Looking For Control Freaks & Worry Warts too (Part 2)

[soontobewed07]

Hope everyone had a great holiday weekend. I am so excited Fall is almost here it is the reason I still live in New England. I love the cool crisp air apple picking hayrides pumpkins and sweatshirts and jean.

Debbie- Sorry your DH is being a what did Cammie call it a "Poo Poo Head" Also I think that dress is beautiful good luck tomorrow and we are here if you need us.

Kara- LOVE LOVE LOVE the kitchen patio so nice and I like the well stocked fridge. Mike and I will be driving up that way on one of our house hunting excursions. We haven't picked the day yet.

We had a simple day out to an early dinner hanging out with my mom and that's about it. This week Mike only has one day off and I am sure he will be spending it sleeping the poor thing I really need to find a job soon. Well talk to you all in the Am.

 

[tttessa]

Debbie,

thoughts are with you - I felt an ache just putting the kids back to school for their first day back today. Love the dress!!

We don't have a choice - our kids have to wear uniform - skirt/dress/pinafore/trousers with a white polo and a school sweatshirt (jade green - yeuuuuk!!). Black shoes (no ballet pump or trainer style), grey or white socks or grey tights - it is really strict too - you will get a phone call if not correctly dressed - but then again, it stops competitive parenting in the dress "code".

Still - this is the first day of the rest of her life, your baby is growing up and I'm sure you will be proud as anything when she walks in the door - remember to wear dark sunshades!!!!!! - she will make friends that YOU DON'T KNOW - I remember how shocked I was!!! Also, remember to be prepared for the grumpy tiredness after too! You haven't seen them all day and they get grumpy and cry at you when they do!!!!!! Cookies/milk and a dvd do it for ours after school the first week back!

Have a great day!

Tessa

 

[karajeboo]

Kara - WOW! love the kitchen. Love the idea of outdoor living too, not possible over here of course.....

Tessa

I think we'll use this the most in the fall and spring. Summer is just too dang hot!!! And the ceiling fan couldn't be wired over the kitchen, since it's out under the screen. But we are loving it already! I sat at the bar yesterday morning and played on my laptop!

Kara, BTW - congrats to the Buckeyes, and the Ducks won 44-10

I know! I saw that and made mention to Jeff - he's like "Tammie? Is this another one of your internet buddies?"

Tessa - great advice to Debbie on the first day of school. It is so emotional, but I was so proud of Ally! She just marched right in like she owned the place and that was that! Her first two years, I tried to pickout a first day outfit that I could also use for school pictures. But in SC, school pics weren't until late October, so the season had changed. Not sure when they do it down here.... The first couple of weeks I always pick out her clothes, hair accessories, etc, and she looks so cute. After that, Ally ends up picking her clothes and they're lucky to match!!! But she goes from cute outfits to mix n match shorts and t-shirts. So far, she's still letting me pick out the cute clothes for now....

I wish we had uniforms. I hate the battles here, and even at 7, Ally is feeling some pressure from other kids about her clothes. They just opened a new Justice (same as Limited Too but not in malls) nearby and I'm sorry, but there is no way that some of these outfits and shoes should be in sizes to fit Ally and her friends. Way to grown up, and even a little sleazy for little girls!!!! But Ally's friends shop there and she thinks she should, too.... So we went up and got t-shirts and leggings. So everyone was happy. But how sad is it that I felt the need to even do that? I guess because I remember the whole peer pressure thing. I just didn't realize it started so young....

Debbie - let us know how today goes! I'm so excited for Elizabeth, but you know you have my sympathy, too! It's tough....

Jillian - if you are anywhere near Jacksonville, you had better plan on coming to see me!!!! And if you're driving to Orlando, then you'll come right through here! Another DISmeet!!! Wait, we're meeting in November, too, right?

Debbie, I do not want to add more stress, but I am really nervous about Ike and the new TD #10 in the Atlantic! What is up with this?????

Cammie, I can't belive Lauren started school on 9/11!!!! How awful! And what's really weird is that I think of her as so much older than Ally, yet 9/11 seems like just yesterday..... Wow! What was it you were saying about time flying???

 

[Camster0307]

Good luck today Debbie! Check in with us to let us know how you're doing!

Kara - Yes, Lauren's first official day was 9/11 - seven years ago! I can't believe she only has two more years until high school! (UGH - shoot me now!) And, btw, I'm booking my tix to come down to your "Breaking in the new kitchen" party!

Jillian - I agree. Fall is about the only reason I enjoy living in New England. We already have leaves falling from the trees around me. I love those sweater days!

Tessa - I wish we had uniforms around here too. Would eliminate so much stress for all involved!

Renee - Any news from the doctor yet?

