Lost Best Friend!

[AnitaCB]

God I had a bad day yesterday. I've never posted a message like this before but I feel quite down today.

My youngest DD has been 'best friends' with a girl since they were 2. They went to playgroup together and have been close friends since then. They are both nearly 8 now. The girls' mum and I are (so I thought) good friends too.

Anyway Em came out of school yesterday and said she's not being invited to this girls birthday tea because she's been told they don't play together enough anymore. She was really quiet and looked so sad I wanted to cry. This girl is quiet like Em but has made another friend who is very loud and outgoing and Em just doesn't stand a chance. She misses her best pal and I don't know what to say to make it better. My so called friend has got very friendly with the other girls' mum and I think they must spend alot of time together (like we used to).

I get so upset when my DDs have their feelings hurt. They are both very loyal to their friends so I suppose they are wide open to getting hurt or dropped in favour of others. Why is it that kids can be so horrible sometimes? Well we're going for a family day out tomorrow to cheer her up so hopefully she'll soon feel better and forget about the party and make lots of other friends.

 

[carolfoy]

Aw! Bless her and you, its so horrible when your child gets upset, particularly if theres nothing you can do about it, I hope she finds a new special friend soon, I'm sure she will. Please don't get too upset about it.

 

[wils]

Oh how sad. Kids can be thoughtless sometimes. Hope your day out cheers you both up

 

[Ware Bears]

for you and your DD.

If it is any consolation, I have been through this sort of thing with all 3 of my DDs and their friends and they are often best friends again before you know it. Doesn't make it any easier though, I know.

Hope you have a great day out.

 

[Madjock]

for you DD and you from me too.

 

[Deedee]

I know it is very difficult for you but try and remain on friendly terms with this other girls mother, because in my experience children forgive and forget much quicker than adults. This time next week they will probably be best friends again and if you fall out with the other mom it could make the situation a whole lot worse. Good luck

 

[vicky1bfc]

It must be hard for you at the moment but kid's are kid's and in my experiance from my 7 year old dd's they will be best of friends again in no time.I have lost count the amount of times they fall out and make friends again.

I would still be friends with this other mum if i was you as you don't want any hard feelings for when the girls do become friends again.

 

[carolfoy]

I know it is very difficult for you but try and remain on friendly terms with this other girls mother, because in my experience children forgive and forget much quicker than adults. This time next week they will probably be best friends again and if you fall out with the other mom it could make the situation a whole lot worse. Good luck

oh yes, totally agree, In Callums class theres this kid called Ben who has a new best friend every week, and subsequently falls out with the last best friend, his mum Sarah gets so shirty with all the other parents cos Bens not frineds with their kid this week. Needless to say Sarahs not top of anyones list for social gatherings.

 

[Cyrano]

Hope it all works out. As others have said kids are much quicker at moving on and coming back than adults

 

[mandymouse]

Aw a big hug to you and your daughter. I have been through this with one of my daughters, and the only thing I would like to say is still invite this girl over and try to keep them friends (even if it's only out of school). It'll be really hard for you, but just keep that smile going for your daughters sake and give them a couple of weeks/months and everything will be back to normal

Good luck

 

[KayleeUK]

for you both...

 

[florida sun]

For the 2 of you

 

[Minniespal]

for you both

 

[alisonbestford]

Oh dear, we were 'there' only the other week with Eve but, thankfully it was resolved within a day or two
Hope Em is feeling happier soon

 

[Spook]

I sometimes think that as parents we feel worse than the children. Everyone has given you good advice. Hope your DD has had a better day today and have a fab day tomorrow

Jan

 

[natalielongstaff]

aah this is a very tricky situation, i hope you have a lovely day out tho and that em soon forgets the party !

 

[Merylj]

Ooh that happened with my DD when she was little, not invited to the party and she was upset - the worst was the party was in a garden 2 doors away and she could hear the party in full swing - how mean was that!
for you and DD, I think we feel the pain and more for them.

 

[Englands Disney Gang]

I only had this problem a few weeks ago...Sam fell out with a friend but his mum takes Sam every day to go school for me as she lives near school and I drop him off 10 mins before the bell goes!!. It got to the stage where I was looking for morning childcare knowing I could not really afford it!!
Thankfully I knew I had to speak to the mum...and thats the best advice I can give just say 'would your daughter like to come for tea??'..It will get you and your DD back on track!!

 

[Frances999]

I sometimes think that as parents we feel worse than the children.

I totally agree.

DS fell out with one of his friends at school earlier this week. He was in tears all evening over it. He didn't even know what they had fallen out about! Needless to say the next day they were back to normal.

Have a great day out and try to look to the future. I'm sure your DD will move on really quickly if it isn't sorted within the next few days.

 

[Netty]

we have been through this same thing when our dds were younger so i know how you feel. sending you both