grateful to this web site and the information they post.

Again best wishes and great strength to you.

 

[music54]

wow thanks for the fast good wishings
im sitting here not sure what to do

 

[Rozzie]

so sorry you are going through this. I also agree with webmd.com, I am a nurse and always going on there looking for things.

Can't imagine how hard this must be. Keep us posted. good luck to you and your family.

 

[SeeDisney]

Have him look into the possibility of him having celiac disease -- an allergy to wheat. I read somewhere that an undiagnosised allergy to wheat for years can lead up to the cancer of lymphona.

Best of luck to you!

 

[Jasminesmommy]

I am so sorry. I know how you feel. We found out a month ago my mom has Cancer. Her chances are gone though. I will pray for getting well.If you need to talk feel free to PM me.

 

[music54]

thanks for the info-my girlfiend has that celiac i always wondered about it
i was wondering if anyone had a support group web site
now im saying all of this even before we have any diagnosis
but just cant sleep-usually cant anyway being i work nights
i am really in shock-he is 39

 

[Dan Murphy]

Good wishes and prayers, Tobey, do hope he does well. You sound like a VERY caring, good person.

Just a few sites that are on top of a google search........

http://www.lymphoma.org/

http://www.lymphomainfo.net/

http://www.leukemia-lymphoma.org/

http://www.lymphoma.com/


And for your mom too, Gina.

 

[music54]

thanks again - i will try and bump this up in the morning
i know someone has info on a book for my son

 

[Poohnatic]

I think Maria Shriver has a book about death for children.

My heart goes out to you. We lost my SIL a week ago to cancer.

Suzanne

 

[music54]

thank you i knew there were some out there

 

[music54]

anyone ?

 

[Mamu]

I know the feeling you are feeling right now, been there. My thoughts are with you all right now.

I'm sure you've done lots of reading and know there are different kinds of lymphoma's. Some are 99% curable. Twenty years ago my 19 year old daughter was diagnosed with a lymphoma, multiple tumors on her lymph notes. Yes they removed one of the tumors to do a biopsy. Her's ended up being hodgkins, and she went on a treatment called MOPE. Eight months of chemo worked for her. She will be celebrating her 39 birthday this December, cancer free. She has two children a boy 15, a girl 11.

There is lots of hope, you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. If you need to talk just pm me.

Check with the doctor I'm sure he can recommond a good book to read. Also check with Cancer Centers of America.

 

[EdiePA]

My EX was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkins lymphoma shortly after he left us, three years ago. It's so hard to deal with all of the after-divorce feelings and to offer support to someone.

My suggestion would be that he look into treatment at a larger medical facility, small-town hospitals just aren't on the 'cutting edge' and lymphoma is one of those cancers where treatments are changing nearly day-to-day.

You need to find out what type of lymphoma he has and then do your research. Many are slow-growing and very treatable. My ex has undergone three types of chemo/monoclonal antibody therapies and is facing a fourth. Plus, he has had a stem cell harvest in case they feel that that is the route to take.

Hugs and prayers are with you -- it's not an easy road to take.

Edie

 

[Dan Murphy]

Just good wishes again.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Oh my gosh! I thought that I had this awhile back! They thought that they saw a mass on my chest x-ray, but it turned out to be nothing!

Hugs to you and your family!!!

 

[music54]

thanks everybody
i havent done any reading yet-just found out about this last night
will be researching tonight
im just not sure how to tell my son