So I had a scary incident before bed last night. The nurse came in to help with Amanda before bed last night. She comes to get me to tell me that Amanda's face is really red and blotchy. I go in to take a look and it's not just her face, but her WHOLE BODY! And her face was swollen. She didn't seem bothered by it and all and her breathing was very stable but still - it was freaking me out! She obviously had an allergic reaction to something but I was stumped as to what. I didn't have Benadryl, but I gave her some Zyrtec instead and it did the trick. Within 2 hours, her face and skin were fine. I'm racking my brain as to what could have caused this - I have used no new lotions, soaps, or detergents. The only thing I'm thinking is that Amanda used erythromicin pads for acne on her face; two times a day. She's had some more breakouts on her chin, so I applied it again after lunch. I'm wondering if doing it 3xs in one day was too much for her and caused her to have that kind of reaction? It's the only thing I can think of that I did differently yesterday. Like I said, thankfully she didn't seem bothered at all!

Hi Tammie, Laura, Tina, Erin and Pam (where did u disappear too?)!

 

[CRdisMom]

Thank GOD for uniforms!! We would have WWIII everyday with out them. There is still some debate from the office what is "in"uniform. They can have a white or red polo and blue pants, or the jumper with a white shirt or a white shirt and blue skirt with sweater. Its tough keeping it straight. Getting on the bus was no big deal today. I didn't even get upset. Yeah!! Although last night was a bit tough. Something about 1st grade seems much more real. I know she will grow up but I'm not ready.

The weekend was good. Kind of tough with us all at the lake. 11 people is too much in one house. We all went on the boat. We have a 28 foot pontoon. yes it is 28 feet long. We have had a kiddy blow up pool on there. It is huge--that's one the boys found for a great deal. We call is SS Size Matters. We did get out fishing and tubing for a bit. The girls were happy to be home.

Glad to see that Hannah is moving south Kara. I'm still praying that Gustav doesn't drop too much rain on NO becuase they don't need that. I just hope people don't see this as the officals crying wolf and not get out next time.

Renee- keeping you in my thoughts for the CT. I'm sure the doc wouldn't have said 92% clear if he wasn't optimistic. MSRA in you mouth sounds horrible. That is one of my worst fears.

Debbie--Good luck with school today. Tessa was right. Snack and a show after school is the best thing for them. I forgot is she all day-everyday K?

 

[karajeboo]

Good luck today Debbie! Check in with us to let us know how you're doing!

Kara - Yes, Lauren's first official day was 9/11 - seven years ago! I can't believe she only has two more years until high school! (UGH - shoot me now!) And, btw, I'm booking my tix to come down to your "Breaking in the new kitchen" party!

Jillian - I agree. Fall is about the only reason I enjoy living in New England. We already have leaves falling from the trees around me. I love those sweater days!

Tessa - I wish we had uniforms around here too. Would eliminate so much stress for all involved!

Renee - Any news from the doctor yet?

So I had a scary incident before bed last night. The nurse came in to help with Amanda before bed last night. She comes to get me to tell me that Amanda's face is really red and blotchy. I go in to take a look and it's not just her face, but her WHOLE BODY! And her face was swollen. She didn't seem bothered by it and all and her breathing was very stable but still - it was freaking me out! She obviously had an allergic reaction to something but I was stumped as to what. I didn't have Benadryl, but I gave her some Zyrtec instead and it did the trick. Within 2 hours, her face and skin were fine. I'm racking my brain as to what could have caused this - I have used no new lotions, soaps, or detergents. The only thing I'm thinking is that Amanda used erythromicin pads for acne on her face; two times a day. She's had some more breakouts on her chin, so I applied it again after lunch. I'm wondering if doing it 3xs in one day was too much for her and caused her to have that kind of reaction? It's the only thing I can think of that I did differently yesterday. Like I said, thankfully she didn't seem bothered at all!

Hi Tammie, Laura, Tina, Erin and Pam (where did u disappear too?)!

Cammie - how scary about Amanda!!!! Glad you and her nurse were on top of it and all turned out okay. I can't even imagine some of the scares you must go through!

Thank GOD for uniforms!! We would have WWIII everyday with out them. There is still some debate from the office what is "in"uniform. They can have a white or red polo and blue pants, or the jumper with a white shirt or a white shirt and blue skirt with sweater. Its tough keeping it straight. Getting on the bus was no big deal today. I didn't even get upset. Yeah!! Although last night was a bit tough. Something about 1st grade seems much more real. I know she will grow up but I'm not ready.

The weekend was good. Kind of tough with us all at the lake. 11 people is too much in one house. We all went on the boat. We have a 28 foot pontoon. yes it is 28 feet long. We have had a kiddy blow up pool on there. It is huge--that's one the boys found for a great deal. We call is SS Size Matters. We did get out fishing and tubing for a bit. The girls were happy to be home.

