I've done low carb, low fat, low cal, and I really have to agree that what works for me best is balanced eating.
Atkins was right- some carbs are very bad for you, but other medical wisdom was right, too- some fats are also very bad for you, and you still need to watch portions if you're going to lose weight.
I have been most successful with the Curves diet- it is very similar to South Beach- in that it concentrates on lean protein (steak, fish, shellfish, turkey, chicken, pork, cheese, etc.) and whole grain carbs (whole wheat breads, oatmeal, brown rice, whole grain or spelt pastas, etc. ) with tons and tons of fresh veggies and some fresh fruits and skim milk. You can also have occasional treats- a square of dark chocolate, a sugar free popsicle, etc. You cook with olive oil. I also use other healthy oils like walnut, sesame, coconut, macadamia on occasion. I also use 1/2 T light butter on my whole grain English muffin.
The differences are that basically South Beach allows certain foods, but unlimited amounts. Curves allows *all* foods, but clearly emphasizes the good ones much more and also requires that you count your calories and carbs (and protein, fiber, and fat, if you wish)
I find that *unlimited* anything isn't good for me because I am a marathon eater- I could eat ten mangoes or a pound of grilled chicken. I need to teach myself portion control.
I also find it more psychologically satisfying to tell myself I can have whatever I want as long as I stay within my limits. For example, I had 3 oz. grilled steak with mushrooms, onions and asparagus and a nice green salad. I measured out 1/8 cup of rice a roni, which really appealed to me and included it on my plate. I ate it over several bites, which I savored, and the overall impact was not bad since the portion was so small. For the same amount of cals and carbs, I could have had more let's say, brown rice, but it was more satisfying to me to have a couple bites of "the real thing".
However, I bring up these two diets as a way of showing you what I really believe and what I have come to include as a part of my life- you cannot succeed on a diet that you cannot live with . You have to find a diet that incorporates lifestyle changes that you can maintain, that you can live with for the rest of your life. It seems to me that you can't really live with this low carb plan and should switch to a moderate carb plan like Curves or South Beach. I, for example, eat 90-120 carbs a day right now- much more than a low carb diet, but also much less than the typical American diet, where one bowlful (2 servings) of breakfast cereal with 2 % milk can actually contain more than 100 carbs! It's old news, but moderation really is key.
Good luck!