Glad to see that Hannah is moving south Kara. I'm still praying that Gustav doesn't drop too much rain on NO becuase they don't need that. I just hope people don't see this as the officals crying wolf and not get out next time.

Renee- keeping you in my thoughts for the CT. I'm sure the doc wouldn't have said 92% clear if he wasn't optimistic. MSRA in you mouth sounds horrible. That is one of my worst fears.

Debbie--Good luck with school today. Tessa was right. Snack and a show after school is the best thing for them. I forgot is she all day-everyday K?

OK, tell me that the uniform jumpers are not just the cutest on little girls!!! Love it! And also love the no hassle part of it!

And I totally agree with you Laura on the crying wolf thing. I think that's what happened with Katrina - people were so laid back about storms because they'd always come out okay. But I think Katrina really woke them up and hopefully (and I know this sounds bad but hopefully it makes sense) there will be "just enough" damage when everyone comes home, that they'll be glad they evacuated. KWIM? Even though I don't want anyone to suffer!

 

[Debbie6221]

Hi Girls,
Well this morning was tough! Elizabeth changed into a different person when it was time to go in and she started to cry. They didn't let the Mom's walk in and it was VERY disappointing how it all played out. I thought all the parents were going to go into the class to start the day. Right now I am a tad disappointed so we will see how the week plays out and what Elizabeth has to say when she gets home. I did end up just following her right in anyway because she was crying but I didn't stay. I cried so bad last night and just laid in bed with her while she was sleeping thinking about bringing her home from the hospital. Today I just cried a little. Well, now I am crying again while I am telling you about it. Her classes size i huge. Chicago CPS is getting so good that everyone is sending the kids there again so the school is just growing and bursting now. That's a whole other issue for me to deal with....

Mark is home because he got put on an evening shift for the next couple weeks. Good and bad since I am not happy with him right now. Good for Elizabeth though to have him there too this morning.

Here's the thing. He is still acting mad at me. I just can't stand being the bad guy with everything. Too make a long story short...He is mad at me because I am mad at him that he bought a snow mobile. He says I OK'd the deal and I feel like I told him all the reasons I didn't want him to buy it. Then I told him my Mom went ballistic when she found out and now he's mad at her too I think. Well, I couldn't keep that fact a secret. My Mom thinks they are severely dangerous.
Mark just looks at it like I am always the bad guy knocking down everything he wants to do or buy and I feel like I am the rational one who is just reasonable and grown up about stuff. I am sure he feels like he lets me have my WDW addiction and do whatever I want so I should lay off but I just think he makes dumb choices. So he's giving me the silent treatment. I am so mad! Plus, I have to worry about how he is going to act towards her when they are together today. My favorite place to be...right in the middle(sarcasm).
They are the only times that make it hard for me to all live together and be so close. I guess everything can't be perfect!

 

[Debbie6221]

Thanks to all of you for your sweet words and advice!

Cammie...I am glad Amanda is OK. That is so weird!
Laura.... DD looks ADORABLE! So cute. I already miss our Wisconsin days.
Kara...Don't get me stressing anymore than I am. I am ready to explode already! The WDW is my salvation.
Jillian...I love stuff about fall as well but just hate for summer to end.
Tessa....how long have your kids been in school this year? You have a big fall break, right?

Have a great day everyone!!!!!

 

[Debbie6221]

BTW he is being a poo poo head!
I swear I either love that guy TO DEATH and can't believe I found the perfect husband for me or I am ready to strangle him and do it all on my own!

 

[karajeboo]

Oh, Debbie, I'm sitting here tearing up as I read about Elizabeth's first day. I'm sure she'll be great! Just make sure she doesn't see you upset and really play up the fact that she's a big girl, how exciting school is, etc. She'll do fine!

When Ally started, they did a whole week of only 4 kids per day, to kind of get to know the teacher, etc. But when we took her the first day, her teacher said hello to us and that was it, she completely ignored us and focused 100% on the kids. I ended up loving her and I understand why she did it, but at first it really upset me.

As for your husband, I'd be mad, too. Didn't he just get a new truck? Jeff knows that if it's an expensive "toy" that we both need to agree to it. And the reason he's not speaking to you is probably a bit of guilt. If he can try to turn the tables and be mad at YOU, it will justify it in his mind......

Men have such small minds anyway.....

 

[Debbie6221]

As for your husband, I'd be mad, too. Didn't he just get a new truck? Jeff knows that if it's an expensive "toy" that we both need to agree to it. And the reason he's not speaking to you is probably a bit of guilt. If he can try to turn the tables and be mad at YOU, it will justify it in his mind......
Men have such small minds anyway.....

Exactly...he says I said yes so he thinks we did discuss it. He got a steal on it from a guy he knows who bought a new one. Whatever..that's not the point and now it's too late because he paid the guy for it.
The bad thing is I think he is really mad at me for whatever reason is going through his head. I am sure he thinks with ALL I spend money on why would I care that he wanted this and I am sure even though he won't admit it, he thought we were all going to be happy and excited and instead we are all mad so now he thinks we are all jerks!

You have to know my husband...he is VERY mellow, very quite, we don't argue, he just lets things roll but he has this secret temper that only pops out about once a year. It is like he's a different person so you don't know what to do when it happens. This time he is just going the REALLY silent treatment route.
The bad thing is it works! I wish I could just stay mad at him and ignore him but I can't. I HATE when someone in my family is mad about something. It just eats at me until I can figure out how to fix it.
Am I crazy?

 

[karajeboo]

No, not crazy, I'm the same way. Jeff and I can get in a fight and I ALWAYS end up apologizing, even if he's wrong. I just try to keep the peace that way. But it ticks me off!

Seriously, how much will you use a snow mobile???

 

[Debbie6221]

No, not crazy, I'm the same way. Jeff and I can get in a fight and I ALWAYS end up apologizing, even if he's wrong. I just try to keep the peace that way. But it ticks me off!

Seriously, how much will you use a snow mobile???

THAT'S ME FOR SURE!!!!

The snow mobile is to use in Wisconsin. The problem is I DO NOT WANT MY KIDS ON IT!

Off to walk the dog but I will be back.

 

[Debbie6221]

My baby girl is eating luch in the lunch room for the 1st time ever RIGHT NOW!
Yes, Laura it is all day and even though I taught all day and respect ALL the reasons for it, I did NOT want her going all day!

 

[CRdisMom]

Debbie-

I'm sorry to hear Elizabeth had a hard time. My Beth did too that first day. I think some of the tears were for show though because when she got off the bus that first day she was radiating fun. She'll have tons of stories to share with you.

From one snowmobile widow... this too shall pass. Tim loves his sled. We haven't had enough snow for him to ride it. We can just keep our fingers crossed that it is that way again this year. I have one too. I have an old Polaris (1992) that is a 2 up. We have gone on wonderful family rides. I also was terrified that someone was going to die on the stupid thing. Well I guess I was justified when Tim broke his back but since then only day time rides and no going to bars, anyway I have seen lots of Wisconsin on my sled.

I'm sorry he's giving you the silent treatment. They really know how to play dirty when they want too. Mom's can really add that special ingrediant to the mix too. Tim and my mom are exactly alike. So when they get mad at each other it is like oil and water. I wish I could give you the magical words to make it all better. I'd say just be as nice as you possibly can to him and ignore any talk of the sled on the trip.

 

[Debbie6221]

Thanks Laura!
I really wish Mark would see that it is about me being deathly afraid of them and not me not wanting him to buy a toy.

My Mom and Mark don't see it at all but they have a lot in common and they also don't see how I cater to the both of them in the same manner. It's always funny to me when my Mom will say things like you don't say enough to him..." or he's so stubborn. I just laugh inside! I bite my tongue with her constantly and my Mom never backs down when she is mad. I love her..I love him...it's just hard when something like this comes up and I am right in the middle.

 

[CRdisMom]

I would put some ground rules in place before winter. here are some of mine....

1. NO DRINKING and riding
2. the girls are not to go on a sled without a helmet.
3. Rides must be slow and reasonable (this is tough when beth is screaming to go faster)
4. Riding must be done in daylight hours.

good luck!

 

[karajeboo]

Laura, those rules sound TOTALLY reasonable... and wise!

Just curious, but what makes them so dangerous? I've never been around one, and probably won't anytime soon, our snow season is prettty short here!

 

[Debbie6221]

I would put some ground rules in place before winter. here are some of mine....

1. NO DRINKING and riding
2. the girls are not to go on a sled without a helmet.
3. Rides must be slow and reasonable (this is tough when beth is screaming to go faster)
4. Riding must be done in daylight hours.


Thanks Laura!
I think I promised my Mom my kids would never go on them!

Laura, those rules sound TOTALLY reasonable... and wise!

Just curious, but what makes them so dangerous? I've never been around one, and probably won't anytime soon, our snow season is prettty short here!

They are huge and they can tip over and land on the riders. AND they can crash! Plus, I know a family who's family followed each other right into a hole in the lake and they all died!!!!

 

[Debbie6221]

I better go do something!
I told myself a half hour at 10:30 and now it's 12:30!
You guys are my perfect distraction when I am stressed!